Hello

just checking to see how bf is going on? did u read my previous reply to urs? good luck. keep me posted. stm second time mom replied. Hi Hello

I am a second time mom due in May. I agree with X2. I have been there too... struggling really hard to B. feed my first one as much as I could. Could feed only up to 6 months while the milk flow had steadily decreased from 7 feeds a day in the first month to only 1 feed a day in the sixth month. YET.. the way I looked at it was that I tried whatever I could in my means - and that means the most to me. Not the fact that my baby did not get fully B. fed. When things are not in your control, you have no reason to be guilty. Just do what you can and substitute with Formula. Even though I was feeding only 1 feed a day in the sixth month, it still gives me immense satisfaction, because I was only doing my best and even to date when some one asks me how long did you breast feed - I tell them without a second thought ' six months' , while it is always presumed that the child was only on the B. milk for six months, but to me, it means just as much as that.

Stop feeling guilty for something that is beyond your control and start taking control by being happy with what you can do best.

Take care and wish you all the best.

STM

hello replied. Nila

Thanks for following up.Im desperately trying all I can to get her exclusively to bf,but still no luck. My milk supply is not enough to meet her appetite.After every bf session(that takes literally an hour for both sides),I need to give her formula ,else she starts to cry within half hour.Im not able to get an appointment with the lactation consultant.I checked the lll site and the next meeting in our area is only in April.Ive sent an email though.Let' s see.
My post partum depression is mainly due to my failure at bf and Im heading nowhere on this.Im trying a lot of strategies but nothing seem to be working.My hubby after seeing my plight tells me not to feel guilty and start her exclusively on formula but Im still reluctant.
I went thru the message on Feb board about milk supply ,but unfortunately ,my mom has me on this pathiya sappadu and she would not let me eat anything except garlic from that list....Sigh...
Oh so many woes ,I feel like breaking down even as I write this..
I hope I can manage ,even if I can' t ,I hope I don' t bury myself in guilt.