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Rewarding Children

Rewarding Children

Use of rewards in children helps in cultivating good habits. It makes the disciplining process easier. Read on to know about the type of rewards and ways to decide on rewards.

Rewarding is a part of the process of disciplining children. For parents and teachers alike, it is a skill that is worth learning. Let us make this clear at the onset that rewards should not be viewed as the opposite of punishment.

The objective of disciplining should be clear, it is teaching the child about what is right and wrong. They should also know how they are different along with the fact that why being good is desirable and beneficial to our well being. Rewards feature in this disciplining activity as a mark of recognition that the child has been very prompt in understanding and putting the disciplining lessons into practice.

How Would you Decide on Rewards for Children?

Following are some basic criteria for rewarding children.

Check Whether Your Child is Being Good –

Rewards act as motivation prompting and encouraging the kid to further improve his behaviour. Pay more attention to your kid when you find him doing something really good. An encouraging smile, a verbal compliment or an affectionate hug can go a long way in motivating the kid and making him feel happy.

Positive Behaviour Calls for Rewards –

Always make sure that you let your satisfaction or pleasure known when you find the kid doing something good and his behaviour is really fine. Tell him how pleased you are when you find him using terms like “please”, “thank you” or “excuse me”. If the kid feels that they catch your attention only when they are behaving badly and all their good behaviour is overlooked, then they might think that it is better to behave badly as they can then have your attention. Remember, kids are crazy attention seekers.

The Goals Set by You Must be Realistic –

Make sure that the goals you set for the kids are attainable. If you ask your kid to clean up the room, it is not an achievable target. He or she might well fail in it. Instead, if you ask her to pick and place her toys back into the toy basket. It is an achievable task. Once done neatly, you can reward the little one.

Rewards for Children

Now let us check on what could be the type of rewards:

  • A family trip to the park.
  • An extra play hour with friends.
  • Dining out.
  • Presenting a collection of his favourite comic strips.
  • Choosing to watch his favourite show on television.
  • Renting a video game or going for a movie.
  • Camping in the backyard or picnic.
  • Ordering a pizza.
  • Getting a special haircut.
  • Going to school in the family car for a day.

The rewards can be bog or ‘mall’ depending on a lot of factors. The intent is simply to make the kid feel rewarded and happy. As a parent you would know better about what are the things that make your little one ecstatic. Use them as rewards, while at the same time you must also ensure that the habits or things that you are promoting as rewards are indeed beneficial to the development of the kid. That is, they are helping the kid in cultivating good habits or teaching him something worthwhile in the process, or it is beneficial to the kid’s health.




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Claire
Claire.12 years ago
You can nurture your child's sense of internal satisfaction with rewards, but they should be logically connected to the behavior. Giving a child a cookie for helping to clean up his toys is not very useful. However, reading him another book because he didn't try to stall at bedtime shows him that favorable things happen when you cooperate, take on responsibility, and exercise sound judgment.
 
 
 
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Macy Stiller
Macy Stiller.12 years ago
Rewarding every time for a good deed is not a good idea. Children begin to expect rewards for even the smallest tasks; when they don't receive...
 
 
 
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Cynthia
Cynthia.12 years ago
Most of us have grappled... with the issue of rewards when struggling to get our children to cooperate and be well behaved. Should I always give him a reward for good behavior?
 
 
 
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