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I wanted to gain some external views and advice on a situation that I am facing. I am married for 4 years now. We live abroad, both are well educated and are working. Wife is pregnant with our first child.

Since our marriage, my wife has been complaining about my parents, picking fights on small things and blocking any conversation with my parents. She has been very critical about my job and my salary and complaining about money matter.

These days she constantly abuses me and my parents. She has declared that parents should not be allowed to visit us abroad. Not allowing me to speak to them either. She has declared that she will not allow parents to see our child.

I am choosing not to respond since doing so escalates the quarrel and never turns into a rationale discussion. The abuse and criticism is affecting my personal and professional life.

I have communicated the issues to in-laws and they support wife' s behavior and abusive nature.

How would you recommend to deal with the situation? What are the ways to bring parents and wife closer? How to ensure the family remains in harmony?

vikas replied. hello arun,
i advice you that, you are both working and independent person, then why dont you afraid to her, give her answer of her behavior from your behavior, you also dont respect her family. then she knew the feelings. gita replied. hello arun,
feel so sad about you, and after reading your story, you suffer from lots of critical situation because of your wife, so why dont you give her divorce, and settle down your life second time. sangeeta replied. hello arun
you had posted this post long back ago, what is current situation at your home, is there any solution comes out, or still situation like this only, she was not allowed till now or she allowed now to meet parents. suresha replied. hello arun,
i suggest you to sit with her, means only both of you communicate face to face no involvement of her family and your family too, ask her what she want and why she behave like this way. sumit replied. hello arun,
dont give her chance to dominate you, you give her answer in her way only, she should also know how to keep respect of mother and father in law like her own parents they are also someones parents. rojiya replied. hello arun,
feel so bad about your situation that you are suffer from this situation lonely, because parents is our priority and wife and kid also same on priority side, but your situation is very bad. jigar replied. hi arun
why you dont file complaint against your wife, and law from other country is very strong and strict, to take advice from good lawyer, and then only take further step against her. Chandrakala replied. Hi Arun, just ask her what is the trouble she is having with your parents and get it sorted as soon as possible. Its very important to know the story from both the side so talk to her in detail. darshil replied. hi,
why you not file fir against her for mental torture with this reaction you can threaten to her and she also will not try to disrespect you and your parents, vandana replied. hi arun,
i can understand how difficult to deal with situation like this, whn your wife is totaly against to your parents and not to allow you to take with them, but you have your personal opinions and personal life too. tanushree replied. hello arun.
dont dominate by her directely ask your wife that why she always questioning to you and its a very wrong things, she is your wife she is partner not your boss to ask you quetining. neerja replied. hi arun,
i suggest you,speak her directely on her face and reach on some conclusion and take decision both of you its effect on your child future too. taniya replied. hi,
i read your problem, and i tell you that no one can help you in this situation better than you only, try to balance all situation.and try to heal up with problems, best of luck nabiya replied. hi,
is you and your wife have some common good friend, with the help of this friend you can try to communicate and try to convence to handle this situation, and try to understand her view also. dipashri replied. hi,
i read your post and i can undertstand your situation because parents are so much important in our life and no one can replace parents love and care without expecting any things. ketaki replied. hi arun,
you had posted this post long back ago and you have child too so before take any decision you think about your child too, your any decision effect on your child future too. pratigya replied. hi arun,
in this situation you have to take stand because your wife and parents are equal important in your life, so take a clear decision and tell to your wife, and try to communicate with her.
pradumnya replied. hello arun,
if she try to dominate you in all things like personal and professional then you have to tell her that its your life and you have right to go as per your view there is no need of her views in your life. madhira replied. hello,
In husband and wife relationship trust and respect is so much important factors, its play a big role in this relationship, if you give respect in return you get same, but if not there is something going wrong. monish replied. hi arun,
firstly i appreciate that you involve her family too, and told them all truth and its shown your mind is very clear about things, but its very bad that her family support her in wrong thing.