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Name: DESERIE
Country: India
Comment:
Watch Monsoon Wedding to get a taste of things

Name: vani kantli
Country: India
Comment:
i want to share one case with the parents who have children not only girls or adoloscents but also a one year old child. every child is opportunity for the abuser. even 9 month old girl being abused sexually by her own father, nearest relatives is reported in our org. if u r sending ur child to preschool also be aware about the abuser can be a cab driver

Name: Askios
Country: india
Comment:
Good article with info on long term effects of child abuse .. felt your headline could have been titled accordingly. I'd like to put a link to this article on my website for adult survivors of child abuse, Askios. (Just google for "askios" to go there).

Name: troubled
Country: India
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my older brother is "evil incarnate" i faced this fact only last yr now i am 46yrs old. he always had evil eyes on me. later my little daughter bacame a victim. since my mother turned a blind eye to his evil and forced me to respect him any way, i could not protect my daughter. though i tried my best. even now, that she has made me realize his evil i am unable to confront him or my parents. i ahve told my sister but she is least symapathetic and protects him under pretext of "family".she has two sons so she is not afraid. my daughter wants me to do something concrete. like tell him that i am on to him. or tell the family/ have him jailed. i explained that wont help us because our whole society will come to know and u will be the sufferer.so now she fights with me over very little things as she feels i ahve betrayed her and i am an irresonsible mother/ useless. though i am very protective and devoted and loving. but with all my education i could not protect her. so what should i do now? how can i make her feel satisfied that justice has been done. i am a middle child and not at all assertive. my father trusts and values me a lot. i have looked after the family as though i was responsible for everyones welfare from a very early age. i have loved my parents and siblings very well. yet i am not recieving any support when my daughter needs help. how ironic. if i tell my husband he will do something concrete. should i? so far i have taken recourse to spiriyual methods(meditation). but i need a combination of spiritual and practical methods to put this evil ghost to rest once and foR all. if u know so much about the act of child abuse and write so well on its consequences u must have done some reading on SOLUTIONS AS WELL? IF U HAVE THEN PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO WRITE SOME HELPFUL ANSWERS.anyhting said against him will make my mother crazy. already she is bed ridden with diabetes angina arthritis adhesions and mental sadness as well. THANKS IN ADVANCE SAD MOTHER

Name: Joan
Country: USA
Comment:
Fantastic article. This is a very thorough, accurate, and relevant article about the realities of sexual abuse. I disagree with those who said that it should have focused more on the course of action to be taken; developing a deeper understanding of the problem is the first step toward helping victims and very few people have a deep understanding of this problem. This is probably the best article on sexual abuse, of this type, that I have ever read. Congratulations and thank you!

Name: Margo
Country: India
Comment:
Enlightening. Most parents don't realise the dangers until it is too late. One day your daughter is a chubby schoolgirl and before you realise it she is an adolescent and then a young adult. Somewhere along the line she has grown up and with all the different phases one does not know how or when to explain the rude facts of life. Often, by the time parents get around to it, children are all grown up and are amused that dad and mum have again missed the bus and they found out everything a long time back. The sad fact is that their information is often got from the wrong source.

Name: Liz
Country: India
Comment:
As someone else said, the article should tell more about the means to tackle the problem. Everyone knows that Sexual abuse is very much prevalent - so it is not a new fact. I myself am a victim of the same - so please let someone who knows about the subject write so that the Parents can protect their children from the vultures of our society

Name: Manu Bansal
Country: India
Comment:
This article went on explaining "what is sexual abuse". We know what is sexual abuse and what is the effect of it. Your article should concentrated on the topic, which if I may remind you was "How safe is your child from Sexual Abuse". I was expecting something on how to prevent it and how it happens

Name: Mukesh Pandya
Country: India
Comment:
Very good article. Let the children grow at their phase. If you are hungry of sex try full grown ladies. And you will find too. But atleast leave the children for the future. They are hope of future.

Name: a mom
Country: India
Comment:
please read -bitter choclate.a book by pinki virani....it could make us more responsible and cautious mothers

Name: PALESA
Country: Southafrica
Comment:
i HAVE BEEN SEARCHING THE NET FOR MY RESEARCH ON CULTURE AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE AND FOUND YOUR ARTICLE THOUGHT PROVOKING. I HAVE BEEN TOUCHED AND IMPRESSED WITH THE REDSPONSE YOU ARE GETTING FROM AFFECTED PEOPLE. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. I HOPE IT WILL BE ALRIGHT IF I USE YOUR ARTICLE IN MY LITERATURE REVIEW INCASE YOU NEED TO CONTACT ME

Name: innocentbabe
Country: India
Comment:
Very good article. I'm still fighting back the tears. I have always known I needed help but now I won't be afraid to ask. Thank you.

