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Dating Rules for Teens


Your teen has started to show interest in the opposite sex. Here are some rules he needs to know before he begins dating.


Your teen is at a stage where he is trying to develop his own personality. He is asserting his independence and rebelling against whatever you tell him. Dating is a Western practice that is slowly gaining prominence in Indian homes. As a parent, you are the best judge of the appropriate age for your child to begin dating. However, once you do decide to give permission to proceed, be sure to set some ground rules for your teen. This will help him to act responsibly as well as safeguard him from any harm.


Dating Age

There is no set age when a teen should be allowed to begin dating. Girls generally mature faster than boys do. On the other hand, parents tend to be more protective about their daughters and may not allow them to begin dating until they are in their late teens. Every child matures differently and every culture has different standards. While some children, in some cultures, are ready to date at the age of thirteen, there are those who may not be ready until they are sixteen.

How do you decide if your teen is ready to date? In most cases, when your teen starts spending hours in front of the mirror and is constantly seeking compliments on his appearance, it means he has started taking an interest in the opposite sex. From here onwards, it will not be long before he asks you if he can go out on a date.


Curfew Time

This is an area where parents face the most resistance from their teens. Your teen may sometimes want to go on a date and stay out for the entire night. It is up to you to decide what the appropriate time is for your teen to return home from his date. This will depend on a variety of factors. If your teen is just beginning to date, you will probably not want him to stay out beyond ten thirty. As your teen grows older, his curfew time can also be extended.

The next factor to keep in mind while setting a curfew time is the means of transport. How is your teen getting to the venue for his date? Is he driving there or is he going to be using some form of public transport? Are you going to be picking him up after his date is over? If your teen is going to be taking a public bus home, you will want to make sure that he does not miss the last bus home. Otherwise, he will be stranded.

In the initial dating stages, a parent should ensure that the curfew deadline is being met. This may involve the parent waiting up until the teen gets home to ensure that he is not coming in after the curfew. If your teen comes in after curfew, set a suitable deterrent. This way, your teen will understand that the curfew time is non-negotiable. He will be more likely to follow the rules the next time he goes out.

Another concern relating to curfew time deals with safety. You will want to make sure that your teen does not find himself in a dangerous situation. Date rape is a serious concern, even in India. While the chances of your teen being attacked are rare, it is better to err on the side of caution.


Money Issues

Money is another factor in deciding whether your teen is ready to date. Is your teen going to be spending out of his own allowance for the date or is he going to expect you to foot the bill? If you are going to be sponsoring your teen's date, make sure that you set a limit. When your teen begins dating, you may give him money for movie tickets and some snacks. However, if your teen wants to go to a discotheque, he should be willing to pay for his date himself. It is up to you to decide if you should spend for your teen's date.

Even if your teen has a healthy allowance or is working part-time, it does not mean he can spend as much as he likes. Every teen needs some ground rules to be set as far as money is concerned. Also, tell your teen to be honest with his date regarding how much money he has. When your teen starts dating, he may not always be expected to pay for the entire date. Your teen should have a frank discussion with his date so that there are no misunderstandings later on.

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Bosky Ch.4 years ago
dating is important for any teenager, since it allows them to interact with people their own age. it helps know people and importance of having the right relationships. although dating may not be a compulsion it can be really helpful for any teenager to enhance his or her personality. all parents need to do is keep a tab on whom their kids meet and have the contacts of individuals their children move around with. it is better to strike a trustful relation than something that is kept hidden.
 
 
 
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jyothish.6 years ago
am 16 male ,am really sorry for sining in as a parent I desperately wanted to commend .I will be showing this to ma parents .At least dating is not treated as a crime here .I think teens have to tel there parents to grow up and not the other way around .Am really happy to see this article and I always stayed on the line drawn by my parents even though I was not really happy about this and they never loosed that line .The first time I was interested in a girl instead of telling it to her I told it to my mother , instead of taking it as a good thing , all she said was that i can date only when i get a gob and have an earning of my own .Well what can i say i think its not the children who have to be matured but it should be some of the parents .Its very hard to convince the parents that dating wont affect the studies (i usually get good grades ).I think this is the only reason why teens sneak behind their parents back for a date .I dont think dating is banned in Indian culture because we ourself are making it .And the times changed most of the teens are more matured than u all know .I wont really blame any one for not allowing their kids to date ,only parents know parents tension i guess .Well at least know this most of your teen kids are dating some one or at least he or she is having some one in their mind even though they dont admit it ..and am sure everything will go fine if you trust your teen and if he or she trusts you back .And I dont think there is anything really wrong in dating any one as long as the parents are kept on the loop..
Well am no one to say this this is from a 16 year old boys view point please forgive me and correct me if am wrong about anything ..
 
 
 
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Alma.6 years ago
Great article on sating rules for the teenagers....The post is very well written...I like it...

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