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Name: nita
Country: India
Comment:
i belong to a remote village in india.. Here the very pitiful truth existing is that boys are very much preferred to girls.. Even just outside the labour room relatives scold the woman for giving birth to a baby girl.. i personally have seen this not once but many times..We talk a lot abt woman freedom, women uupliftment etc etc but the fate of common girlchild in india is same.. the real truth is really painful

Name: piyali
Country: India
Comment:
i feel there isnt any difference between a boy or a girl. each is an individual.. and there are individual differences. its sad that we generalise...

Name: priya
Country: Hong Kong
Comment:
i really believe that daugthers are carrying more than sons

Name: SK
Country: India
Comment:
Comment to Navanit - agree 100% on what you said. A girl is not the only one who moves out -also a girl does look after her parents as much a boy does. How many people boys dtay in a joint family these days anyway? I know my parents will not encourage my brother to stay with them if he were to move to the same city as they! My parents will leave it to them because everyonbe (son or daughter) needs their space. As for duty tol ook after parents - both are equally responsible for that!

Name: SS
Country: India
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To Painful heart - If her husband is supportive, then I think an effort needs to be made so he realizes that what his parents are doing is WRONG!! Why can't they move to a different house? I am not saying they should break all relationship with his premnts - but why can't they live sepaartely? That will give more peace of mind and you will be happy too. If the husband is unsupportive, then I think the whole issue needs to be resvisited - and marriage counseling needs to take place. A girl CANNOT give up her parents after marriage - and I don't believe this is reason enough to want a son! I can tell you, that even though I have a brother, my parents split time between us and are very welcome at my place as well.

Name: SK
Country: India
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I personally think Sons and daughters are equal - but I disagree on on of the points here by "Lady" who said responsibilities for a daughter end after she gets married! I believe it is the same for a boy or a girl. We do NOT wash our hands off a girls because she is married..I also believe it is as much a daughter's duty to take care of her parents in their old age as boys.

Name: Palak
Country: India
Comment:
Being an educated person from a reputed university, i really find it silly to fight on this irrelevant topic although it is widely prevalent in the Indian society. The only issue that worries me is the safety of a girl child and here it is more imp. to realise that we will be hurt badly if our daughters are victims to eve teasing and harrasment, but won't we be equally traumatizd if our sons are the culprits. so it is better not to fight on having a girl or a boy but to inculcate values in our children so that they come out to be better human beings and make this society a better place to live in.

Name: whatever
Country: U.S.A.
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I never cared whether I had a daughter or a son. My husband used to say that as well.. we had a love marriage and we both kinda overcame the resistance from our families to get married (I mention this here to emphasize: on us being "liberal"??) I now have two daughters(a 2 yr old and a 5 month old) and my husband almost went into depression for not having a boy the second time around. He used to say all the mushy things already mentioned in the article and in the comments here and that he really did not care..I still do not get it..it would have been good if I had one of each so that I could enjoy both but I have no regrets whatsoever. My husband's behaviour almost got me into thinking like him.. What I mean to say here is that talking about "Preferring to have girls" Vs "Actually having girls" is totally different and I feel most of the people are hypocrites. Just my 2 cents here, I am not pointing at anyone.

Name: Dhivya
Country: India
Comment:
My taught is daughters are more carying than saons.bacause many of boys are only enjoyed in environment.not a self-obedient.

Name: madhu jain
Country: India
Comment:
girls in compared to boys are very good THEY HAVE SOFT TOUCH WITH THEIR PARENTS BOTH GIRL AND BOY TODAY ARE ON SAME WORKING PLATFORM BUT STILL GIRLS CARE MORE AND HAVE MORE GRATIDUTE FOR THEIR PARENT SO WE SHOULD ENCOURAGE GIRLS AND GIVE THEM ALLGOOD FACILITIES BECAUCE THEY CONTINUE THE NAMES OF TO FAMILIES

Name: Lady
Country: India
Comment:
I really feel that having daughter is a great thing for a woman.. as she can in a way gets friend at home U can not actually ask to rub your back to your son but yes u can if u have a daughter And for a father also... when he comes back from office and sits on sofa.. the daughter is the one who will bring water for him.. in most of the cases... not the son And now a days when in india not everyone is having a good pension paid job .. he/she has to save for their old age.. its preferable to have daughter as when u perform her wedding and then u r almost free from your responsibility but in case of a son.. yes u have to take care of his kids.. help him to buy a home and all these stuff... This i m telling from our communities experience where son needs more attention and money than a daughter.

