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Name: SARTHAK
Country: India
Comment:
CHILDREN SHOULD BE BEATEN

Name: Matt
Country: U.S.A.
Comment:
Hitting your child with any instrument but a hand is a bit over the top. The spanking or discipline should always be within seconds of what ever they are being punished for doing. This increases the cognitive connection to right and wrong. Spanking your child for misbehaving at the sitters with a spanking will rarely translate to better behavior. I don't agree that a spanking is bad or wrong. A child is a tender little person and it is easy to go overboard. It could be simply stated that letting a young child of two or three or even four or five make you spank a child in anger is wrong. That is where understanding comes in. Explain what is wrong and have clear expectations and be consistent. Your child will learn and behave as you expect every time. Think about it. Do you find your child playing with gasoline and matches? No, simply because they know that they are never allowed to do so, but also because they know that serious pain could follow if they were to start a fire. On the other hand a child who knows that 60% of the time they can ride their bike in the road without getting yelled at by mom or dad will do it and accept that they will some times pay the price with punishment. The child accepts the risk of danger in the road from oncoming traffic and getting yelled at or spanked because the message and consequence of their actions are inconsistent. Both the inherent danger of being struck by a car or getting in trouble by mom or dad is inconsistent. Just my thoughts on the matter.

Name: jas
Country: India
Comment:
spanking is right bt certain times when crossed limits then may harm the mentality of a child. the flawlessness of its mind may be harmed.

Name: farahana
Country: India
Comment:
no students beaten would be wrong

Name: Connie
Country: India
Comment:
I agree with Rita. Once in a while slight beatings are necessary to discipline the child. If we love them even when they are wrong they take it for granted & this may also lead to bigger crimes in their latter life if they never get a punishment. But beating should be very rare & only for grave mistakes. Later the parent should explain why they had to beat so the child understands not to repeat such mistakes. Love & discipline should be in correct proportion. Beatings should not be a regular occurance specially if a parent is stressed. If the child repeatedly wrongs then both parent & child should sit & talk it over or the parent should take help from a common friend/relative to help the child.

Name: sharri
Country: Canada
Comment:
hol -the things you said are right my father has not been around and i`m not in contact with him ,but that`s the way my mother was brought up is by getting hit with the belt,sticks,wire whatever her parents use.she said she love her parents,but i think its abuse,she`s from the st.vincent and the grenadines its close to barbados,she said that we don`t get it as bad as people in her country b/c alot of people soak their lether belts in animals urine, so that it would hurt more when they beat thier kids, and she said that her parents didn`t belive in that but who cares, what they do is still bad,when i was small i heard that a kid from my country misbehave so that person`s mother took him to my mother`s country to beat the hell out of the kid b/c its not allowed in canada.i find it strange that the time my father(lives in newyork) use to visit me 1 in every 2-3 years i always felt closer to him then my mother b/c he never hit me in his life. my father does not know how to love,when he was 4 he was beaten badly by his aunt on his head in st.vincent and the grenadines so his mother took him out of her care, and his mother doesn`t care much about him,and he only met his father once b/c his bothers and sisters all have diff fathers on his mothers side,he also has siblings on his father side, i think he has about 18 siblings in all.now he has a coldness in his face which is scary.writing a letter to my mom won`t help she always mentions what God said ''don`t spare the rod and spoil the child''then i have to tell her that God also said ''parents do not provoke your children..''she ignores that. i think b/c of the beatings why i don`t like to be touch,like getting a hand shake or a hug from someone,its hard to visit a doctors office.this went on for years and i still didn`t get any help, my mom had a big arguement with me b/c i want to see a special counseler, she belives in asking God for help only.in highschool she also refuse for me to see one,and i was very suicidal at the time.

Name: Shweta
Country: India
Comment:
It all depends on the personality of the child. On some children, time out works, while with others, grounding them works.You may be able to sit down and talk about the situation with some of them. Raising your hand is abuse. Respect them and understand them as much as you love them.So, raising your hand is an absolute NO... NO....

Name: hol
Country: Australia
Comment:
I think your mum loves you dearly,however she had no right to treat you and your sister like that.that is abuse.It sounds to me that your dad hasnt been around, and your mum has had a tough time?I think maybe shes lonley and stressed,try talking to her,or when i want someone ot know somehing,but they wont let you speak,try writing her a letter,saying what she does that makes you feel the way you do,and what you feel.

