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How to stop cheating on your partner


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Are you cheating on your partner and want to stop it? Read on to find how you can stop cheating and be loyal.


You may be married or in a love relationship and everything is working just fine. One fine day you meet an old crush, friend or a lover and are overwhelmed with nostalgia. You begin by sending text messages, making phone calls and exchanging emails in the name of friendship and enjoy it too.

It brings a fresh feeling to your life that is run out of romance. Before you realise you fall into another relationship that can turn your world topsy turvy. To avoid such heart breaking situations and stop cheating your partner, read on and collect yourself.


How does cheating begin?

You have met someone new and the chemistry between you two sends out sparks. You love spending time with this person and would give up almost anything for another meeting or date. You start neglecting your present partner, do not have time for them and suddenly start losing interest. The friendship with the significant other is blossoming in to a full blown affair. In your heart you know it is wrong but do not accept it. You start find faults with your present relationship to justify your affair. You get into an extra marital affair and soon you are cheating on your partner. Controlling your feelings seems impossible. Although you may feel guilty you continue your affair.


Why is it difficult to give up cheating?

It is hard to give up cheating because it is like an addiction. You know there is something that is bad but you like it. It is fulfilling some need. For example, if you seek intellectual stimulation and your partner is not providing that, you may find yourself getting attracted to somebody who is brainy and fulfills your mental needs. Every little text message, every call and every meeting becomes special, even if it is not going anywhere in the future. Your needs, emotional or physical, are being met by somebody else and you will find it difficult to give it up since you find it difficult to let go off all the stimulation and need fulfillment. You cannot suddenly deal with a vacuum within you. That is why you may find it very difficult to stop cheating.


How to stop cheating and stay faithful

Difficult as it may feel and be, it is not an impossible task. Even after one quits smoking, he goes through painful feelings but certainly survives. You will live too, that too a good life. Stopping yourself from cheating can mean saving lot of trouble and instability. You have to stop something that is wrong. Here are a few ways that can help you stop cheating and stay faithful to your partner.

  • Avoid constant messaging and phone calls
  • Remember you have a partner who loves you
  • Avoid thinking what it could be and what you do not have
  • Control your urge to meet up for just one last time, even if it is to end
  • Call up your ‘other’ or email that you cannot be in the relationship
  • Remember it is not over until it is over
  • Talk to your husband or wife about what you expect from your relationship
  • Avoid waiting for the right moment to stop cheating. Just do it
  • Imagine what will be the consequences if you are found out
  • Concentrate towards making your present relationship better
  • Meet long lost friends or new ones along with your girlfriend or boyfriend
  • Count your blessings and you will see that life has treated you well
  • Avoid criticising and comparing your partner
  • Avoid comparing your situation with the movies. You are for real
  • Show respect towards your partner’s trust and emotions
  • Spend more time with your partner. Do special things
  • Avoid being negative about your relationship or married life
  • Share with your partner if you are not happy about something. It works
  • Consult a therapist or relationship expert if everything else fails

In the journey of life you will meet many people, far richer and more beautiful or handsome than your partner. Every time you meet one, you might meet another who is even better. There will always be temptations beckoning you towards themselves. But remember, no one is perfect, not even you.

No one person can fulfill all your needs. So stop being judgmental and focus on making your relationship better. Avoid looking around for new people; it will only create discontent within your heart. Being loyal is not about not being attracted, but remembering you have a loving partner, every time you get attracted.


Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did you do anything to stop cheating? What would you do if your partner confessed to you about an extra marital affair? To share your views and experiences, click here.



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Name: Jon
City:   around
Comments:   I´ve been consistently cheating on my partners for many many years now, and I have no idea how to quit. its killing me inside and i really need help.

Name: TRR
City:   Portmore
Comments:   I give in to every urge I have. I don´t even try to stop myself.I am happily married and I love my husband with all my heart. But now I am taking things into perspective. Time for me to grow up and put things behind me.

Name: Jesper thailand
City:   Middelfart
Comments:   i been cheating and talking other girls. but i really not want... because i love my girlfriend, now she leave again because of that... and i am very sad, because i want to marry her and have kids with her... she is my life

Name: A
City:   Honolulu
Comments:   Alright so this isn´t that into it but ive been dating this girl for 10 months now and no joke she seems perfect. Too perfect. I cheated on her once, when i was high, and hust told her not even an hour later. I was feeling pretty bad but she fprgave me bit said next time it wont be this easy. Just cheated on her the other day. Everyone found out and the first time was right when we stated dating, when we didnt really know each other. Now we´ve been through a lot and such and talked about how long we would last and all and it seemed so well. I dont even know why i cheated on her in the first place. This girl wasnt attracted to me, i wasnt attracted to her, totally meanongless and all sbe asked for was my vape. I told the girlfriend and she broke down and it wasnt till then that i REALLY realize what i was losing. MY ONLY REAL FRIEND HERE . and literally the one thing i invest all my time into outside of work and school. Now i dont know how to get her back. I still love her, i feel so horrible, and the mom doesnt want me seeing her too. I want to change, continue having her in my life but i dont know where to start. Now i think i have a clue. Thank you. But since im not in a relationship now this will be hard to practice.

Name: Mike stiling
City:   Cheltenham
Comments:   I don´t like cheating I feel bad all the time I just want to cry and just go in a corner

Name: joe
City:   qalakheng
Comments:   Im going 2 meet her 2morrow and end things thank u

Name: Juan
City:   Aguadilla
Comments:   This really inspired me I have been 2 years with my gf and in those 2 years I have been cheating with various women it´s a sin and it´s addiction but I am stopping it I need to do better for her for me and our kids

Name: A litle ferret
City:   New York
Comments:   Thanks for this post, I´m trying my hardest to do not fall into cheating again, this post is so accurate about cheating. It really is like a addiction.

Name: Silly
City:   New York
Comments:   Thank you so much for this. I needed it. Got tempted by a friend and was at the brink of cheating on my boyfriend "for some fun/adventures". Thank you thank you thank you! I´ve been beating myself over the past two days trying to figure out my feelings.

Name: A
City:   Mla
Comments:   I´ve been cheating on my boyfriend with a very close friend at work. I talked to the guy twice already, asking him to just end it. But every time he´d hear the talk, he´d do his best to get me in a sort of lustful escapade. I want to stop :´(

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