Name: Indu
Country: India
Comment:
we should be very proud to have girls who carry on our generation

Name: Mrs.Prasad
Country: India
Comment:
When my daughter was 3 I had a stillborn baby boy whom I still miss a lot. But after another 2 years I had another baby, a girl and she has to a large extent filled up the loss of my son. I now have 2 daughters, 10 & 4 and they are the apple of my eyes. But it is sad to see that when I mention this to some people, they sympathise with me more because I have lost a boy and this saddens me more than the loss itself. What makes them think I would have grieved any lesser if it was a girl I had lost?

Name: shilpa arora
Country: India
Comment:
i wanted a daughter because my husband and in laws wanted a male child. by gods grace i have a lovely little princess in my arms.thank you god for the most beautiful gift i've ever received.

Name: Bharat
Country: India
Comment:
We have two kids, ealder daughter and youngr son. one day my wife asked me that, you are more attached to your daughter and pay very less attension to son, how do you grade them? i said they both are equal to me and they are like moon and shukratara(north star)now you decide who is who? any way, anyhow both of them butifies the night with their glitter.

Name: RANJU
Country: India
Comment:
true that daughters are more caring then sons, but sons r also equally emotional, its only that they have duty towards their wifes, and family, we fell they r neglecting their parents.both sons and daughters have their own life, both r carig towards parents ,i beleve

Name: Debjani
Country: India
Comment:
I have a son and a daughter. Both are equally to me. They are my pieces of heart.

Name: nilam
Country: Singapore
Comment:
it doesnt really matter, wethere you have a boy or girl. they are both loving in their own sweet ways. my son loves me so much, and i would definatley want a girl to complete the family. i read so many of them saying that daughters are more caring and loving, and that they support the family even after marriage. this is from your point, the same thing if you see as a mother in law, u will say that she is the reason why ur son has gone far from you..if a daughter can give warmth to the family, the same daughter can give the same warmth to her husbands family, we have to change our thinking for this issue, DAUGHTER OR DAUGHTER IN LAW. if we treat our daughter in law like our own daughter then there is no question that your son will ever leave you and go, like ur husbands have a responsibility towards u and ur children, same ur son has responsibilities...so mothers, first try to stop the difference between daughter and daughter in law, the girland boy preferance will fade away...so mothers enjoy your timewith your children..and give them all the good eithics they need to be better human beings...

Name: Mrs Kamath
Country: India
Comment:
I am a mother of 16 year old boy and he is the only child. I am so proud of being a mother to him, he has bought lot of happiness into our lives. He has made us proud where ever we go with his versatality and compassion towards his fellow beings. I have received compliments from his teachers for bringing up such a wonderful boy who is sensible and compassionate. We share a lot of good times together. Now the question raises what about after his marriage? I am sure what ever happiness I have to draw I will still continue drawing since he is a good humanbeing and truth will remain that I have brought him up and he is my son. I strongly believe if you are good your daughter in law will also be good to you. Now a days most of the parents are financially independent and they no more look forward to financial support from their children. Having a son proved to be a great experience for me so far. I am looking forward to having a daughter...in my Daughter in law.

Name: monalisa
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
am a mother of 2 girls.one is 6 and another is 6 months.It doesn't matter for us but sometimes relatives and other people try to give their openion about this.Children are God's blessing and nobody has the right to differentiate between a boy and a girl.

Name: seema
Country: India
Comment:
sons have to complete their duties towards aged parents. even our society pressures them to do it. on contrary it doesnt happen with daughters. daughters they learn alot etc etc but when time comes they never support their parents. they too strongly point to son or brother to fulfil it. it's my experience.

Name: AK
Country: India
Comment:
Eventhough I support of having dauaghter than son, I also would like to give another persecptive. One of the reasons is in old age money will not matter for parents.If they have to depend on Daughter, her husband should also supportive. Otherwise, old parents will have tremendous issue. This is one of the prime reasons why parents want sons. You can also argue that Son's wife should also support. But this can be managed than the earlier one. At the end Daughaters are more loyal even after marraige but Sons change very easily by wife's influence

Name: sarika
Country: Kuwait
Comment:
I have read the article and all the comments on this page. Really Ican see how society thinks. I completely agree with sheeta's comment from Singapore

Name: Anuradha
Country: India
Comment:
I have two daughter, age 9&3. Me and my husbend are very happy.It doesnot matter.In this days girls are more inteligent, smart and affectionate.It depends on how you will raise the kids with affection,love.

