I don't think
a day goes by when I don't think of my father. I am 47 years old and he
died 21 years ago, when I was 26. He was a good man, but a workalolic.
He was never around, but we enjoyed a charmed life. I was an angry kid
and none of my teenaged misbehavior seemed to bring him closer, as I had
It wasn't until
he took ill, seriously ill, that we really got to know each other; that
we had a place in each other's daily life. After his near death and many
operations, I was trained as his nurse to drain his wounds and freshen
his bandages. Despite the job being 'gross' in certain people's eyes, I
appreciated it, as I was finally close to my dad.
of him during his demise seemed to lesson the pain of his absence from
my younger life. I enjoyed his company and attention and, though through
a sad circumstance, I was finally getting my fill. My attitude to life
lightened over those three years of caring for him.
Now I am a
dad myself, but definitely not a workaholic. Both were conscious decisions.
I work from my home and have always enjoyed my meals with my family. I
have one child, a son, and we share a close relationship. I am available
for him and to a great extent this is taken for granted. Goal met. My son
only has to concentrate on school, work and friends.
is coming. I still have the pencil holder made from a decorated tin can,
sitting on my desk; this from a son who seemingly takes me for granted.
Each year the gift is something else and each year I couldn't care less
about the gift itself. You see, the gift I enjoy, day in and day out, is
the pleasure of my son's company and knowing he is secure with our relationship
and my place in his life.
At heart, all
men know their fathers are important. We just have to remember to act that way for
our kids. The rest will take care of itself.
Want a great
Father's Day? Tell your dad you love him and give your kid a hug today
- before Father's Day actually arrives.
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