my husband enjoys hitting me during sex. sometimes he overdoes it and I have bruises for days. he is careful to make sure that the bruises are in places normally covered by clothes. i used to enjoy sex in the beginning when it was normal. now he only wants to hit me and make me cry. only then he gets satisfaction. he is otherwise a very loving and caring husband. i want to talk to him about it but i worry that because it seems like he only enjoys sex when he is hitting me, he will decide to leave me or get very angry. should i talk to him about it or just let him continue hitting me? is it normal for men to get turned on by hurting women?