My son is 8 years old and his behavior had changed a lot in one year. Today we found that his blazer has some yellow color paint and told him he has to wear sweater instead of blazer. Also told since you went to the 'Art room' it must had happened from there. Then he had started claiming that he didn't do that. We agreed on the same, it had happened accidentally. After this talk he had started complaining that you both are always like this and you told get out, you beat me/you pinched me..we do punish him very rarely. Without remembering why did we punish him he is repeating the same sentences every now and then with exaggeration. How to make him understand how to talk to parents with respect? How can he control his anger?
what was his excuse for the paint? If he said that I havent gone into the art room, then did you ask him if he had any way of explaining those yellow drops on his blazer..?
what was his reply?
if he is silent and thinking of what to answer, you can encourage honestly by telling him that its ok if it was a mistake, but next time it would be better if he could take a little more care and ensure that he does not go into the art room in his good clothes to prevent accidents.
an 8 year old kid will think that he is very old and mature but still his parents are insisting on treating him like a child. instead of hitting/pinching (which should be left for more serious mistakes), you should insist on having a talk with him every time he misbehaves. treat him like an adult and ask him to explain his behaviour always. when he realises that he has no excuse for his misbehaviour, he will grow as an individual. treat him like an adult, and give him a chance to make his own decisions. this truly helps in their upbringing.
treat them like immature kids and they will behave like that.
There are many times when you can see different behaviours of the children. Parents tend to get confused that why is the child behaving differently every time. Some children have anger issues and cannot control it. Some children have habit of lying to their parents, some children do not listen to their parents and so many other complains which are never ending. Every parent has a problem with the child’s changing behaviour. But it is necessary that you keep your calm and do not snap at the child or shout at him, try to be patient.
When you start respecting your children they will respect you. They look up to you as a role model so it is important that you step up their expectations. Treat your children properly and with affection so that they understand what you are trying to say. Make them understand properly that if his behaviour does not change he will have to face the consequences which won’t be good and he will not like it. But also let him know that you love him and want him to be a better person and the ways he is behaving is liked by no one and hence he should change.
Sometimes children just behave in a strange way because they might be wanting your attention. If you are not able to give proper attention to the child and are too busy in your work and schedule, make sure you remove time for your child. Try to fix a time for your child so that you can spend time with him and talk to him, tell him how much you love him. Make sure to watch movies with him and go out with him so that you can spend some quality time with the child. Try to know about him, his school, friends and don’t let a communication gap come in between you and him.
Hi, it is seen that when a child breaks his toy during his tantrums, he might blame you for it and you might defend yourself by saying that you did not do it. You might feel that the toy he broke was because of the child’s mistake. It is important that you try to motivate the child to have a sense of forgiveness and hope. Try to discuss and tell the child when he is calm that not everybody gets a second chance in life and he should have a sense of forgiving people. Also tell him that good behaviour will keep him more happier and keep others happy as well.
When your child has mood swings and different behaviour many of the times. Firstly remember every children has behaviour issues and do not blame yourself and your parenting. Parents who blame themselves for their children’s such behaviour should stop doing that as every parent faces this situation in their life. Try to understand your children’s behaviour and try to find the reason behind it so that you can make your child understand where he is going wrong. Children are our responsibility and we should make them choose the right path if they are going wrong.
Try to avoid confrontations as they might create a lot of fuss which is unnecessary and might create more problem between you and the children. When the children over act and get angry and scream, it is necessary that you stay calm and be patient and control yourself so that the there is no unnecessary argument and screaming. When your child is throwing tantrum you can just give a verbal reprimand on the spot if your child does something. It is important that you handle the situation smartly so that there is no fuss. I hope this advice will be helpful to you.
Try to be the role model of your child and practice what you preach so that the child follows you. Whatever you expect from your child first make sure that do you follow it. If you don’t do it then your child will also not do it. The way you react to things is copied by the children and they adapt that behaviour seeing you. Make sure that you don’t break the rules which you have set for your children. Good habits which you follow will be followed by your child. Handling situations calmly without getting angry and hyper can also teach the children to be angry and hyperactive.
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