HOW TO STOP CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER - by Editor

Are you cheating on your partner and want to stop it? Read on to find how you can stop cheating and be loyal. You may be married or in a love relationship and everything is working just fine. One fine day you meet an old crush, friend or a lover and are overwhelmed with nostalgia. You begin by sending text messages, making phone calls and exchanging emails in the name of friendship and enjoy it too. It brings a fresh feeling to your life that is run out of romance. Before you realise you fall into another relationship that can turn your world topsy turvy. To avoid such heart breaking situations and stop cheating your partner, read on and collect yourself. How does cheating begin? You have met someone new and the chemistry between you two sends out sparks. You love spending time with this person and would give up almost anything for another meeting or date. You start neglecting your present partner, do not have time for them and suddenly start losing interest. The friendship with the significant other is blossoming in to a full blown affair. In your heart you know it is wrong but do not accept it. You start find faults with your present relationship to justify your affair. You get into an extra marital affair and soon you are cheating on your partner. Controlling your feelings seems impossible. Although you may feel guilty you continue your affair. Why is it difficult to give up cheating? It is hard to give up cheating because it is like an addiction. You know there is something that is bad but you like it. It is fulfilling some need. For example, if you seek intellectual stimulation and your partner is not providing that, you may find yourself getting attracted to somebody who is brainy and fulfills your mental needs. Every little text message, every call and every meeting becomes special, even if it is not going anywhere in the future. Your needs, emotional or physical, are being met by somebody else and you will find it difficult to give it up since you find it difficult to let go off all the stimulation and need fulfillment. You cannot suddenly deal with a vacuum within you. That is why you may find it very difficult to stop cheating. How to stop cheating and stay faithful Difficult as it may feel and be, it is not an impossible task. Even after one quits smoking, he goes through painful feelings but certainly survives. You will live too, that too a good life. Stopping yourself from cheating can mean saving lot of trouble and instability. You have to stop something that is wrong. Here are a few ways that can help you stop cheating and stay faithful to your partner. Avoid constant messaging and phone calls Remember you have a partner who loves you Avoid thinking what it could be and what you do not have Control your urge to meet up for just one last time, even if it is to end Call up your ‘other’ or email that you cannot be in the relationship Remember it is not over until it is over Talk to your husband or wife about what you expect from your relationship Avoid waiting for the right moment to stop cheating. Just do it Imagine what will be the consequences if you are found out Concentrate towards making your present relationship better Meet long lost friends or new ones along with your girlfriend or boyfriend Count your blessings and you will see that life has treated you well Avoid criticising and comparing your partner Avoid comparing your situation with the movies. You are for real Show respect towards your partner’s trust and emotions Spend more time with your partner. Do special things Avoid being negative about your relationship or married life Share with your partner if you are not happy about something. It works Consult a therapist or relationship expert if everything else fails In the journey of life you will meet many people, far richer and more beautiful or handsome than your partner. Every time you meet one, you might meet another who is even better. There will always be temptations beckoning you towards themselves. But remember, no one is perfect, not even you. No one person can fulfill all your needs. So stop being judgmental and focus on making your relationship better. Avoid looking around for new people; it will only create discontent within your heart. Being loyal is not about not being attracted, but remembering you have a loving partner, every time you get attracted. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did you do anything to stop cheating? What would you do if your partner confessed to you about an extra marital affair? To share your views and experiences, click here.

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Name: Amanda City:   Altamonte Springs Comments:   I can do it so can anyone. Like it says its like quiting smoking you have withdrawls but you CAN DO it. I will. I love my husband so much and I just do all the wrong things to show it especially by cheating. Thank you Name: Pink City:   Middelburg Comments:   I can understand it and forgive my partner because it show that ' this person want to be honest with me' . so i can give my partner i second chance. Name: Mahesh City:   Mumbai Comments:   I have read about so many people asking for help when they are into an extra marital affair. But do people also think about what they can do to stop cheating? Do cheaters and unfaithful partner ever think about heir spouses? I don’t think so. They become so selfish thinking about their own emotions and happiness that they can destroy families and bonds. Husbands cheating wives and wives cheating on husbands. It is very dangerous since people need instant gratification. They get bored of people since they have a lot of choices around. Couples should never give up on relationships so easily or there would never be any difference between humans and animals. Nurturing relationships is very important to make marriages work. Every relationship goes through a rough patch but doesn’t mean we cut it out. Name: Saurabh City:   Delhi Comments:   I was attracted by a beautiful girl in my office. We worked together for four months. Although we were friendly we never shared any romantic connections. I used to always admire her and compliment her through jokes. I have been married for three years. The girl has quit the work place and I