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    Warring siblings

    Many parents still believe in the myth that their children should naturally just get along, being loving, affectionate, and supportive of each other. However this is seldom a reality. My two kids fight like hell. They are always fighting over trivial issues. I am always acting like a referee. Is this the way siblings behave?

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    Where there is more than one child, there will be battles. You can prevent this rivalry by not having a favourite. Set aside time to spend with each child individually, so they don't feel like they're always competing for your attention. Lay down the rules of discipline such as no lies, no hitting or calling names.

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    Talk with them when they're calm about how they can compromise, share toys and take turns, and respect each other. Jump in if there's physical violence or other dangerous escalation, but otherwise, try not to intervene in your children' fights.

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    Try to prevent fights by observing the kinds of situations that start them and avoiding those situations. You should balance the responsibilities of the siblings. You should take care to treat each child as a separate person with his or her own unique, valuable skills rather than comparing them.

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    Agree with Sharmin

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    Hi, I totally understand what you are trying to say and each parent goes through this sibling war. It is important that the children understand that you are not being biased and not doing injustice with any of them. You can also talk to them and make them understand your logic which might help them increase their developmental skills and also feel that you are fair enough. Try to be equal to everything and if they complaint to you about other then give a valid reason which will be convincing. Treat both fair and no comparison between them.

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    It is important that you teach your kids self-management and each child should know how to handle his or her emotions and try to regulate them. Do not ever make the mistake of comparing your kids to each other or anyone else. Give attention to each child individually so that they don’t feel left out and kids love it when they get attention and feel loved. This can cause less fighting. Try to keep your kids busy and intervene so that they do not get bored and start fighting with each other.

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    As parents it is difficult to handle two kids at a time and when they fight it seems like impossible to stop them. Every kid needs their personal space and they should be given so that they don’t start fighting over small things. Kids do not like sharing their things especially with their siblings and this is one of the main reasons why siblings fight. If they share their room then make sure they have their individual spaces and corners so that fights are less. Avoid every possible situation which might create fights, while giving anything also give both of them equally or same.

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    Arushi Sahai's Avatar Member
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    Hello all, I know it is difficult to handle siblings when they fight. There are a few tips which you can use to help your children cope up with each other. Do not give the responsibility of your younger kid to your elder child, don’t force them to do things which they do not wish to. It is important that the kids are taught to negotiate and solve problems together. Help them to treat each other with respect and not to call each other with disrespectful names. I hope these few tips can help you tackle your kids.

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    Hey, coping up with children is difficult and managing them is next to impossible. It is important that you children as a team and they also feel as a team. Make them realise that team work always works and let them solve their problems on their own. Remember do not punish them if they are not listening and try to be stubborn. Never take sides as they might feel neglected. Avoid yelling and threatening the kids as children who are punished are more prone to get angry and more likely to fight with each other. Try to use positive disciplines and positive thoughts which may help children to strengthen their bond.

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