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hi i am samantha married 2 years ago.we live in US.my problem is in-laws.MIL stay in bedroom all the day.she wont help me in the kitchen and talk very very less to me.she acts so innocent as if she is very good in front of my husband.she doesn' t do any work and make me do all the work.yes im housewife and not yet started any job.she is perfect in health.but she acts like she is not feeling well all the day.FIL better atleast there someone who talk to me an the house.but he and his wife sits doing nothing all the day.they want to stay forever with us.my husband love them so much.it is so uncomfort for me to live like servant to them.and i cant live like this.i feel happy atleast if she help in the kitchen and atleast talk to me like daughter.i dont hate them but i want them to be active atleast like other people.i dont like MIL see all the day sitting like dum in the house.do i have any solution make her active and talk to people like us.she acts like that but really she doesn' t have any mental problems or any health problems and she is perfectly alright according to her health that prooved in health checkup. sisi replied. hi sam,
see, some how she doesnt interfere in your work.i guess you are not aware of the situation when 2 ladies enters into a kitchen.i have faced it and still facing.i understand your feeling that your MIL should treat u like her daughter.But the reality is this wont be possible even in the dreams!How much ever we do,we are not even considered as humanbeings by MIL & FIL.be happy that you are the queen of your kitchen.unless and until she sits simply and orders you to make this and that,dont bother.think that you are serving for 2 old people.Dont ever complain to your husband.just make him feel that you manage everything and do all the chores.Atleast you can get your husbands love.you are just in your 2 yrs of your marriage life.it takes a lot to compromise & gain your hubbys feel for you. sonu1 replied. hi samantha

I feel for you....nothing is worse then constantly being at home with inlaws who dont talk....i had the same problem after the delivary of my son my mil came to stay for a few days and she only spoke what she needed to but yet when her daughters called she talk to them till no end...and i am glad she only came for a few days and not lifetime...
Its a bit difficult...try to involved her in the kitchen..like say to her mum i am going to the kitchen to prepare for dinner etc why dont u join and sit with me and see what she says..or try going for a walk in the afternoon and asking her to come with you...what about if u found a partime job somewhere just to get u away from all this????
does any other family live near you? what about ur husband can u not have a word with him so that he can speak to his parents?

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