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How to stop cheating on your partner

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Are you cheating on your partner and want to stop it? Read on to find how you can stop cheating and be loyal.

You may be married or in a love relationship and everything is working just fine. One fine day you meet an old crush, friend or a lover and are overwhelmed with nostalgia. You begin by sending text messages, making phone calls and exchanging emails in the name of friendship and enjoy it too.

It brings a fresh feeling to your life that is run out of romance. Before you realise you fall into another relationship that can turn your world topsy turvy. To avoid such heart breaking situations and stop cheating your partner, read on and collect yourself.

How does cheating begin?

You have met someone new and the chemistry between you two sends out sparks. You love spending time with this person and would give up almost anything for another meeting or date. You start neglecting your present partner, do not have time for them and suddenly start losing interest. The friendship with the significant other is blossoming in to a full blown affair. In your heart you know it is wrong but do not accept it. You start find faults with your present relationship to justify your affair. You get into an extra marital affair and soon you are cheating on your partner. Controlling your feelings seems impossible. Although you may feel guilty you continue your affair.

Why is it difficult to give up cheating?

It is hard to give up cheating because it is like an addiction. You know there is something that is bad but you like it. It is fulfilling some need. For example, if you seek intellectual stimulation and your partner is not providing that, you may find yourself getting attracted to somebody who is brainy and fulfills your mental needs. Every little text message, every call and every meeting becomes special, even if it is not going anywhere in the future. Your needs, emotional or physical, are being met by somebody else and you will find it difficult to give it up since you find it difficult to let go off all the stimulation and need fulfillment. You cannot suddenly deal with a vacuum within you. That is why you may find it very difficult to stop cheating.

How to stop cheating and stay faithful

Difficult as it may feel and be, it is not an impossible task. Even after one quits smoking, he goes through painful feelings but certainly survives. You will live too, that too a good life. Stopping yourself from cheating can mean saving lot of trouble and instability. You have to stop something that is wrong. Here are a few ways that can help you stop cheating and stay faithful to your partner.

  • Avoid constant messaging and phone calls
  • Remember you have a partner who loves you
  • Avoid thinking what it could be and what you do not have
  • Control your urge to meet up for just one last time, even if it is to end
  • Call up your ‘other’ or email that you cannot be in the relationship
  • Remember it is not over until it is over
  • Talk to your husband or wife about what you expect from your relationship
  • Avoid waiting for the right moment to stop cheating. Just do it
  • Imagine what will be the consequences if you are found out
  • Concentrate towards making your present relationship better
  • Meet long lost friends or new ones along with your girlfriend or boyfriend
  • Count your blessings and you will see that life has treated you well
  • Avoid criticising and comparing your partner
  • Avoid comparing your situation with the movies. You are for real
  • Show respect towards your partner’s trust and emotions
  • Spend more time with your partner. Do special things
  • Avoid being negative about your relationship or married life
  • Share with your partner if you are not happy about something. It works
  • Consult a therapist or relationship expert if everything else fails

In the journey of life you will meet many people, far richer and more beautiful or handsome than your partner. Every time you meet one, you might meet another who is even better. There will always be temptations beckoning you towards themselves. But remember, no one is perfect, not even you.

No one person can fulfill all your needs. So stop being judgmental and focus on making your relationship better. Avoid looking around for new people; it will only create discontent within your heart. Being loyal is not about not being attracted, but remembering you have a loving partner, every time you get attracted.

Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did you do anything to stop cheating? What would you do if your partner confessed to you about an extra marital affair? To share your views and experiences, click here.

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Name: A litle ferret
City:   New York
Comments:   Thanks for this post, I´m trying my hardest to do not fall into cheating again, this post is so accurate about cheating. It really is like a addiction.

Name: Silly
City:   New York
Comments:   Thank you so much for this. I needed it. Got tempted by a friend and was at the brink of cheating on my boyfriend "for some fun/adventures". Thank you thank you thank you! I´ve been beating myself over the past two days trying to figure out my feelings.

Name: A
City:   Mla
Comments:   I´ve been cheating on my boyfriend with a very close friend at work. I talked to the guy twice already, asking him to just end it. But every time he´d hear the talk, he´d do his best to get me in a sort of lustful escapade. I want to stop :´(

Name: Eric Young
City:   selma al
Comments:   I have been cheating on my wife I need some help

Name: Lizzie
City:   sharon pa
Comments:   I have cheated on all my boyfriends that I have ever had and nothing I try works to stop. It seem like I have a demon inside, an addiction that can´t be stopped and feel as though life would be better for everyone if I was no longer here because even the want to change so bad and the gut sickening felling that I´m hurting my family is still not enough to change my bad habits. Even after realizing there is my husband at home,our children and what our future would be like I still listen to the voices in my head. Am I soulless? When will my nightmare reality go away?

Name: N
City:   Channelview
Comments:   I´ve been in a relationship for 2 1/2 years. I love my boyfriend so much and dream of marrying him and creating a family. He has these same dreams and never gives up on us. We went through a 4 month break because I was looking for something else. I wanted to be single and mess around but I was wrong. I was led back to him because he is my future. We got back together a couples of months ago. Yet again I have been talking to a guy I met on Tinder. He had red hair and plays guitar. I find him so attractive and he wanted to meet in person. If I would have met him I would have cheated. I still was cheating by talking to him the way I was. I looked up articles on this topic and I´m glad I found yours. I judge my boyfriend way too much and he isn´t very attractive but neither am I. He accepts me for all that I am. Thank you for this article and I will read it daily. I´m going to block the guy I met on Tinder and try to move on. I don´t need anyone but my boyfriend. I´ve been telling myself this was wrong but I don´t know why it took an article to actually push me to stop. I´m content with where I´m at. I would be a selfish fool to continue. I´m happy with my boyfriend. He will be my lifelong partner. I will not risk that anymore.

Name: t
City:   antwerp ny
Comments:   I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a month and woild like help I have cheated on him and we are trying to work it out but I would like help to make sure it dont happen because im not the first girl to do this to hik and I want to show him I can change for the better I know dont change for if they love they will love you for you but this is something I want to change for myself

Name: B
City:   Portsmouth
Comments:   It´s not just cheating when you find someone else, what about having someone but no matter who you have or how happy you are, you are always looking for something/someone else....

Name: Esnart
City:   Lusaka
Comments:   Am soo much in love with my boyfriend,he means the world to me..i was soo ashamed because i was cheating behind the best relationship ever.But am glad because this article has helped me..I believe i will be faithful now..

Name: Ahnalee
City:   Phoenix
Comments:   This was about the best advice I´ve read about my shameful addiction. I love and am in love with my boyfriend. He is definitely not perfect or the best looking guy in the world. But your right, neither am I. It´s just hard when you get attention from other men all the time. It makes me feel attractive and, who doesn´t love to feel that? Well this page was very helpful and I´ll try to reread it when I feel the need to "wander". Thanks

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