Name: Mrudula
Country: India
Comment:
Hitting the child rarely is good way of disciplining him. If you hit him every now and then, the value and seriousness of the punishment decreases.

Name: no hitting
Country: Singapore
Comment:
In Singapore corpral punishmentt means that the offender is caned . The bumber of strokes varying directly with the seriousness of the offence. I as a parent living in such a society have made a resoultion never to hit my two yer old son . Whatever my son does is only a very petty crime when compared to what a criminal does . So ehy should I treat him like a criminal when he dosent even understand what one is ? . Both me and my husband recall being spanked when we were little and regret the reasons for them. However I see that many people yell at their kids = put them in the court when they do domething wrong. Kids may be naughty , but they vertianlly donot have a criminal mind

Name: sweety
Country: India
Comment:
I do not think by hitting we can teach discipline to a child. If we hit often they do not understand the meaning behind it. My parents hit me only 3 times in my childhood but I still remember why they hit me and I never did that mistake again in my whole life. So according to me we should never hit a child unless otherwise there is a serious issue.

Name: Kinnary
Country: India
Comment:
I feel that every relationship has its own limits and bounds. The only relationship which is not based on any give and take is that of a parent and a child. At the root of every problem and the solution that we as adults think is perfect, there is some reasoning involved. Especially with children whose sense of self importance, self respect, self confidence is still on a very thin thread, it is extremely important that we stop and think how our each and every action is going to affect our child. I feel hitting the child is not going to achieve anything more than guilt for us and temper tantrums all around. Reason works best with children. They are assured and confident that their parents are willing to listen and weigh all that they have to say. In the long run it will teach them to deal with a lot of situations that life throws their way with responsibility and maturity.

Name: Tony S
Country: India
Comment:
Spanking once in a while needs to be done in order to discipline the child otherwise they will sit on the parents' heads..... But u need to define this 'once in a while' timing !

Name: sumi
Country: India
Comment:
The parent should never ever hit the child and love could do all the work..evan after reaching the age of 25 your kid should be able to share anything with you and should be ready to get suggestions and advice from you....you must tell him\her what is right and wrong.....this will not happen if the kid is in fear of telling you anything wrong..never ever hit the child

Name: Hanna
Country: Canada
Comment:
I am a Montessori Teacher as well a mother myself. I don't think it is a good idea to hit your children because it is not good for them and it is not good for your relationship with your children if they live in fear. We want our children to be open with us and be able to confide in us and seek advise, if they grow up with fear they will never be able to have an open relationship. Children can drive you up the wall and with busy lifestyles we as parents can get frustrated but I still think it is not good to hit your child. For e.g. in this article the author says that her father hit her for using a bad word she had heard and tries to repeat. It was not necessary, if the father had just told her assertively that is a bad word and we don't speak like that the child would not have repeated it again. Children are much more intelligent and good at remembering things than we adults think! That's just my 2 cents.

Name: rita
Country: India
Comment:
i think once in a while its ok to hit your child, but very rarely. as long as u shower ur child with love most of the time, light spanking to discipline him will not hurt.

Name: sharri
Country: Canada
Comment:
i don`t believe that parents should hit thier child but if they must do it,they should hit them on thier butts only and not thier faces,they should hit them only to the age of 5,i told my friends in highschool when i was 17,i`m now 21 that my mom beat me with the belt before,they say that`s abuse. when we are in an argument she always says i`ll slap you or something which is abusive.i didn`t stand up in a christian church b/c they weren`t saying a christian song.my mom said i should of get up and i said that i`m 20 years old and that i should make my own choices,i heard she tell someone on the phone what i said and she also tell them well i`ll give her 20 boxes as a joke or something, she hit me on the hand a month ago so i hit her back and she said that she won`t hit me again b/c i`could go to hell for hitting her back,but i want respect in another way, always tell her don`t try to hit me.the way she displine me and my sister for years seems like abuse.i remember the day that my sister and her were rolling on the bed fighting, my younger sister was 17 ,and my mother said you think you are a women so i`ll treat you like a women do you think that`s disapline?my mother said they way she displine us isn``t abuse ,and she think she`s right she doesn`t understand why i have a grudge towards her.should kids be in fear? in highschool and even now i always have to be on guard if she`ll hit me for something she does not agree with. opinions please

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