Yelling, shouting and getting angry at children can create a huge gap between parents and children. Read on to know about the common reasons why parents get angry and what they can do about it.All parents get angry at their children some time or the other. It seems really very surprising that the same little creature that looks so sweet while sleeping can become very difficult to handle sometimes. No matter what the situation was, in peaceful moments when you recall and are honest with yourself, you know that you would have handled things in much better way.
Your child might push your button, but this does not mean that she is trying to provoke you to respond. There must be something that happened in your childhood or you might have seen someone going through bigger problem related to what your child is doing right now, there are a number of possibilities which might click. But, you need not worry as all these are normal. One thing is for sure that once you get to know the reasons why you get
angry with your kids, you will be able to
tackle the situation more effectively.
5 Common Reasons Why Parents Get Angry
Let us take a look at the 5 common reasons that can make parents angry.
1. They are Tired
When you are tired you get angry easily. If this is the reason, you need to take care of your health, nutrition and have a good night’s sleep. One of the reason for feeling tired is because you are over-scheduled. Parents in today’s generation are busy continuously and they have to line up activities even during weekends. If this is the reason, you should priorities your activities and try to have some time to unwind at the end of every day or at least on weekends.
2. Stress and Overpressure of Work
Some parents work for long hours and fail to cope with other issues and balance between
family and professional lives. You need to work on lowering your stress and do not expect your child to cope with the situation. You can work less or cut down on other things. Do whatever is needed and possible. Sometimes organizing things in life bring lot of comfort level and help reduce stress as well.
3. Expecting Perfection from Children
Some believe that perfection is attainable, but in reality, it is not. If you have unrealistic expectations from your child, you should check on your thoughts. Do not
compare your child with others or push her to attain something that she finds very hard or fails to achieve. Also, you should never show discouragement when your child fails if you know she had given her best.
4. To Get Instant Satisfaction
It is not just children who look for instant happiness, parents too have desires of immediate gratification. If you get frustrated by repeating things to your child until she grasps them or you rationalise with your child and want her to see things as you do, this means you are expecting more than you should from your child. Educate your child as well as inspire and facilitate optimal growth.
5. The Belief that ‘Anger is Power’
When you see that everywhere
aggressive people dominate and go ahead in life while peace loving are left behind, you start believing the theory of evolution – survival of the fittest. Believe it or not, this is one of the most common reason why majority of the parents seem angry and show their aggression on children. They believe that anger is the only way that can help them get what they want.
Remember, you are required to inspire and motivate your children to be a decent adult. Become a loving parent and use effective, non-intimidating ways to gain your child’s attention. Initially it may take some time, but the results would be constructive and long lasting, for sure. If you find yourself struggling with your anger often, you should seek professional help.
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