Telling certain things to a child for putting restrictions on her just because she is a girl is not correct. Let us take a look at the things which parent should never tell their daughters.
In the light of the present prejudices being practiced against women, it is a good idea to clear some things out. Daughters have always been considered as a sign of good luck. Daughters grace the house and woo everyone with their love and care.
Unlike previous mentalities, daughters are no longer treated as they are the property of their husbands. Daughters are loved and cared for like sons in today’s world. It is probably a huge step to women’s emancipation.
Daughters are obviously different to sons, psychologically and physically. As parents you must respect the difference and not regret it. Girls are more serious about things than boys. What a boy might take as a joke and forget soon after might be taken very seriously by a girl. Which is why, no matter what happens parents should abstain from telling certain things to daughters.
“You can’t take decisions”
Many parents tell their daughter that they are not capable of taking wise decisions. Maybe the parents say it to prevent their daughter from doing something impulsive. But, do not question their decisions. Do not say that their delicate girly brains are not capable enough to make good decisions.
Many parents comment on their daughter’s physique. They tell them that they are not tall enough or laugh at how short they are. Some parents accuse their daughter of being thin or fat. This kind of body shaming deeply affects your daughter. Love them for who they are.
“You can’t do it”
Stop expecting your daughter to do what boys are doing. Respect the difference; do not regret it. Your daughter might be better at other things. She does not need to do what boys are doing.
“You are not good enough”
If your daughter is not doing well at school, do not talk her down. Do not compare her with other boys and tell her how well they are doing in school. Try to find out what the problem is. Do not tell them that they do not have a future except marriage.
“Don’t wear that”
Stop censoring what your daughter wears. Explain to them if you feel some cloth is not suitable. Do not create a scene about a short skirt. If you have a boy child, censor him equally. The restrictions should not be one way. Your daughter will start feeling like there is some problem with her.
“Stay home, don’t go out much”
Many parents restrict their daughter from going out as much as they can. This is not a way to keep your daughter safe. If you want her to be safe, tell her about the reality and train her to be safe. Put her into a martial arts and self defence classes, ask her to be careful. Do not restrict her activities because she is a girl.
“I wish you were a boy”
One of the most hurtful things you can ever tell your daughter is that you wish she were a boy. Many parents openly tell their girls that they always wanted a boy. Imagine how cruel that is.
“Don’t talk too much”
Parents often shut a girl up if she is expressing her opinions. This is not right. She has the right to speak her mind, despite her gender. Do not censor her. Teach her to talk back and protest when someone is doing something wrong. Do not tell her that she must stay silent.
If your girl likes sports, do not say that girls should not play sports. Encourage her in whatever she does.
It is necessary that you treat your daughter properly. It will affect her behaviour and view of herself in later life.
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