Name: shreetia
Country: Singapore
Comment:
I am due in a copule of months time . . I want a surprise and boy or girl dosent make a diff. I believe that if I bring up my child with love and affection I will get it back inreturn also . All I want is a healthy and happy baby .

Name: mom2girls
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
It really doesn't matter if you have a son or daughter. What matters is how much you love them and how you raise them to be self-sufficient human beings. As for them taking care of elderly parents, both Sons and Daughters are known to take care of their parents along with their in-laws. Just be blessed knowing that you have a healthy, intelligent, loving child. So many parents are not blessed with such a gift.

Name: mollusc
Country: India
Comment:
Society man cuz look genetically boys and girls both contribute equally to passing on their family legacy. But some ppl are obsessed with carrying their family names like it matters and what not.

Name: R2I
Country: India
Comment:
Doesn't matter to me either. But I think raising a girl in USA is much tougher than raising a boy. Specially because of issues like teenage pregnancy. I am sure the parents of a boy wouldnt be so worried if he goes on a date. But the parents of a girl child will definitely be worried until she comes home safely.

Name: Madam
Country: India
Comment:
To be women and crave for boy chid is very deamoning to being a women. As women we should understand that in today's context a boy or a girl does not make a difference. There are people who still beleive that a boy will look after them in old age and is responsible for the family tree. Being a women, the very thought makes me feel uncomfortable and stupid. How can an educated , 20th century women be a part of all this stupid and meaning less thinks. As mothers we should be opne to a boy or a girl. As women I think it is our duty to educate the society that a girl is equal to boy in all ways. It is only by our actions and conviction that we can make a difference.

Name: ranju
Country: India
Comment:
yes i do agree that doters r the most lovable ones.i have 3 lovely grown up doter. they take good care of our family. no regrets.my eldest one is expecting a baby this month. i am praying to GOD for a lovely GRAND DAUGHTER.

Name: fori
Country: Switzerland
Comment:
I have a daughter and i was crazy about having a baby girl. we fight like freinds, she means so much to me and my husband. I just didnt want to go for a second child. But people say that its for ur first child. they will feel alone , so u should go for second child. And i m worried that if i have a son..definately we will love him and raise him equally. But will there be love between the brother and sister. As, sister-sister are always close to eachother. But hardly i have seen the same closeness and love when they get older and married. Usually bro-sis fight with each other over silly things all the time. So i m just wondering, whether i should go for a second child and take a chance....?

Name: sm1111
Country: India
Comment:
i would like to have a girl as my first child after my marriage.

Name: somy
Country: India
Comment:
i have two girls.From my point of view boys and girls are equal importance. after marriage boys have to take care of his wife and children. so he will get lightly detached from thier parents. It never means that he forget his parents or not loving his parenets. it is happenings because of his situations. After marrige girls could not love their inlaws as they love their parents and inlaws also never love their daughter inlaws as they love their own daughters. So they love their own parents more. if we are taking these two points boys and girls are same importnace.

Name: adithi
Country: France
Comment:
i have a 2 and a half yr old son. i am pregnant and i cant tell u how much i have been wishing for a girl. of course like so many of u have said, it doesnt really matter... but i have found out the gender, and its a boy again... since the day i knew, i havent been able to stop crying. my son is really an angel, hes adorable, so i know that boys can be fun as well, but somehow the disappointment just doesnt leave me... has anyone been thru this before?

Name: Navanit
Country: Canada
Comment:
A child is always a piece of his/her parent's heart. You feel the same happiness when these little miracles smile and you feel the same pain when they are hurt. I don't think one should prefer one over other. Shame on those who say they wanted a boy over a girl just because they feel they are better placed in society if they have a boy.I guess this preference is because of the society and illiteracy primarily is to be blamed. Because as they say daughters have to leave home when they get married and sons are supposed to look after their parents. But tell me how many sons today live with their parents. Don't sons move out today to get better jobs. Well my husband did. May be thats why when ever I asked him if he wants a girl or boy, he said, "It doestn't matter. They both will move out of the house one day and we will be left to take care of each other. So when they will leave us one day why crave for one more than other. I just want my kid to be healthy and smart." Don't you feel the same way.

