Pampering a grandchild can have both positive
and negative aspects. Pampering is a way of showering love and affection. It
has a positive impact if done in moderation and with right attitude. Fulfilling
all the whims and fancies of grandchild will lead them to take advantage of the
situation. Read on to know how grandchildren can be pampered constructively.
It is often found that grandparents tend to get extremely
hopeful the moment they receive the news that they will be greeted with a
grandchild. It is an occasion of tremendous joy for them as they prepare to
meet the next generation of their children. From the grandparentsâ€™ point of
view, it is an occasion that provides them with an opportunity to relive the
joys of childhood. When they became parents they had a lot of responsibilities
to deal with, like, they had to think about settling down in the desired manner
in society and building their careers side by side. But now at the fag end of
their life, they have mostly attained whatever they had wished for and now is
the time to relax. Grandchildren give them this chance and means to relax
Feelings of Grandparents
Grandparents want to make full use of this opportunity and
they derive immense joy by playing with their grandchildren, establishing a
bond of love with the child and all these are achieved by pampering the kids.
Pampering is a way to shower love and affection and in the process, feel loved
and wanted too. However, there are certain aspects that need to be taken care
of when you are thinking of means and ways to pamper your grandchild.
Being indulgent and showering love is a good thing and
perhaps comes naturally when you become a grandparent. The only point that you
need to keep in mind is that there is always a positive impact of your behaviour.
Often it is found that the kids fail to understand the importance of routine and
due to reckless indulgence on the part of their grandparents.
This might result in their subsequent reluctance to follow instructions and
obeying parents and teachers in school. Kids are somehow aware that
grandparents are always a treasure trove of love and affection and they tend to
take advantage of this emotion.
Help your grandchild to understand that you are ready to
shower him or her with all the love in this world, but at the same time he must
ensure that he is doing exactly what is expected of him. A grandparent is in
fact in the best position to help the child realise how important it is to follow
a certain routine in life.
Lead By Example
You can do this as you pamper your grandchild. There are a
number of ways in which you can pamper your grandchild. Make him his favourite
dessert or soup and as he sits down to enjoy it, strike up a friendly
conversation with him. Tell him a story or share an experience with him on how
it is required of someone to follow a correct
pattern of behaviour and activities. Remember, kids learn more by observing
than through preaching. So ensure that your grandchild does not come across a
rift between the two in you. Do not engage in any behaviour or activity that is
contrary to what you are teaching your grandchild.
This entails that while you pamper your grandchildren with
say gifts, you blend in all the possible positive aspects into it. This means
that you gift
your grandchild every second toy that are appearing on the shelves of the toy
store. Select your gifts with care. Ensure that there is either a lot of
emotion attached to it or there is a utilitarian aspect to it.
Grandparents love to pamper their grandchildren and
they think this as a means of showering love and affection. Most grandparents
feel as parents they were disciplinarian, now as grandparents they want to give
unconditional love to the grandchildren. They are at a financially secure stage
so are able to provide the gifts that parents may deem frivolous or
unnecessary. This may create a friction between them and the parents. Unmindful
pampering on the part of grandparents can spoil the grandchildren so it is better
to have a balance of love and discipline.