Are you contemplating to have a second baby? Read this article to find out if you are ready for having a second baby and if your child really needs a sibling.Having a child is itself a big change in your life. The dramatic adjustments and transition your body goes through is emotionally upheaval. When your baby goes well through the toddler stage, you can have the idea of doing it all over again because it is definitely overwhelming. But the question is: Do you really need a second child? In early ages, couples used to have multiple children as their children used to start working at an early age to help the family. But now, time has changed along with the cost of living, so big families are not anymore a necessity. Many couples consider having only one child but if you decide to have one more, it is only you who can judge if the decision is correct or not.
You may think that your child is lonely, brat, self-centered, wants attention, selfish, has a greater tendency of playing with imaginary friends, anti-social, and more prone to fall sick. But these are not always factual for every child, but there are certain advantages and disadvantages of going for a second baby.
Advantages of Having a Second Baby
Have a quick look at the advantage of having a second child.
Your child will have a partner to grow up with.
Your child will have less pressure to excel in schools and to prove master in different grounds as he or she will have a sibling to take care of it if needed.
You will tend to be less over-protective when you will have two children.
Your only child will not get bored of parental involvement as he or she will have a brother or a sister.
Your child will have less pressure of marrying or having a child when he or she will grow up in order to continue the family name.
Your child will share the responsibility to take care of elderly parents in future.
Your child will have the experience of having nephews or nieces in future.
You will be overwhelmed to experience the beauty of getting pregnant again.
You will have the great experience of seeing two children growing up together; the response, the interaction, the reaction, the playing between the two is a whole new experience.
You are an experienced mother now, so raising the second child is hardly difficult.
Now as you have a second child, time will pass like anything and you can never be bored.
Disadvantages of Having a Second Baby
Have a quick look at the disadvantages of having a second baby.
There can be monetary pressure now as you will have to raise a second baby.
Your children may not get the best in material things and otherwise.
Your children may get undivided attention from parents.
Single child is more independent, but having a second baby will cease that opportunity in them.
When you have a single child, you can save a lot of pre-baby lifestyle, but having two is giving yourself to parenthood completely.
With a second baby, your nap time again goes for a toss as it went when you had your first child, but now synchronizing your time will be more difficult than ever.
It will be very difficult to find out personal time for yourself.
With two kids, you will have more work and less time to finish them.
You Are the Judge, You Decide
Before having a second child, the questions that you must answer to are the following:
Are you financially capable of raising another kid?
Are you emotionally strong to take care of another child?
Are you giving enough time to your partner and not overlooking her or his needs?
Are you physically fit to bear a second child?
Are you neglecting other relationships for having children?
Does your partner also want a second baby?
If you answer “yes” to all the questions, you can readily look forward to have a second child, but if even a single question has a “no”, then think over the issue again and again before you take such an important life-changing decision. Good luck!Are only children happier than the children who have siblings? Why is it necessary for a child to have a sibling? Do only children grow-up into selfish and self-centred individuals? Discuss here.
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Ideal age between two siblings is between 2-4:years. Post that the more older the more generation gap.
I too am thinking of having a 2nd child, cousins can never replace blood bond siblings. And I dont want my child to grow up isolated and the world in the future is not gonna be easy. If you have 1 then raise them well with lessons to survive well, else having two with good bond is anytime better
It is true that every child must have a sibling but cost of raising a child is so high that all parents cannot give the best to both the children. So most of the parents contemplate to have a second child.
