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- Lata and Sivaram Srinivasan


To be different is natural. Read about Alaap and Arnav.


It is nature that helps us evolve. If we had two saplings near home - one an oak and the other a creeper, how futile to try and make the oak creep around the house and the sapling grow straight up towards the sky. We may partially succeed if we attempt to do so when they are saplings, but the end result would be an ugly creepy oak and an inelegant creeper. Both going against their nature due to external force. Both victims of the human notion that things should be as we want them to be, and not as they should naturally be.

So it is with our children when we try to mould them to our expectations. A little help is of course required. Both the creeper and the oak do get support soon after their birth. The oak is pointed towards the sky and the creeper, towards the house.

We have 12 year old twin boys. Their names are Alaap and Arnav. Right from birth we knew they were different in nature. Alaap was aggressive since day one and would bring the house down if his demands were not met. Arnav on the other hand was quiet and we had to make sure that we paid attention to his needs. As a toddler Alaap was taught to speak in English but his pronunciation was poor - The R's were pronounced L's and we were amused when he said "laining on the load" for "raining on the road". His pronunciation being poor whenever he said something we had to often turn to Arnav who was the only one who could flawlessly understand and correctly interpret Alaap's sentences. We always felt that they understood each other right from the womb. People often ask us whether they think alike. We still are not sure of the answer to that, but an incident (narrated by their teacher) comes to mind. In kindergarten, Alaap and Arnav were put in different sections (as we wanted them to socialize and not always be together). One day Alaap suddenly picked up his water bottle and dashed out of class to the next section where Arnav was choking on something. He gave him water, patted him and got back to class!

As they grow Alaap is turning out to be an outgoing, aggressive achiever, Arnav is cool, calm and methodical. Alaap is good at math and comfortable with chess and numbers. Arnav is good at art, music and struggles with math. Alaap is good at dancing but terrible at singing and music, Arnav is just the opposite and he just can't dance. Alaap likes only Indian food and rotis, Arnav likes Chinese, Continental and rice. Alaap will argue with authority for justice. Arnav will accept authority as ever 'right' and never to be challenged. Alaap is great at leading and dominating, Arnav is good at following and discipline. Alaap gives all impressions of being daring and bold but is afraid to ride the bike, learn to swim, roller-skate, etc. Arnav mastered the bike, skate and swim in no time and without any help. When they fight (which is often) Alaap rains blows, Arnav takes them though Arnav is stronger. The following lines from Shakespeare comes to mind as we watch Alaap and Arnav evolve into distinct personalities:

"Whether't is nobler in the mind to suffer, The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, And, by opposing, end them?

Arnav is majestically poised against setbacks in life. Alaap will draw his sword against fate itself.

Before they were born we always had this thought that people can be changed with training and that perhaps we could mould them so as to reduce these differences and make each a little more like the other in certain aspects. But now we know that there is a basic inner nature which if we tamper in too aggressive a manner, we may have an ugly creepy oak or an unnatural creeper.

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Shruthi Kamath.7 years ago
extremely interesting and expressive thoughts on your twins lata.........something very similar to my experience with my twins........very good article.....shruthi
 
 
 
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Ramneek.7 years ago
it is great to read this article. i can just feel what you r saying as i have watched both alaap and arnav so closely.great job lata and sriram
 
 
 
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Radha.7 years ago
good to read your article. i hope i can pick up valuable tips from your article for my 19 month old twin boys.
 
 
 
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lekha.7 years ago
i have twin boys 6 months,its exactely the same as aalap & arnav,but i think its too early to judge.nice to know ur experience so that i can expect the same in future
 
 
 
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Mridula.7 years ago
very interesting. my fraternal twins ishaan and rehaan are two and a half now and are absolutely different from each other. still to notice if they have a telepathy with each other...
 
 
 
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hello.iam aproud mother of 19 months old twin sons & r undergoing the same experiences.wonderful article.
 
 
 
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ashu.7 years ago
its a very nice article. i'm a mother of a 9yr old daughter n have been blessed with a a pair of twin girls.my babies are now 6 months old n i can tell u time is flying,its totally a new experience as a mother , i'm lucky that i could see both sides of motherhood as a mother of a single baby n then twins !!!!!me n my husband both cherish our daughters.its nice to share thoughts with other parents.
 
 
 
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shahina.7 years ago
this article is very inspiring for parents of twins. i have two month old twin boys and their personalities seem to be very different too. i`m really glad to have come across this article.specially since i have no one to turn to for direction.
 
 
 
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harsha.7 years ago
hi
i have 7.5month old twin boys. they r non-identical and as different as aalap & arnav. elder is composed and coll and younger is very aggressive. its fun to see them growing.
harsha
 
 
 
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