Most often it is seen that sibling
rivalry starts even before the birth of the second child. This goes on
increasing and decreasing when the kids have to share everything from toys to
rooms and attention of their parents too.
Although you cannot completely stop the indifference but at least you
can minimize the conflicts to a great extent.
Reasons behind Siblings
There are numerous reasons for which siblings can fight.
However, some of the common causes are based on jealousy, competition and to
Growing Needs –
usually kids are very protective and possessive about their toys and
belongings. So if their younger brother or sister tries to play with those
toys, they react and most often get aggressive too. Teenagers
may react when their individuality and independence get hampered. They usually
show their reaction by not taking the responsibility of their younger one or
doing any household job or help.
– Your kids have different moods, natures and temperaments and these
characteristics play a vital role in how they behave with others. Every child wants
to have the attention of his parents and if he feels that his younger one is
getting more, he might react and show his anger by fighting with his younger
Get Attention –
Kids also fight to get attention from you. If you have been busy or not paying
attention to your kids’ demands and requests, it is possible that will start
fighting so that you come and listen to them, their problems or words.
Feels Slighted –
Kids fight when the younger one feels slighted as the elder one usually finds
it unacceptable to play with him. The older one feels that he is not a small
baby or playing with a small baby will make him become a subject of ridicule
among his friends.
Out of Habit – Most
often it is seen that siblings fight just because they have a habit to do so.
This usually happens if proper counseling along with right love and care is not
given to children right from the time the second child is born.
How to Handle Sibling
learn that you are aware of their feelings. Try to communicate and
demonstrate understanding so that they share their feelings
in words with you.
it clear to your kids that yelling and hitting is not part of game and is
attention to both your children and spend time with them.
siblings fight, they cannot stand to be separated. So, you can threaten
them if things get too far.
them designated place where they can have the freedom to decorate as they
please. Give them space so that they grow in a better way.
possible, do not get involved in the fight unless you see any harm to one
Remember, you cannot completely avoid indifference of
conflict. They are two individuals with different temperaments. No fight means no
interaction which is more dangerous than fighting. So, let them grow together
with love and fights. Just make sure that the special bonding gets stronger.