Are you contemplating to
have a second baby? Read this article to find out if you are ready for having a
second baby and if your child really needs a
Having a child is itself a big
change in your life. The dramatic adjustments and transition your body goes
through is emotionally upheaval. When your baby goes well through the toddler
stage, you can have the idea of doing it all over again because it is
definitely overwhelming. But the question is: Do you really need a second
child? In early ages, couples used to have multiple children as their children
used to start working at an early age to help the family. But now, time has
changed along with the cost of living, so big families are not anymore a
necessity. Many couples consider having only one child but if you decide to
have one more, it is only you who can judge if the decision is correct or
What Worries You for Having Only One
You may think that your child
is lonely, brat, self-centered, wants attention, selfish, has a greater
tendency of playing with imaginary friends, anti-social, and more prone to fall
sick. But these are not always factual for every child, but there are certain
advantages and disadvantages of going for a second
of Having a Second Baby
Have a quick
look at the advantage of having a second
Your child will have a partner to
grow up with.
Your child will have less pressure
to excel in schools and to prove master in different grounds as he or she will
have a sibling to take care of it if
You will tend to be less
over-protective when you will have two
Your only child will not get bored
involvement as he or she will have a brother or a sister.
Your child will have less pressure
of marrying or having a child when he or she will grow up in order to continue
the family name.
Your child will share the
responsibility to take care of elderly parents in
Your child will have the
experience of having nephews or nieces in future.
You will be overwhelmed to
experience the beauty of getting pregnant
You will have the great experience
of seeing two children growing up together; the response, the interaction, the
reaction, the playing between the two is a whole new
You are an experienced mother now,
so raising the second
child is hardly
Now as you have a second child,
time will pass like anything and you can never be
Disadvantages of Having a Second
Have a quick look at the
disadvantages of having a second
There can be monetary pressure now as you will have to
raise a second baby.
Your children may not get the best
in material things and
Your children may get undivided
attention from parents.
child is more independent, but having a second baby will cease that
opportunity in them.
When you have a single child, you
can save a lot of pre-baby lifestyle, but having two is giving yourself to
With a second baby, your nap time
again goes for a toss as it went when you had your first child, but now
synchronizing your time will be more difficult than ever.
It will be very difficult to find
out personal time for
With two kids, you will have more
work and less time to finish them.
You Are the Judge, You
Before having a second child,
the questions that you must answer to are the
Are you financially capable of
raising another kid?
Are you emotionally strong to take
care of another child?
Are you giving enough time to your
partner and not overlooking her or his
Are you physically fit to bear a
Are you neglecting other
relationships for having
Does your partner also want a second
If you answer “yes” to all the questions, you
can readily look forward to have a second child, but if even a single question
has a “no”, then think over the issue again and again before you take such an
important life-changing decision. Good
Are only children happier than the
children who have siblings? Why is it necessary for a child to have a sibling?
Do only children grow-up into selfish and self-centred individuals?
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