Indian parents are not so comfortable with certain items of clothing for their daughters. They find some clothing to be obscene. Children should be given freedom to wear the dress they want then only they will respect the wishes of their parents and will not do anything radical.
Indian parents often shudder at the idea of letting their daughters wear certain items of clothing. The mini-skirt is frowned upon as not being a part of Indian culture, and so are spaghetti straps, halter tops or anything remotely sexy. Any wonder then that when your children are grown up enough to make their own decisions, they go overboard? When they finally have the freedom to wear forbidden clothing, they will pick up the shortest mini they can find, or the most revealing top they lay their hands on. But if you have been semi-open to their ideas and fashion trends, you may not have so much reason to worry about them getting carried away.
The Mini
More often than not your daughter may not realize what looks obscene and what does not, so it is fine if you stop your daughter from wearing certain items of clothing. Roma's mother strictly forbade Roma from wearing mini-skirts. The result? Roma would carry her mini-skirt with her to a friend's house, and change into it over there before going out. Remember, your daughter will develop her own tastes and sense of style as she grows older. Now, in her teens, don't force her into what you believe looks elegant. Let her wear what her friends are wearing. Contrary to what you may believe, your daughter probably does not want to wear the mini-skirt to look sexy and provocative. She probably wants to wear it because she thinks it looks cute. Casual denim mini-skirts are almost a rite of passage for teenagers, and it would be a shame if you outright deny her this. If you are not too domineering, your daughter will not be tempted to wear anything very radical. If you give your daughter a certain amount of freedom, she will respect the few restrictions you lay on her. But if everything is restricted, your daughter is likely to wear whatever she likes behind your back. So if your daughter wants to buy a mini-skirt, don't issue an outright denial. Instead, go shopping with her so the two of you can come to a compromise on the length.
The Halter
The halter is another item of clothing most parents frown upon, which is a shame considering that the halter is one of the most versatile pieces of clothing. It can be worn with anything, and at anytime. A causal halter can be worn during the day for a shopping expedition in an Indian summer, in the evening for a cup of coffee, or at night. A halter shows off the shoulder lines, and it often also bares the top quarter of the back. If your daughter is a slim teenager with slim upper-arms, chances are that she will be able to carry off a halter with grace, so if she expresses an interest in wearing one, let her. You may not be very comfortable with the halters that bare the back, so compromise and go in for one which has a halter neck, but a full back. You could also suggest that she go in for a halter with a high neckline.
Name:
sax,
Country: other
miniskirts are cute and sexy and beutiful to look at and also to get excited about.
if i had a daughter she would be able to wear as short a skirt she would want even if she wants to show off her stockings,garters or panties.
Name:
juvi,
Country: india
i fail to understand one thing. why does girl fashion tend to showing off more body? i mean when you say that minis look cute, doesnt it come to your mind that it also shows more of your body? why cannot be designer body covering be more cute than short semi cladding clothes?
what i think is that it is actually normal for girls to show off and it is not bad since woman's body is a most beautiful thing to look at and admire in this world, so why to hide it behind clothes. but the problem is with the society that we live in.
another thing i would like to mention is that research has shown that girls wear the most skimpy clothing during the time of ovulation every month, which actually proves that they want to attract opposite sex at that time.
Name:
chloe,
Country: usa
breast coverage with a halter top is extremely important.i wear many styles that leave the entire back bare,with some leaving my entire midriff exposed,but always wear them with ample breast coverage.halters are supposed to be comfortable and enticing not look like you are an exotic dancer.
Name:
Tiffany,
Country: canada
i think that the article was very well written and accurate. it was also very openminded about today's youth culture. keep going! x0x
Name:
Sonia,
Country: India
totally agreed
Name:
nihirika,
Country: India
i think the girls should have freedom to choose their own attire, but also keep in mind the surrounding atmosphere and the comfort level.
Name:
rita,
Country: Canada
this is a very accurate article about indian parenting, and is not only true with dressing... a lot of other issues... relationships, friendships, ideas, etc
i was so glad to leave home, not because i did not love my family, but because, i know i could never develop an individual identity or taste over there- as i would always be pressed to believe what others and my parents did, and my having a strong opinion was not appreciated!
it still has not changed, but i feel more liberated living away, and also feel that i have a more cordial relationship with my family now, when i visit once a year - which is actually pretty sad, coz i don't confide at all in my parents :( :(
indian parents got to be more open minded about a lot of things, and realise that their kids are not that naive or "bad" to do "bad things". also try to understand the world from their perspective ...
Name:
Nisha,
Country: india
good tips about the daughter's clothings, and her senses when she will grow up...
Name:
leylani,
Country: Hungary
good article, but i wonder whether this was written by a woman. my husband keeps telling me that for most men, long shiny pants (call them leggings, churidar, whatever) are far more exciting than minis, though not so much revealing.
Do you pick your daughter’s clothes for her? How does she feel about it? Do you think it is necessary for parents to interfere with their daughter’s dressing sense?
