Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi,
I am 31 Years old and My wife is 28 years old. We have 2 daughters of 3yrs and 1 months old. Currently we are in US, when we came to know our 2nd baby gender my wife got very much disappointed because she want a baby boy. So she was suggestig to have 3 baby, but I convinced her saying in india educated people like us wont prepare to have 3 baby.. and if we have.. the society will look us like different.. and we both are happy having 2 daughter. She some what accepted, but all my friends circle have a boy baby so she is siliently feeling bad that she is not having a boy.

Our both baby born normal delivery without any issues, so even our parents suggesting to go for 3rd. In this situation I am confused. Shall I go for a third, If I have a 3rd baby will Indian people looks me as alien or un-educated person? I see some people are with only one baby and if I go for 3 what they will think?

Financially I can manage with 3 kids, but still what is holding me to go for this decision? Please help me to get out of this stress with your suggestions.

FYI, We are ready accept if the 3rd baby is girl.

Amaira replied. Hi there you should decide as you are the head of the family and you have to take care of your family why are you thinking so much about what Indians will think when you are not staying here also. Aditi replied. Why are you thinking so much about the society as they will not feed you, and also they will not take care of your family if you can afford to have a third child then you should go ahead. Esha replied. I think you and your wife should sit together and have a brief talk on this issue as its you both have to decide on this whether you need to go ahead to or stop right here. Sagar replied. Speak to your family on this. They will guide you properly and will help to find a solution on the same. Just relax and be calm. Seema replied. This is some thing very strange to hear that you if you are planing for a third child why are you worried about the people. Nobody will taunt you or speak bad about it. Shika replied. Can i know your view on a boy. Do you think that if boy is not born in your family then your family is in complete. If this is the case you should not opt for a third child. Divya replied. I do not understand the mentality of the people why they a boy to complete the family even a girl is as equal as compare to a boy in today's world. Deepa replied. Felling very happy to hear that you have two daughters and you are fine with third also. I think you should go with the third child if you can afford to. Disha replied. Do not take any decision under pressure as its a matter of a birth what you both will be giving and you should be firm on it. Please speak to your wife on the same and take opinion also on it. anmol replied. Why are you worried about the people. You should always think of your family first because if you are ok with three children then no one will see you like an alien. Ishita replied. Just be calm and think about your family its you who have to take care of the kids. No one will help you in that if you are able to take care of third child i would suggest go for it. Nisha replied. I think you are over thinking as here in india there are many people who have more than three children and are seen very respectable manner by the society. Nisha replied. Its your call and your wife's. If you both agree for the third child then dont think about the society as they are no one to tell you anything. Monika replied. Hi Nirmal its common having three children its not that people will see you differently or will think you are uneducated just think as per your family and decide. Ankita replied. Hi its ok i can understand your feelings what you are going through, but make sure you both are firm on the decision of not having the third if planing. sk replied. y all ppl in india wants boy. u have 2 daughters then fine. it is not necessary ur friends ahve boys then u also should have.. and first of all y uu tested baby gender? it can put u in jail. if u r so rich to take care of 3 kids then go for a third baby and if u have 3 daughters only then u will go for 4th baby? diya replied. Its totally upto you if you want another baby or not. You should not look upon someone else' s opinions or reactions. I have a single male child who is now ten sometimes even I feel I should go for another one. Its a personal decision which you need to make along with your wife' s consent.