Hi,
I know that on these due-datewise message boards all new moms discuss issues related to their new borns.....and I am a new mom too so please I request u to kindly have the patience to read thr' my story and please share ur views....
My hubby is very much attached to my BIL's family(that is my hubby's elder brother's family) especially my nephew # 1.As this nephew was born before we got married,so hubby dear showered all his love,affection and so on and so forth on this fellow....continued
doing do even after I got married.Initially this \";lagaav\"; for our nephew did not bother me but after an year or so of marriage it started irritating me....pls don't get me wrong.....but isin't it every girl's dream to have the no.1 place in ur hubby's heart,well ,I always felt that I had to share this place with his nephew!!!
I became a mom in late 2004....and somehow I have a sneaky feeling that my hubby still adores his nephew more than our baby.As such, my
hubby takes care of our baby very lovingly....changes his diapers,takes care of
him on weekends so that I can get some rest,takes loads and loads of pics of our baby and things like that.....never compares our baby with our
nephew....but I can't get this thing out of my mind that he cares more abt his nephew.
I feel that he is not exited abt our baby at all......never talks abt the triumphs and mischief's of our baby in the way he used to talk abt his nephew when we got married.Infact after we got engaged and used to hang
out together....my hubby used to keep on blabbering abt his nephew....infact instead of planning our future,his nephew was the only thing we discussed (I feel so angry at myself now....how cud I let him get away with that?)
I feel helpless and frustrated and feel unlucky ....I had always consoled myself by saying that once we have our own baby things will be different....but they aren't ......please tell me whether I am overreacting.....and what should I do to deal with this situation?
-a new mom frust. new mom replied. Hi ck,
Yes,I guess I do need loads of patience to deal with this situation and u r right my hubby is a very loving person and I am very lucky in that respect,will try to get rid of all the negative feelings related to my hubby and my nephew. ck replied. Hi new mom,

I think u r just irritated from before abt his nephew, thatz what makes u think like this. His nephew is the first baby he ever adored, it will take time for him to bond with his son too... Once he gets very attached to ur baby, everything will be fine. His nephew also would hv grown up by then, not a small baby to be adored.

Hv patience, time will change him. If u try to change him, or show ur frustration, he will do the reverse only. There is no doubt that ur husband loves ur baby very much, but he just can't suddenly stop loving his nephew too. You are very lucky that u hv such loving husband who can love his nephew so much, he will give everything possible for his own baby. Feel happy and enjoy the precious time with ur baby.

Best Wishes,
CK