parenting is tough both for the child and the lone parent. Let us have a look
at some single parenting tips for walking the fine line of single parenting
with an ease.
Being a single
parent has become more usual and acceptable in our society today. About a
couple of decades ago it was something that was frowned upon. Today people have
come to accept and appreciate single parents. There are a number of support
facilities available today which help the single parent to raise their family
The reasons for a person being a single parent usually are:
of a spouse
By choice out of wedlock
Families headed by single woman parent are particularly
vulnerable. This is because despite economic and social development the social
status and position of a woman is always considered to be weaker than that of a
man. Hence, single mothers have to face the challenge of gender bias in getting
employment and at the same time cope with raising a family all alone.
In addition to economic realities, children living with
single parents often have behavioural
issues, disadvantages in terms of psychological functioning and poor
Being a single parent is undoubtedly challenging. However,
by taking little extra efforts single parents can ensure that their children lead
normal lives like any other children. Raising a well developed, balanced child
can be a great achievement for most parents single or otherwise.
Tips for Single
Here are a few single
parenting tips which parents can make use of to ensure that their children
lead a normal life.
a) Parenting Skills
- Just like any other parent, single moms and dads
too must do everything they can to learn about new parenting skills. It may be
worthwhile to read books on parenting,
joining online forums and interact with parents who may have children of the
same age. Being a good parent requires a little bit of extra effort which
anyone can put in if they really want to.
b) Discipline - Single parents out of guilt often let things slip into comfortable,
but unhealthy pattern. This is absolutely not acceptable. The absence of a
parent can never be made up by giving in to the unrealistic demands of a child.
It is necessary to inculcate simple values in children right from the
Children must learn to be respectful towards elders, help
around in the house in case of need and follow household rules like any other
member of the family. In case this is not happening irrespective of how young
the children are, they should be made to understand the need to imbibe values
and follow rules.
c) Respect - Irrespective of the kind of relationship the separated parents share
with one another, it is wrong to speak about the parent who is absent with
disrespect in front of the children. At times single parenting can be really
frustrating but it is wrong to vent out frustration by blaming the ex-spouse.
Instead single parents must remember to discuss their frustrations, concerns
and worries with their friends or adult family members.
d) Behave Normally -
Although a child may find it difficult to explain
the absence of one parent, single parents must make an effort to run the
families as normally as possible. Family outings, dinners and parties are
things that all children enjoy. Hence, it is important to make time for these
and behave as normally as possible for the benefit of the children
It is a misconception that children of single parents by
default will become irresponsible and unbalanced adults. In fact by setting a
perfect model of self- respect and establishing a support system for the
family, single parents can raise children well without much difficulty.