Death of spouse is a big blow for the woman
whose world seems like turning upside down. The woman becomes a single parent
to her child. Instead of wallowing in self pity and grief, this is the time to
pick up the bits and pieces and start life afresh with a renewed strength and perspective.
Here are some smart tips for single mom.
Under normal circumstances, people do not aspire to become a
parent. But the moment life takes away your spouse or partner and you are
with a kid, you know that you have got to deal with this difficulty alone.
Although this is a very tough time, you need to pick up the bits and pieces of
your life and try to remain positive.
After all, you still have the option to grow up with your
child and see life through his or her perspective and derive all the little
pleasures that come with it. There is an innate adaptability in women and in
such unfortunate circumstances; it comes across as a real strength.
When the mom is the sole breadwinner of the family, she has
to take responsibility of raising children as well as look after their
education and at the same time managing quality
time for them.
Tips for Single
Here are a few tips that can help the single moms while
rearing their children:
When you are a single mom, you need to be organised from the
very beginning. Since you are only person responsible for every thing, you must
make sure that you have the time and resources to manage every single thing.
Spending time with children is as important as going to work. So prepare
yourself by becoming self reliant particularly by attaining financial
It is highly unfortunate that you have lost your spouse, but
you need to accept this stark reality. The earlier you do it, the better will
the impact be in your later life and most importantly, for your kids. There are
of certain social bindings that hinder the smooth functioning of a family run
by a single mom.
But it is important to vehemently resist these pressures and
carry out the responsibilities. Simply weeping will get you no where; you need
to feel for the kids who have suffered a great loss. The sooner you accept the
reality of loss; you will be mentally equipped to strive to ensure a good
rearing to your kids.
Learn to be Adaptable
In a family the mother and a father have two distinct roles
to play. They are extremely important for the psychological development of the
child. The moment when you have to bring up the child on your own, you also
need to realise the fact that the child is used to these distinct role play by
When the child loses his father, he misses that role play
along with the person. Similarly, even if the kid was fortunate to spend time
with his father, he happens to yearn for a father figure as he notices his
peers having a fabulous relationship with their fathers. Here, the mother needs
to adapt herself into role-playing so that the child feels that he can have
both his mother and father from the same person.
As he grows into witnessing you accommodating and owning
responsibilities single handedly, they also learn self-discipline and grow to
admire their mom like ever before.
Although it is definitely an unfortunate situation but
it is true that a child growing up with a single mom, is likely to develop a
far broader outlook and a sensitive human being. All these characteristics
develop as they see their mom fighting
with the loss and at the same time handling the responsibilities with elan.