Parents of Teens  Discussion Forum

Does your teen display violent behaviour? How do you deal with it? Do you feel angry, helpless, or frustrated? Has the article helped you gain a better understanding? What do you think about juvenile delinquency? Ana replied. I agree. Children in their teens are indeed stubborn and disrespect their parents. However, I feel that the best way to deal with this is to equip them with the understanding of what is right and what is wrong and leave them to decide what to do. Usually if you trust them, they will do the right thing. But if you try to force them, they will revolt and do the wrong thing. Tiana replied. Hi editor, this has become one of the common trouble which we face with most of the teens. They have become very stubborn and do not listen to their parents in the right way which keeps us depressed. Ritu replied. Their behavior is the result of specific parts of their brain developing and hormones too. You will have to explain everything to them to stay in their good books and agree to what they say but also look out for them. NN replied. You will have to be very careful in handling your kid because if you handle anything with anger or any other way you might lose your kid for bad and you surely would not want that to happen to you. Ashna replied. Aggressive behavior of teens is very common. Many teens either become very quite or they become aggressive. The only way to handle it that be patient and explain things peacefully and not with anger as it will worsen the case. Amity replied. Hello All,
In teens youngster will have less patience and they need to be get controlled at that age then only they will not spoil their future because at this age they will easily get attracted to others. None replied. Hi every one,
Yes i would agree with the editor because in teens teenagers will be easily get deviated to good or bad.This is the age where they need to be careful about their future.Parents need to be so friendly to them at this age. No Name replied. Hi every one,
Yes teen will have different violent behavior and it would be very hard to control them.They will be stubborn and it is the age where they will get easily attracted and addicted to the things.We need to follow up as friends. gayatri replied. hi my teen is too aggressive at times. but at such times, we have to deal with him extremely patiently. sometimes, he throws tantrums and we have to listen to all his demands. We cant help it but because at this age if we go against him, it would create a lot of gap between us Sunny replied. Dear All,

If possible go for 7 days to any Ashram like Art of Living or any other lead a simple life for 7 days and see the difference in attitude besides being calm there will be purpose too.
Or try out Yoga/meditation.
All the best. Ron replied. With this method of parenting, the children are given a choice for everything from what to eat for breakfast to when curfew is set. When they make poor choices, they are punished (a time-out perhaps when they are young), but afterward it is important to ask them why they are punished. This way, starting at a young age, they realize that it was their own choices that got them into trouble. As they grow up, these lessons grow with them, so when they begin to make unwise decisions, they' ll be able to reflect on the bad choices they may be making. --from Ron with Arivaca Boys Ranch mind_freak replied. there is no need to condemn aggresssion. such an attitude doesn' t really help at all. What we need to do is a wholesome attitude that evealuates the origin of aggression in kids and determines ways to deal with it. Mind you... i am not propogating condoning aggression, just dealing with it constructively.
binnie replied. just what I feel...I guess there will be less frustration if teens learn to deal with their emotions---parents can be instrumental in this...highs and lows are a part of every individual' s life-how intelligently you deal with it what makes you a strong person...teens shopuld be made to realize this Abdul replied. We live in violent times its true. Teens are not being taught to solve their grievances in diplomatic and amicable manners. I did have one question though could it be that teens could become cold blooded and be violent without actually being angry... true this sounds kind of psychotic behaviour but what if someone is disciplined yet festering with pent up feelings. Doesnt feel angry but seeks REVENGE......what then 7teen replied. Hi, everyone. I think I' m better qualified to comment than you all cos Im a teen myself. Now I' ve noticed people raising the question of violence in movies, music etc. a number of times. tell you what? i like listening to such stuff. when i am angry or depressed. it acts as an outlet. but when i am happy i will never listen to these. it' s like when you have something too sweet. if you have it when your mouth is burning, it helps. but if you have it on its own without a cause, it makes you nauseated. so it is with such songs and movies. Chanakya replied. I was just glancing through the comments here and goodness, most people seem to be condoning violence! Is there something wrong with us? Articles like this ought to spread awareness, ought to make readers realise the gravity of problems and empower them with solutions to tackle them. but here people do not acknowledge the problem at all! it strikes me that articles are of no good if the reader is not intelligent or worthy enough to make use of them. thaksin replied. another article that shows laziness in thinking out the real problems and blames things outward. What we need is analysis and hard self-questioning about questions of violence. Let me just remind you that there has been no human society without implications of violence. There would be no social structure without violence. prerna replied. I resent the implication that smoking and drinking parents cause violence in children we are a sober lot and each of us has our own pleasures the problem with such article is that they feel no compunction in depicting parents as ideal avatars rather than just ordinary people. raman replied. your solutions are sobering but the diagnosis is incorrect. I disagree about exposure to violence etc. I whink it' s a lack of meaning and purpose in life that drives people crazy structure and discipline a focus on life-long dreams and projects keeps one out of the mess. Mira replied. That was an excellent article. One of the factors mentioned - ' part of a gang or cult' is vry important. My son, 18, used to be very sweet as a child. He was always good at both academics and sports. But ever since he joined college, he has changed horribly. He has this really unsavoury group of friends who drink and smoke and stay out late all the time. We stopped his pocket money but then he started stealing money from the house. No amount of confrontation has helped. He has failed in his exams thrice and refuses to see a counsellor. We are devastated. We took him to a psychologist forcibly and he didn' t speak at all. I don' t know what to do.