suddenly feel that I love her. I am losing interest in my married life and even want to cancel the tour my wife and me had planned. Though that girl is not in touch with me since last six months I miss her. My feelings have grown strong. I messaged her about how I feel but she never replied. I don’t know if what I am doing is right? But I suddenly feel I am cheating on my wife. I think I must stop myself. Name: Jini City:   Delhi Comments:   I had met a friend of mine who was really close to me. We share such a good rapport that we love talking to each other. Every time I meet him I think I can see sparks. Though he is engaged to somebody his heart is not into it. I love him a lot and I have started to find certain things that lack in my boyfriend. Sometimes he hardly understands my jokes. I talk on one level and he on another. My friend showers me with gifts and compliments that send me on cloud nine. My boyfriend has never complimented me like that. Like yesterday I was wearing a skirt and this guy told me that I look totally ravishing. I mean imagine how it would make a woman feel. I have never got such words from my bf. I feel I look beautiful when I am with him. He makes me feel so special and I am getting so attracted to him. I relate to him so much since we both share similar dreams and are from the same profession. It doesn’t seem like cheating to me. Name: Ntando City:   Cape Town Comments:   i cheated to my partner several times, the reason was if i ask for s*x she will always tell me that she is tired and the day she agree she will do it or let me put it this way when im busy she' like reading the news paper.i was so scared thinking that there is something wrong with me, i realised that she was the one who have a problem i confessed to her and i told her the reason then we worked on it and now we are deeply in love and faithfull to each other.we have been together for 12 years. Name: Jessie City:   Los Angeles Comments:   Thank you so much for your article!! I love my boyfriend, but I was feeling like my needs weren' t being met in my relationship, and I got so frustrated, I started dirtytalking strangers on the internet. One was particularly attractive, and I almost resorted to cybersex, but I talked to one of my best friends, and she made me remember that I love my boyfriend. Your article has helped so much! I talked to my boy about why I was upset, and he' s been so sweet about it! I remember how lucky I am to have such a loving man! It' s still hard sometimes, the things that were said still haunt me, but I' m getting so much better! I keep this list next to my computer all the time, to remind me. THANKS!! Good wishes for everyone! 3 Name: Katy City:   w.p.b Comments:   ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now.. ive cheated on him about 4 times already, he knows about 3 of them. we just started out sophmore year in high school and he was suspended for about 2 weeks during those 2 weeks i admited to a guy that i liked him we started talking but eventually a week before my boyfriend cam back we stopped talking & he told me we shouldnt talk. i respect his honesty but nw i feel like i like him alot. but ive stopped myself from thinking of him & its worked. but somedays i just feel like my relationship with my boyfriend is falling apart. but im managing to keep it together & not talk to anyone. Name: kate City:   NB Comments:   Omg, im the same way, i dont feel like my needs are being met, me and my bf never say we love eachother, or dont even sleep in the same bed, he never wants to hold my hand anywheres. and he never really helpes me out with anything. we have a child together and he cant even take care of her, and im getting to a point where i cant put up with him anymore. & i feel like i can just leave him for someone else, i never cheated on him.. but i feel like i should.. he doesnt make me feel like he loves me or anything. doesnt even say im beautiful or anything. :( and i am that type of girl who loves to hear it .. loves to hear good compliments.. so i dont even know what to do now.. he is very controlling and doesnt let me do anything. thats why i feel like i should Cheat on him!!! somebody please tell me what should i do?!?! Name: Amber City:   Jobstown Comments:   This is my best friend who keeps kissing me when i' m with someone. I' m trying to make it stop cuz it' s wrong and I am completely in love with my current boyfriend he means the world to me and I don' t want my boyfriend to leave me. I need help! Name: molly slaski City:   marcellus Comments:   i keep cheating and lying to my bf,and i have been doin this for 3 yrs,i dont want to loose him,i will keep fighting til the end,i stopped the cheating and lying,but he still thinks im doin it,i love him too much to loose him,im stick of hurting him,and our relationship,im done w. cheating and lying,i love my bf w. all my heart and soul. Name: nicole City:   rancho cordova Comments:   i belive i can change i cheeted on my bf 3 times and i feel soo bad. hes takeing me back one more time but he said if i do this agin hes never ever gunna talk to me again. i dont want that to happen so please if anyone can help me please do im so sorry about what i done.. and now that i seen what he would do if i do it again im scared what if he tryies to get back at me and flirt wit girls and starts to cheet on me? and again if anyone can help me please do! Name: Jean City:   Philadelphia Comments:   i have been cheating on my wife for the last 17 years. i have 2 kids with 2 different women during my marriage, i keep 3 women in my life at all times. Since i been married, i been on cruises, vacations, and stayed at my other girlfriends homes. I kept a relationship with each lady until we get into a fight and i drop them cause i know i have someone home...but they always come back. They know i' m married and they don' t care. I guess because i treat them nice and pay attention to them more than other guys have, they put up with me. I don' t know how to stop, i hate hurting the women that fall in love with me and i get bored with them and leave them alone. I haven' t even tried to be with just one person. I never done it before. The worst thing is that if my wife would do some of the things i have done, i would leave her in a heart beat! What' s wrong with me? Little help please.