Hello Everyone!

I hope all of you are doing well.I was extremely busy the last couple of days and unable to access the internet because of the same.But I have been thinking about what I am going to say next.Hopefully,it will come out right and no one will be offended.

All most all of us here are going through the loss of our baby.SOme of us have lost them in the first trimester,some much later on.But still all of us have lost our baby.Is one' s loss greater than the other' s,I don' t think so.I personally think that people like myself,who lost their babies in the first trimester find it easier to cope than others who lost them at time of birth or in the last few weeks of the pregnancy.Thats just because we didnot get enough time to know our babies.But we still formed an instant bond.We had a dream and we had a life inside us.And we realised what being a mother feels like.And all of us have lost a part of ourselves.Life will never be the same because we are not the same.I am very different now than I was before I got pregnant.And even if I try hard,I cannot go back to what I was six months ago.But I am grateful that even if only for a few weeks,I was able to have life inside me and know what it feels like to be a mother.

Dear Friends,please believe me that our babies are not too far from us.They will always be in our hearts and memories.We will always feel their presence around us.And they will come back to us.

We all are part of this indiaparenting family because each and everyone of us is looking for support and wanting to help others.Sometimes we are able to express ourselves well and sometimes we are not.But nobody visiting this thread is meaning to hurt anyone else.Lets just try to be more understanding of each other and also be a little careful with our words.

As most of you are aware,Shraddh started on Sept 27th.Lets all of us pray for the souls of our babies.

I am going to end with a few more thoguhts.I know everyone is grieving.We are just at different stages of grieving.Will we ever stop grieving,I don' t think so.But lets try to think about our babies in a fond way.Like Radha posted several weeks ago,lets build memories,write a letter or a poem.Remember,your babies are around and they can feel you and hear you.

Also,please try to relax and stay positive.Think from the end.Picture yourself with a healthy and beautiful baby.Believe me the time will come when all of us will be blessed with healthy and beautiful babies.Lets be each other' s strengths and help each other get through this.

Thats all for now.

With Warmest Wishes,

TBP

siya replied. hi TBP,

u r right if we look around we will find our pains less....u know the same thingf was told to me by my Brother in Law when i was in hospital and it was the second day after the loss....actully he was in the proceese of divoricing his wife of 3 yrs....he asked me just one simple question that...Bhabhi u lost ur association of 9 months and i lost my association of 3odd years....who' s loss is bigger??????
and u know lying on that bed ...i replied it is urs because u saw her moving, talking , smiling,laughing , sharing.......around u ....its yours...
then he said no bhabhi its urs because it was ur own creation...it was in u...and she was totally out of my reach....just tried to console each other.
i would like share something with all u people....sudha must be knowing it .it was from her city....a aged couple lost there son of 20 yrs on the day when they were to celeberate 25th marriage anniversary...they exchanged there wedding ring infront of their sons coffin.....
listening to such stories we find ourselves in a bit comfrotable position.....i know loss is loss wether of 2 day , 2 month, or 2years or 20 year
.....
just be happy