Name: Roselyn
Country: USA
Comment:
My name is Roselyn and I’m 22yrs old. I recall my childhood, at the age 10. I tend to have grown kind of fast, physically. And people I would look at as my father figure, they had other intentions in their mind, I was molested by 3-4 people by my own family-friends. Even my grandfather. I was very scared to talk about this, and kept on ignoring. I became overweight. But as I grew, I would get flash backs about my past. At age 19, I had my very first date (Sai), as nobody would want to go out with me since I was fat. Well, I was told he was 21, infact he was 27 which I found out 6 months later. On my first date he tried to go over the limit, I was careful, one week later, I got scared and confused, since he’s the only guy who ever had asked me out, ( I’ll do whatever he wants me to) so I let him, and then I got dumped the next day, ( this really hurt me a lot) 2-3 months later, we got back together again, He invited me over to his brothers house, I told Sai about everything and asked him what was going on that night, all he told me was that he doesn’t remember anything because he himself was drunk. ( he pretty much blamed me for this, and said that he forgave me though I believed him and stayed with him and as months passed by I was falling in love with him. But he was just using me which I already knew, but I didn’t want to let him go. We lasted 8mnths. I was very obsessed with him. Couldn’t move on, lost a lot of weight- from 163Ibs to 115Ibs in less than 2 months. I started purging, wasn’t eating. I’m still bulimic, but not as bad as before. I separated myself from my family and everyone else, I would just stay in my room, crying myself to sleep. I was alone for a little over 2yrs. Still not over him, but pretty much more focused about going to school and life. I got a job as a receptionist. Worked there for 6months, got promoted to Sales. I was always withdrawn from guys, who would want to go out with me, I just tell them no, even though I think they are nice or cute. I go up to a point of just flirting, but back off as soon as they ask me out. My boss, Mike 38yrs old, fell in love with me, ( I really didn’t like him at first) it took me a long time to get comfortable around him, We have a 17yrs age difference) He treated me like a princess, bought me expensive things, regardless of his feelings towards me, I couldn’t show him any affection. I was never excited or happy about anything. I very unthankful person. I was always rude and mad. I don’t know why? And because of my behavior I always wanted to break up with him, which eventually happened. After the breakup I realized that I really like him, he really touched my heart. He my mentor and inspiration. But it was too late, cuz he went and got an arrange marriage. My heart shattered into pieces when I heard this. I became more and more drifted away from everything. I even tried to hurt myself, didn’t feel like living, like there’s no future for me. I don’t have anymore feelings towards anyone, especially when it comes to guys. I kept going got myself on track. 7 months later. I started college, and I saw this one guy, Albert , handsome and smart. Really good looking. I would look at him from distance but never had the guts to say anything. I would be excited and happy to see him everyday I would go to school, even though I didn’t even knew his name! Talk about him all the time at work. ( I didn’t know that this guy was also interested in me) which I noticed couple weeks later, as he was the only thing on my mind. Its like someone at the back of my head was pressuring me to go talk to him. Then one day, I was walking on the hallway, hoping to get a glance of him, which I did! We talked and went out. It was like I met my soul mate) everything I wanted in a guy, he had it all. It was all great but only for 4 days. It was my fault, because I lied to him about Mike. Said that I never slept with him. Which Albert eventually found out. I felt horrible. I wanted to breakup again, so that at least it wont ruin our friendship. Its like a curse on me, am scared to be too happy in a relationship, cuz it always ends up in a disaster. But Albert was understanding and still gave me a chance. Its been a little over a month, we’ve been together now. I like spending time with him. But things are very weird right now., like I feel like I don’t know what to talk to him about. But he told me that the only thing he not okay with me is that I don’t show affection, that am cold, everything seem fake that I say or do to him. And its like I don’t know why one minute I have great time with him, and next am feel all down again. I don’t feel happy anymore, I fake it. And am always too moody and get mad, always negative, thinking negative about Albert and I. Its like am prepared to break-up, or if he does than I wont feel sad or be emotional about it, I think I am strong enough to get over this, just like my previous relationships. But my odd behavior is really coming in the way of my personal life. I want to change myself and be natural and be a fun person to be around. I really want to work it out, but just because of my personality its damaging our relationship. I sometime get so nervous that I don’t make any sense of what am saying or talking to him about. ( I feel stupid, dumb, and airhead). I don’t want to stress so much about all these, but its really affecting my work and school. Please advice me how I can start changing myself behavior around men. Lately, I get I irritated quickly, as my life’s already so busy “well I keep it busy” my day starts at 5am-11:30pm M-F. I hope this is not the reason why my personal life is getting effected, because im already so tired. I Don’t open up to anyone and people cant read my mind, even I myself don’t know my own self Please help me L Sincerely, Roselyn

Name: PETER FILE
Country: England
Comment:
I AGREE ENTIRELY WELL DONE!

Name: nikita
Country: Dubai
Comment:
sexual abuse is in itself a heinious crime and child sex abuse - unforgivable - in fact the culprit should be hung. one of the reasons why these take place is that the child knows nobody is going to believe in him/her because the culprit involved is somebody known - it is known worldwide that more sexual abuses are committed by people the victim knows rather than strangers - secondly, sex is such a taboo subject in our society, even in the educated class - let alone the uneducated rustic class, that the child thinks that her parents/guardian would just scold them for talking on such a subject and the torture goes on with the child bearing it silently. The only way to avoid this is to always take the child into confidence and also edcuate her/him as per her age. I have daughter and she goes to the creche after school - i get to see her after a long day but once we are together, i keep a very close watch on her, any mood fluctuations or depressions, i am very quick to react - i definitely have a close talk with her - not only that - children should always be told that if they do not like the behaviour of any particular aunty/uncle, teacher etc, they must come and tell you - you will not scold him/her, rather you will definitely see that the person does not bother the child anymore - they have nothing to fear in voicing their complaints - telling the child that we will always beleive him/her can be very assuring for the child. above all, the parents/guardian should understand one thing and be thoroughly aware of the fact that

Name: sri
Country: India
Comment:
one of the best article i have ever read

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