Tools to Succeed
Every parent wants to arm their children with tools to succeed. There is no single formula for success, however, there are certain traits many successful people have in common. Here's how you can inculcate them in your child.
Working with passion
Infuse your child with enthusiasm and passion. A person who is passionate about his work is sure to be a good worker and rise high. Such a person not only seems more interesting and alive to others, but also tends to out perform those who do their work without passion.
If your child is passionate about what he does, he will definitely shine, and what parent doesn't want their child to shine? However, passion is not something you can teach your child, although you can help your child discover her passion.
Does your child have any particular interests? Parents often force their children into extra curricular activities against their child's will. True, extra curricular activities to help all-around development, but instead of forcing your child into something he is not interested in, why not give your child a choice? Lay before your child various options, and let your child choose for himself what he would like to do. He is then more likely to enjoy the activity, than if you force it down his throat and hopes he starts liking it later on.
Having definite opinions
Have definite opinions about what is going on in the world. Voice these opinions regularly and teach your child to do the same. We see parents shrugging off voicing their opinions almost every day. If your child comes to you and asks you if she should wear her blue dress or pink dress, don't shrug and say both are nice. Look at them and give her an opinion. It doesn't matter if your child abides by your choice or not. However, it does help your child also to have definite opinions about topics.
Every manager has opinions about how things should be run. A manager with no opinions will not be able to make decisions. However, he should also get other opinions, and pay attention to them. No good leader has ever reached the top without taking other people's views into account, and being able to see things from another person's viewpoint.
When watching the news or even a movie, comment on it. Talk about the acting, direction, story line etc. Encourage your child's comments, and then place a viewpoint before her that she may not have considered. This will help her see things from different perspectives, and have respect for other viewpoints.
Knowing when you are wrong
Managers often make mistakes. A good manager is someone who doesn't insist on carrying on along a certain path out of sheer pride or to prove a point. He should be able to recognize a mistake, be the first to admit it, and have the courage to abandon a particular course of action. If you can teach your child to do this, it will be an important lesson he has learnt.
Children often find it hard to admit that they are wrong, and may keep arguing with you to prove a point. This is because when a child makes a mistake, parents often point it out perhaps a little aggressively, and at times, angrily. Instead of pointing out your child's mistake, question him about it. Tell him its not a big deal, but ask him if he thinks what he did was right. Go about it in a very subtle manner, and get him to admit his mistake without resorting to yelling at him. This may make him think you are being unreasonable, and he may even justify his mistake to himself – which is the last thing you want. Remember, you should aim that he admits his mistake not necessarily to you, but that he too should understand that he was wrong.
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