There is a difference between upbringing a boy and a girl. However, this difference should not get transformed into gender discrimination. Read onto learn more about the things that you should not tell or do to your son.
Men do not cry is a very common saying that is as old as society itself. A lot of people fail to realize that men too have emotions. Men might look and act tougher but they can also get hurt. A lot of men have complained to psychologists that nobody seems to understand them.
Sons are regarded differently from their very childhood. Parents feel that their sons are capable of enduring anything. They often say things to the son or expose the son to things that they would not expose their daughters to. Another problem that emerges is that men think they are superior. This is also something that is cultivated in the son from their very childhood.
Parents make their son feel like they are superior to the girls. This is the root of all patriarchy. Fathers abuse mothers and sons learn that behaviour. Parents should be extremely careful about what they say to their sons.
1. Do Not Abuse Your Son
Many parents feel that boys need to be disciplined and verbal abuse is considered as a method of disciplining them. They feel that such things would not affect a boy. In the long term, it does.
2. Do Not Tell Him that Boys Do Not Cry
Do not stereotype your son into a particular mode. They do not need to be like others. As a matter of fact being emotionally numb is not a sign of good mental health. Teach your son to express. Do not teach them to keep things within themselves.
3. Do Not Tell Him that He is Superior
There is enough inequality in the world without you contributing to it. Most men grow up and think they are superior to women. This is primarily because of how their parents have conditioned them in their childhood. Teach your son equality.
4. Do Not Tell Him that He Must Be the Best
A lot of parents invest all their hopes and dreams in their sons. While it is a good idea to spur your kid on, you must not pressurize them. Let them do what they like to. If your son does not take up what you wish them to, do not talk them down.
5. Do Not Tell Him that Girls are Silly
A lot of parents actually tell their sons all sorts of silly things about girls. They tell them that girls are weak, girls are foolish. It makes your son grow up with wrong ideas about the opposite sex.
6. Do Not Tell Him That He Must Be At the Top
Many men have the attitude that they are above the law and society. It is solely because the parents have overindulged the sons when they were young. They imbibe the idea that men can get away with anything. Sons learn these and develop such attitudes.
7. Avoid Telling Him that Boys Should Always Fight Back
It is a good idea to tell your son to defend themselves and stand up for wrong things. However, avoid telling them that they should always fight back. This might lead to violent behaviour in your son and they might pick up fights frequently in school.
8. Do Not Stop Him from Doing Chores
A lot of parents pamper their son and make their daughters do the household chores. That is very wrong. Your son will imbibe that idea and never learn to do chores and always treat his wife like some servant.
9. Do Not Force Him to Join Sports
Yes, many fathers keep telling their sons that they must love sports. They are often detested if they do not. It is wrong, let your son like what they want.
10. Do Not Allow Him to Waste Money
Yes, tell your son that money is important. Tell them that they need to have a good job. However, do not make them feel that money is all that matters by constantly talking about money to them. You need to be careful when dealing with boys too. Boys might act casual but they have all the feelings. You might be causing your son lifelong injuries.
What is the difference between an upbringing or a boy and that of a girl? Which things should parent never do in front of boys? What kind of things should parents never say to boys? Discuss here.
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