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What to do if your partner is avoiding you?

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Is your boyfriend or girlfriend avoiding you? Is your partner ignoring your calls? Read on to know what to do when a loved one ignores you.

Pooja and Manish met online through a dating website. They confessed their love for each other. For first few months everything was going good. Late night phone conversations, kisses and hugs, lying at home about a relationship and watching the sunset together, all felt so nice. Few days later Manish felt that Pooja is ignoring him. He confronted her about her behavior. She said she wanted to end the relationship. Manish did not probe too much and moved on.

Do you think Manish did the right thing? Moving on without knowing the reason of ignorance is not always possible. If relationship is stumbling, it is better to end it on a good note instead of making things worse. If your partner is avoiding you, having a word with him or her can improve the situation. There can be some misunderstanding. However, being pushy does not help.

Is he or she ignoring me?

When suddenly there is something wrong with your partner, when you feel everything is not okay, when you start finding loop holes in a relationship and when your partner ignores you, you know it is time to do something to save your relationship. Following are signs that show your partner is trying to ignore you.

  • Your partner does not answer your calls and avoid calling you back
  • Your partner spends more time with friends
  • Your partner avoids giving you missed calls or sending you text message
  • You partner does not look forward to meeting you and gives reasons
  • Your partner says that he or she needs some space
  • Your partner does not include you in his or her plans anymore

What to do if your partner is avoiding you

If you are sure that your partner is avoiding and ignoring you, you need to make a move. Do not overreact, do not be overanxious, the problem with your relationship might be trivial. Once you have identified the problem, it is time to bring it to the notice of your partner. Hard as it may seem and be difficult to do but it can save you many ugly moments.


Communication, commitment, trust and love are the characteristics of a successful relationship. If your relationship is missing even one of these qualities, it may tumble. Love is like a delicate thread and open communication is the best way to keep the bond strong. If you are feeing that your partner is falling out of love, go and talk to him. Ask him why he is ignoring you. He may keep his cell phone switched off just to avoid you. Meet him in person. Avoid discussing things over the phone, through text messages, via e-mails or through chats. Do it face to face.

Seek explanation

Tell him that you have noticed that he is avoiding you and you need an explanation. Tell him that you would not go without getting proper answers to your doubts. Do not say something that will hurt your partner's feelings. You are still together. Your partner may be going through a bad phase. He may be depressed as he got rejected in the job interview or he is hesitating to tell you something. Find out the root cause of his behavior. Life will surely get on track once again. However remember you do not have to be forceful and keep calling every minute, demanding an explanation.

Give some space

Sometimes emotions are hard to understand. Give your partner some space. Leave him alone for a few days. When he will be okay, he will get back to you. Meanwhile spend time alone. Let your partner spend time alone so he will get time to know the situation in better ways. Do not argue or blame your partner. Do not say things like, ‘you have changed' or ‘you are not the one with whom I fell in love at first sight.'It is said, that time heals. Be patient and see whether things improve.

Think again

If you have discussed the reason for his disinterest in you, if you have given him enough time, if you have waited enough to improve the situation and nothing is coming out of it, then it is better you move on. Let go. If the person is the one for you, he will come back. Otherwise that person is just not meant for you. If it is clear that your relationship is going nowhere and is on verge of break-up, do not cling to it.

Believe in yourself and have patience. Avoid explaining to your partner how nice it would be to be together. Stay calm come what may, you will be glad you did. Trust yourself and go on with life. It is not worth a person who does not need or deserve you.

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Name: rahul
City:   varanasi
Comments:   i am in relationship with my girlfrnd from 3 year in engineering collge 2 year my relationship was perfect and good now my girl frend try to ignr me as like i am stranger from past 1 year she give me all ways a resn i try to being close and she try to being be away from me i am totaly frusted and i am depress plz counsult me what to do

Name: Mona
City:   Dubai
Comments:   My relationship ws one n half month old my bf is avoiding me making excuses to meet me from past a month I asked him he said all is well u r over thinking n getting worried for no reason from past 9 days v r not toking to each other at ol not even a single msg or call whts ol this? m really confused n worried 2 wht shud I do?

Name: Concy
City:   Nkomazi
Comments:   I found that my boy friend is cheating I confronted him but then few days after I called him so that we can talk things out.I told him that I forgive him and I want to forget what happened and start over.Now he is ignoring me and he told me that he need some time alone. I feel like he dont love me anymore and i dont know what to do because i should be the one who need some space not him

Name: Jordan
City:   Brisbaane
Comments:   My girlfriend is still at school. And I´m one year out. We talk every night but during the day I send her a message ( how are you or how is school?) but I don´t get a reply. I see her on FB and she doesn´t even look at my message. I call her then she won´t answer but she does reply to my message. I try and talk to her and ask why she ignores me and she says that she´s busy and can´t talk during school but I see her on FB and ignoreing me and it upsets me I don´t know what to do.

Name: murali
City:   chennai
Comments:   I know a guy for past 4yrs n e was in relation with some girl n even me but after 4yrs the girl died coz of cancer even I got brkup with my guy we both started to talk n feel in love but after some days e moved from me e left me alone for e 1st love am waiting for em

Name: priya
City:   chennai
Comments:   I have loved a boy he´s name s vinay we felt vry appy wen we use 2 look our eyes at frst sight bt suddenly he left me whether agn he ll cme r nt I dono waiting fr him 1&1/2 yr ovr still waiting fr u vinay frst luv da cnt forgot u anymore luv u umaaaaa

Name: deepika
City:   Bangalore
Comments:   I feel very sad now days becausey husband is igorying me he very time tell me busy in work but he will be online always . I asked him tell you don´t like you are ivory me .he give answer I am busy.plz find solution for me

Name: Prem
City:   Vizag
Comments:   A six months love relation ended from whenever my girlfriend father knows about us. she is ignoring me for her goal to become a doctor. She is moving to Canada recently for higher education. But she still love me. She will be as like as I want her to be. But she is blocking me in Facebook. Which is created almost after one and half year of breakup. Sometimes she will not block me for few days and then will suddenly block me. She is doing things whatever I say.

Name: Ellee
City:   Assam
Comments:   Everything was perfect... he used to love me n take care of me like anything... I never adored him for that instead kept on arguing in each n every situation.... now when he has started ignoring me I´m not being able to control myself... each n every day is like he´ll to me.... I cudn´t concentrate over anything... I talked to him several times.. cried like anything over the phone.. trying to make things alright but he doesn´t really care... I need to get out of this please help me

Name: Ranjini K
City:   Palakkad
Comments:   I had an affair with my colleague, he knows everything about me my past. now he is telling he is having doubt in me and avoiding me at maximum level. kindly give me an solution to solve this problem.

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