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Raising Responsible Teens


Peers undoubtedly influence each other, but social science research demonstrates time and time again that parents actually matter most.

Peer pressure move over. There's a more powerful influence in the lives of teens and it's found at home.

While peers undoubtedly influence each other, social science research demonstrates time and time again that parents actually matter most. However, having parents per se is not the determining factor. Rather it is the degree to which mom, dad, or guardian actually monitors the teen's behaviour that is a decisive factor in reducing the risk of pregnancy as well as drug, alcohol, and cigarette use in their teen.


Higher degrees of "parental monitoring" is measured by the parent's knowledge and ability to respond to these questions:

  1. Do you know who your teen's friends are?
  2. If your teen is going to be late, does s/he know that you expect him/her to call?
  3. Do you know where your teen is and what s/he is doing after school?
  4. Does your teen tell you who s/he will be with before they go out?
  5. Do you know where your teen is when he or she goes out at night?
  6. Do you know how your teen spends his or her money?
  7. Do you know the parents of your teen's friends?
  8. Do you talk with your teen about the plans s/he has with his/her friends?
Some parents back off from monitoring their teen thinking they are thwarting their teen's independence. In other situations, the teen may view such questions by their parents as intrusive and may balk, feeling their parents are demanding and interfering.


There are 3 key things to remember for successful parental monitoring:

  1. Parental monitoring works best with parents who already have a reasonable relationship with their teen. Family members should show mutual respect and there should already be family rules in place that govern behaviour.

  2. Parents must approach the issue of parental monitoring from a point of view of concern, guidance and respect. Many of the questions are a matter of courtesy and cut both ways. It is reasonable to know when to expect family members and to know how to contact each other in case of emergency. It is equally important for children to know where parents are and how children can make contact. This is simply mutually respectful behavior for planning and safety.

  3. Start when your kids are young and be a good role model. If you want to know where your kids are, always let them know where you are too. Explain and demonstrate from an early age that family members stay in touch and show concern for each other.

Children and teens develop self-esteem as a result of their parent's involvement in their lives. Parental monitoring may seem like a pain to some teens, but hey, you only concern yourself with things that are important. So, parental monitoring isn't about surveillance, it's about caring. That's a good message to any teen.

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Vernie.4 years ago
...if we just try 2 talk 2 them about their friends and all that they are like,"dad,i know how to choose my friends and u don have to interfere in it...." according to me marals and values play an important role in developing a responsible teenager sincerely indian citizen
 
 
 
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Bett.7 years ago
thank you for letting me know i'm doing the right thing. i appreciate it, teens would have you believe that you're "old fashioned" and that those standards are outdated... ....good manners and common courtesy are never outdated. thanks again!
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indian citizen.7 years ago
well its true that family builts self-esteem and parental monitoring can reduce teenage problems.....but in this century the teenagers sense evrything...if we just try 2 talk 2 them about their friends and all that they are like,"dad,i know how to choose my friends and u don have to interfere in it...."
according to me marals and values play an important role in developing a responsible teenager
sincerely
indian citizen
 
 
 
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