Hello everyone,

I have jst lost my baby in my 13th week !! I was taking Clexane Injections everyday on my abdomen with all proper precautions and care advised by my doc and haematologist, yet...

This is my 3rd missed abortion, but earlier 2 i was maybe not prepared but this one i desperately wanted. Both me and my hubby were on cloud nine, had decorated our place with baby photo´ s and momentoes. Gosh i am going back home today, till now post my D&C i was at mom´ s place. I have cried my heart out but the thought of going home is giving me tears again.. I was told it was a baby boy and to say i had gone for a routine check up!! I was excited as i was told i would be able to hear clear heartbeats, i was ready with a CD too! and then the sonographists said the baby´ s heart beat has stopped. I couldn´ t beleive it, went for a second opinion to another hospital for a sonography yet...

I was expecting 4yrs after my marriage, all thru these years we were saving and trying to become financially strong to go ahead with a child and today when we both have everything, i dont know whether i will ever have a child!!

Its easy for doctors and all to say that there are options like adoption but why can´ t i have a single child of my OWN !! i am a very high risk patient and chances of any future pregnancy is very very dim but yet i desperately want my little baby..

As my hubby says : kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahaan nahin milta, kahin zameen toh kahi aasman nahin milta...........
K.Radha replied. Hi Shenaz,

I was heart broken to read your story. I know how much you want a child of your own but if you are risking your health and certainly your emotions is it worth it? I know you say you want a child of your own but is that really wnat you want? When most of us look deep into our hearts it isnt about having a child, its about being a mother...

Have you considered adoption? I have no idea what laws are applicable to you but as a rule adoption is available to most people. I know we looked into adoption some time back and India has a fairly good system. There are a lot of children in this world living in orphanages who will never know a mothers love, never have a toy of their own or a proper education... Just think on it Shenaz, I hope your hopes of motherhood come true but if they don´ t happen as expected remember that being a mother doesn´ t mean you have to share DNA with your child. All the best now and always

xxxxx xxxxx replied. Hi Shenaz ,
I am so sorry for the loss , i know its easy to say wish ur dreams had come true .
I had the similar situation like urs , am married for 10yrs and have been trying for 4 yrs had an ectopic followed by 3 miscarries 2 were early and 3rd was similar like urs. I know the pain but the fact is can' t do anything about it , have hope and faith in god u will definitely have a baby. I am also keeping my fingers crossed and left everything to GOD .
Take rest and pray god , and see the difference , hope it helps u .

thanks ,
Sharadha replied. Hi,
Iam felt really sorry about your situation. Really babies are a boon to couples. I can really understand your position now.

Only thing I want to tell you is that Miracles do happen. Even in my family it has happened. My cousin was married for 5 years and she didn´ t have a kid. All others who got married after her had kids but she tried everything she possibly could. At one point she avoided functions and family get togethers as others tried tease her or so. She was told that she had develepod some problems in uterus and that adoption may be case. She prayed god desperately and every time I call her I was told she had gone to temple or so. Faith never fails. Last year she conceived and you know wat? She has become mother of twins one boy adn one girl. Mom atlast after 5 years of horendous pain. So pls don´ t loose heart and trust the almighty.
All the best.
Sharadha