Views on Article - Problem Teens Name: Suggested Solution Country: U.S.A. Comment: As a parenting councellor I have to give you the following suggestion . You have to sit down and camly talk to your ex-husband about the issue . Meet at yours or his house as such linien should not be washed in public . Even if your ex-husband dosen't keep his cool you should . You should begin with a discussion of 'our son' after all respect the fact that he is the boys father . I often get mums who tell mr 'I gave birth to him , he was in my stomach for nine months erc ' let me emphasise that it is all crap. the boy has a father and both you and he should respect that . Removing or completely cutting ties with his dad is thus NOT THE SOLUTION ! alk to your son on the day he gets back on one of the stay over occasions and see what he and his dad do together . Ask what he enjoyed and what they talked about . Remember you are not being a gossip or an evesdrop . you are merely enquiring about it . Tell your ex-husband in a tactful and concise way of whats going wrong . shell some problems that you face parenting and tell him to talk to your son on these issues . Don't give up believe that every problem has a solution and I wish you all the best . Name: Doone Country: usa Comment: I'm a single mother. My ex-husband refuses to take any responsibility in my son's upbringing. He's a fantasy dad. Every time my son comes home from his Dad's house, I have to re-program him. My son also acts up before he goes to his Dad's house because he knows that I can't enforce discipline on the weekend when he's with his dad. It is very difficult to raise my son when I have his dad undermining my every move. There is just no consistantcy in his life. I'm at a total loss as how to raise my son with his dad in the equation, messing it all up.
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