As a parent is it essential for your to control certain things to raise children into well balanced individuals. Let us take a look at the 5 things you must control as a parent.
As a parent it is your responsibility to control certain things in your child’s life. Control need not have negative implications only. It is not just that you control their daily activities, but their career is also in your hands. You can control the amount of time and money you invest into their education so that they have a good career later in life. Here are some of the things you must control in your child’s life.
Expectations
You must control your child’s expectations or let them know what you expect of them. It is positive because firstly, your children when they know what is expected of them, they imbibe a sense of responsibility and zeal to fulfil the expectations.
By controlling your child’s expectations you ensure that they are not spoilt in any way, and they learn to demand within the means. It is also good to tell your child that you expect them to do things like, clean their bed, or help you with dinner etc. In this way you are actively controlling what you expect from your child and what they expect from you.
Behaviour
If done at a young age, it is possible to control the behaviour of children. There are several ways you can control the behaviour of your children. If you see that your child is displaying depression then you can keep motivating them and appreciating them in every little thing they do. This done from their very childhood will make them more confident and help them overcome any self-doubt that they have.
In case your child behaves in an aggressive manner, you must show them who the boss is, you must be firm with them, lay down strict rules, and make sure that they follow them. You must yourself teach them the importance, necessity and how to behave well. Children learn from parents, hence you must display good behaviour too.
Opportunities
The kind of opportunities you provide to your child is in your hands. There are many parents who often fail to see the talent in their children and give them the necessary opportunities to lead them in their desired paths. The parents obviously control the finances so they can control the amount of money and time that they can invest on their children. The kind of education you provide to your child today, later in life helps them get many opportunities to have a secure and happy future. Their happiness in future is therefore in some sense under your control.
Yourself
It has been found that children whose parents are reported to be abusive and loud tend to grow up and exhibit the same tendencies. Parents’ behaviour in turn shapes the child’s behaviour. It is in a parents’ hand to ensure that they do not behave or act in a way that can harm or negatively influence the child. Their negative behaviour might be imbibed by the child and they might themselves turn out to be abusive and violent adults. It is in parents’ hands to control their own behaviour.
Consequences
You must control the consequences your child might face if they disobey rules. Parents sometimes cannot control their children from breaking rules and doing certain things which they had been forbidden to do. But it is in the control of the parents to devise the consequences. You must at times punish your child for bad behaviour, for their own good, in non-violent fashion. Like cutting off their allowance, assigning chores, etc.
Parents who exercise some form of control over their children tend to raise their children better than those who give them free reign. Do not curtail their independence but ensure that they do not go astray.
Which things can parents control in their child’s life? Why is it necessary for parents to exercise control over certain things? How can parents control the behaviour of children? Discuss here.
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