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i have a situation for which i can't seek suggestions openly so posting it here, please try to help me. I am a housewife, 29 years old living in a joint family with my husband's parents and his 2 younger brothers aged 20 and 23 and my small daughter. We are quite a happy and fun loving family. My problem started with some observations by one of my friend from my society. She mentioned to me that my husband's younger brother try to touch me excessively and in appropriate areas. Now before anyone jumps to any conclusion let me explain things a bit, I dress in sarees at home due to conservative family and with saree a bit of stomach and back is visible, now my husband's brothers sometimes puts an arm around my waist or on my back while talking to me or they'll tease me or tickle me or simply touch my waist. I am quite ok with it as i consider them as my own brother and believe there are no bad intentions behind it. All this casual activities happen in front of family members and I have seen them doing the same with my mother in law as well. When my friend told me about this I told her the same to not worry about this but she said that such situation might become bigger problems later on. Another incident happened during the holi festival, when one aunt of my husband also came, so all the ladies and gents were colored and my friend saw from her house my brother in laws coloring me by putting their hands on my back, neck and stomach and she again raised the topic, however since i was there i knew all ladies were colored like that only, which is also quite common. Off late i have started to think is it really something wrong what i am doing, or on the pretext of being casual some advantage is being taken of me. Has anyone else has been in a similar situation, please advice. ashish replied. hello sneha,
doubt is spoil everything very easily, you have good and very supportive family,in your family you have freedom also, so why you think on this small things and spoil relations. aanchal replied. hello sneha,
may be your friend give your wrong information with wrong intention about your brother in law, may be she try to spoil his name and thats why she give wrong information to you. niyati replied. hello sneha,
just listen to your heart, and start speaking with someone who can trust you on most, so stop thinking and start act upon it, and you should keep believe on yourself, and dont take doubt. jigar replied. hello sneha,
you can tell to your husband about this thing and also you can stop your brother in law when he came to touch you without some reason, so lets see how he react on that and you also get your answer. kinjal replied. hello sneha,
your brother in law keep on place of his mother, you mentioned in your post that , same thing he behave with you same way he behave with his mother too, so how you think that is wrong behavior. harsh replied. hello sneha,
every women can feel and understand the mens view toward her and we can judge that person too, so if you feel that your brother in law touches you with wrong intention you should stop him. latika replied. hello sneha,
i must note you that if your brother in law watching in bad view to you, then you should feel that, every women means 90 percent women can feel by her six sense, so you should understand the things. namu replied. hello sneha,
according to my point of view, there is nothing wrong in freely behavior with sister in law, you can also share every thing with your brother in law, and make him good friend of yours. kiyara replied. hello sneha,
i think there is no need to listen your friends things, if you feel that there is nothing wrong in your relationship so just tell to your friend that she should stay away from all this. nilesh replied. hello sneha,
i dont understand why there is need to touch sister in law body, and talk to keep hand on her back, boys also understand the small things, and they also keep some limitations. ishwar replied. hello sneha,
if you dont like when they try to touch you, why dont you tell them on face, dont touch, then you should see them reaction, dont came in other friends word and spoil your relationship. urvashi replied. hello sneha,
nothing wrong happened with you, if you think so much on that you will definitely found something wrong in your relationship, its not at all right, they are your brothers in law. rajat replied. hello sneha,
you mention that your brother in law, behave same way with your mother in law, also it means they dont keep any difference between you and them mother for them you are at mother place. shweta replied. hello sneha,
its not good think that you keep believe on other suggestion, what your mind says about your brother in law, and you feel that how they behave with you, if you dont like you can tell them on face. kanchan replied. hello sneha,
i must suggest you that you should not listen to your friend you should listen to your heart, may be that person already have negative things about your brother in law. rechal replied. hello sneha,
its not good think if you feel by yourself then its ok, but someone told you about your brother in law, and you keep trust on that, that is not good thing at all. kiran replied. hello sneha,
you should listen to your heart dont come in other person words, so it will be helpful for you, if you think there is nothing wrong then just tell to stay out of the matter. farida replied. hello sneha,
the situation you post here is so different i dont think so your brother in law is doing such thing like touch your body in wrong intention, so dont came in anyone words. indira replied. hello sneha,
you should tell that your husband, about all this things, you should tell to your husband and see his reaction on that, then you came to know all this things, very clearly. kiran replied. hello sneha,
dont came in your friends word, you are stay in joint family, so why you change your view on your friends word, dont spoil your and your brother in law relation just because of doubts.