Name: Zohra
Country: South Africa
Comment:
In today's time I don't think it really matters whether you have a son or a daughter. The time to enjoy kids is while they are growing up in your house. Once they leave home for further studies or get married they are independent individuals and live their own life. So we must enjoy our children every day of our lives and spend quality time with them...not worry about their gender.

Name: pl
Country: India
Comment:
Message is for a painful heart. The situation which you described may not be true in all cases. Even if you have sons they may go behind their wife and can stop complete communication to parents. So having a boy will definitely solve this problem. there are many girls nowadays who looks after their parents even though they are married or may be staying in joint family. so please do not make your heart painful. Leave the life to its fullest...

Name: painful heart
Country: India
Comment:
my daughter is a software engineer her husband is also . she can stand for her self but this will cost her her marriage and no parent would want to be the cause of daughters divorce ,her inlaws side has insecurity that may be she will be close to us as we have no other kids . one more thing ...here i see people who already have son to be craving for daughters but ask those who have 2 or more daughters and who are in our age it take a life long experience to reaslise this bitter truth

Name: Nick
Country: United Kingdom
Comment:
This debate demeans us all. One couple may, even spend millions to, get a boy. When he grows up, the parent will need a girl for him to marry. Boys and girls are needed in exactly equal measure. Those who show a preference do so out of ignorance of facts.

Name: Maya
Country: India
Comment:
Nice topic. Even I am crazy about a baby girl . I love them so much . I have a son but my craving for a baby girl can not be expressed in words. Maya

Name: shobha
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
To painful heart,india. Is it a love marriage or something else issue. Your daugher should stand up, she can take help of her husband. if he is not supporting then she should be firm. On phone she can definitely talk. if that is not the case then please visit her place and check if everything is ok. Even if she is not allowed to talk but if she is happy then you will be realxed.

Name: ad
Country: India
Comment:
I am mother to my only little son,who has brought so much of happiness to both of us, Child is a child whether its boy or girl. it all depends on how well they are raised.

Name: painful heart
Country: India
Comment:
i have only one daughter and i loved her a lot and shared a special bond with her but since threeyears i talk to her only once a month her inlaws and husband doesnt want her to have any relation ship with us,she has visited us only twice i was one among you but now i know yy this world wants son ..i wish i had one

Name: sweet mom
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
To maria from india.what is wrong in savitha from oman's statement?please clarify.

Name: geana
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
I have always wanted a daughter of my own , to dress her pretty and grow her hair in curls, and later to have a mom * daughter relationship, but i have two sons ages 15 & 5 and they are handsome and very smart and we have bonded like i never thought possible!!.It depends on how you raise them!!

Name: maira
Country: India
Comment:
To Savitha from Oman, Please dont make such random statements, u are only displaying your lack of knowledge and understanding of what is going on in the world today.

Name: we
Country: India
Comment:
i have 2sons. it is not bcoz iam saying this. how far be the time going son seems to bepreffered by each person,even though they wouldnot take care of them as daughtes does..

Name: Sneha
Country: U.A.E.
Comment:
I have a daughter aged 4. I am the most luckiest and the happiest mom!!! Daughters share a special bond with their mother!!

Name: gk
Country: India
Comment:
I always prefer a girl over boy. Because they are more caring, understanding by nature. A mother can share lot of things with a girl rather than with a boy

Name: shilpa
Country: United Kingdom
Comment:
i have 2 sons. i am a very proud parent. but i always wanted a girl. but it does not matter. i am very happy now.

Name: savitha
Country: Oman
Comment:
how does it matter? kids r kids n will always be loved by parents whether boy or girl:-/

Name: Mum
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
I have only one sone , A boy and say that I am proud to be his mum . I would have treated him no differently if he was a girl .

Name: amma
Country: India
Comment:
i love my kids equaly.i just want them to grow up as good human being.i will never differentiate them.

Name: sweet mom
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
I have a son and a daughter.till now i never differntiated them.because i had the same pain and happiness being pregnant and delivering them.my mom or my mil also never differntiated between their sons and daughters.

Name: sspg
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
Doesn't matter

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