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How to Be a Calm Parent

There is no doubt that life with kids is challenging. Sometimes it becomes almost impossible to hold your patience. Read on to learn how to be a calm parent even when your child makes you furious.

When you have kids, staying calm always is not an easy task. This is only possible when you have a specific plan of action and a commitment made to yourself that no matter what happens you are not going to scream or yell at your kids.

Tips for Becoming a Calm Parent

Here are some strategies which you can follow to become a calm parent.

1. Take a Break

Sometimes you simply need to take a break from the round the clock duty of being a mother. If you find some me-time when you can do what you like and spend some time with your hobbies, you will find yourself quite relaxed and fresh for another dose of your child’s guiltless and impeccable activity. You must remember that after all a child will act as a child.

2. Take a Deep Breath

If you find that your child is driving you crazy and you find yourself mad, take a deep breath. This will help you calm down and focus on the situation and analyse whether it is your child’s fault or not.

Sometimes children make mistakes or behave in unacceptable manner unknowingly. Scolding or yelling in such situation will not convey the right message to your child. When you will stop and take deep breaths, it will provide you the necessary space needed between thought and action.

3. Simplify Your Routine

Over-scheduling leads to a short fuse often. It is obvious that if you have plenty of things to do you will find short of time and if in such times your child causes problem, you are definitely going to lose your temper. So, simplify your daily routine and sort out your work so that you have some time to relax and spend some time with your kids. You are simply going to love that.

4. Nurture Your Hobbies

Ignore the idea of becoming a perfect mom. Spend some time as you please and just be you. Take time to do what you liked to do before having children. One of the most important things that you should note down here is not to feel guilty about all this. Enjoy the time and feel fresh and recharged.

5. Get Out of the Situation

There are times when children make you mad and you find that staying calm is just not possible. Leave the situation to your husband and let him handle things, for a change. Possibly he might handle and calm the kids down, but if you find things getting worse, you can step in.

6. Tell Your Child That You are Angry

If your child is old enough to understand, tell her that you are angry. Make sure you specify what made you angry so that she is able to figure out the situation. If you are angry about something else and your child is kind of annoying you, tell her that you are upset and she might stop the offending behaviour.

7. Hug Your Child

If you find that your child is angry or throwing tantrums on silly matters, simply give your child a tight hug. You can take her on your lap and tell her that both of you are going to sit quietly for some time. This will cool her down and she will forget everything in few minutes.

8. Give Some Space to Your Child

No matter what age your child is, she would need some time to do whatever she likes without any interruption. Make sure she is safe and knows her limits. Accept your child’s individuality and distinctiveness from you. Try to create some physical space in your house too.

9. Avoid Over-Parenting

Reaching out to your kid immediately after she whimpers is not a good idea in any way. This will also keep you alert and anxious all the time. Just keep in mind that there are plenty of reasons behind a child’s cry and some of them simply fade away in few minutes, even if not attended. Same goes with the tantrums.

10. Honour Your Child’s Emotions

When your child is upset or annoyed, it is very important you find out what the reason behind it is. Listening to your child and her aspect is very important before you convey your message. Try to tell her anything only when you are sure she is going to listen to you. On the other hand try to calm her down first, connect with her and then tell her what was wrong.

11. Let Your Child Know Your Expectations

Set some rules and let your child know what you expect from her in different situations beforehand. The best way is to have the rules hung somewhere so that anyone who violates knows about it.

12. Be a Role Model

Since you want your children to grow up as a calm and collected individual, you need to keep that in your mind always. Behave the way you want your child to behave. Children follow what they observe and live more than what they are taught.

13. Turn the Situation into a Fictional Story

Some children love to hear stories. If your child is not ready to do what you think is right for her at that moment, try to make a story and divert her attention. Making a fictional story will also keep your mind busy and your child’s mind imagining what is going to happen next. You will not lose your cool either.

14. Use Humour

Honestly this is not going to happen easily, but if you are able to do this, things will turn out amazingly positive. Instead of getting mad, turn the situation into a fun game.

15. Be Grateful

One of the best ways to calm yourself down is by feeling grateful that you have a child. Think about the feeling of happiness that you had when you saw your child the first time. Feel that special moment and you will not scream or yell at her.

The above mentioned ways can help you stay calm sometimes and sometimes things may not work. There are many other ways to calm down which you can figure out on your own also. Take into account your lifestyle, daily routine, your nature and your child’s nature and you will definitely come out with some unique idea. However, no matter where you stand on the parenting journey right now, this list is worth keeping because you never know when you are going to need some of them.

How to deal with kids patiently? How to avoid getting hyper while dealing with kids? Which strategies can help to be a calm parent? Discuss here.

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Hetal.3 years ago
Being patient is not very easy, but getting angry at kids can spoil them.
Palak.3 years ago
I have a 1.5 year old kid, it is really difficult to stay calm, I hope these tips help me.
Mariam.3 years ago
It is very difficult to remain calm while dealing with kids, but it is very important to be a calm parent
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