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10 Reasons Why Parents Should Never Separate



Separation of parents can cause disastrous effect on the lives of children. Read on to find 10 reasons why parents should never separate.

Putting an end to a marriage can be physically, emotionally and financially taxing. The rates of divorce are increasing all over the world and a number of reasons like bodily abuse, communication gap, addiction to alcohol and other substances and infidelity etc. however in context of children there are many reasons as to why parents should not separate.

A Kid Needs Both Parents

A child needs both parents living under one roof to give him or her sense of security. Depriving kids of one parent’s presence is like taking away a major share of children’s happiness. If you are considering divorce then you might want to think about whether you would willingly give your kid pain.

A Kid Needs To Know Parents Love Each Other

Knowing parents are together and committed to each other is important for a kid. This is how a trust and faith in relationships build up in a kids mind. Seeing warring and divorced parents shakes the world of children and makes them upset and frustrated.

Divorce Affects School Performance

Divorced parents are a painful emotional issue for the child. The emotional pain and trauma affects school performance in most cases and causes the grades of such kids to plummet. In many cases even bright top scoring kids fail tests and even drop out of school after their parents’ separation.

Social Stigma

In the sensitive world of a child the stigma of divorcee parents can seem overpowering. Apart from that natural stigma of the divorce, such a child will often imagine friends, older relatives, teachers, parents of friends etc; talking about them. The stigma and the feelings of inferiority cause such kid to withdraw and become social recluses.

Bad Example

A kid who has grown up in the context of a failed marriage is more likely to get divorced
as an adult. He or she is also more likely to shy away from relationships or will not trust the opposite gender. This happens because parents are the defining structure of relationships for the child.

Insecurity

A child whose parents have separated from each other’s often feels insecure about his or her future. There is a strong fear of abandonment and of not being able to see either parent again. The child may start displaying unusual or aberrant behaviour patterns due to this insecurity.

Loneliness

After separation of parents, the children are likely to withdraw in their own shells. Shunning the company of others is a natural phenomenon as children instinctively perceive that there is something wrong about their situation. Loneliness slowly strips children of their natural cheerfulness and gaiety.

Tendency Towards Substance Abuse

An older child who has seen parents separate is somewhat able to grasp the complexity and ugliness of the situation. There are cases where the kid cannot mentally accept the fact of separation and seeks relief or solace in other forms. One of the commonest manifestations of the tendency to escape is involvement in substance abuse. It is seen that kids of divorced parents are 70% more likely to indulge in substance abuse.

Behaviour Changes

Separation of parents is a big emotional blow for the child. This trauma can cause certain unhealthy changes in the behaviour pattern of children. Talkative, cheerful kids can switch off and become recluses or quiet restrained kids can become loud and bratty.These changes are all response patterns to parents’ separation.

Not Worth It

Apart from certain extreme cases, the trauma and pain of divorce is simply not worth it. Parents need to think about adjustment, mutual cooperation and concern about their kid’s future and save their marriage if they really love their kids. Separation is usually more disastrous for the children than for the actual couple.
If you are considering divorce then these reasons as to why parents should never separate should give you a fresh perspective.

What are the ill effects of separation of parents on children? Why should parents never separate? How can parents strengthen their relationship for the sake of their children? Discuss here.

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Amish.1 year ago
Divorce and separation can ruin the life of children. So parents should never play with the life of children.
 
 
 
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Hemali.1 year ago
No child can have a happy childhood if parents are divorced or are separated.
 
 
 
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Riya.1 year ago
It is very traumatic for kids to deal with the separation of parents.
 
 
 
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