There is no doubt parents want to do a lot for their kids. However, there are certain things that parents should never do when bringing up children. Read on to learn the top 10 things you should never do to your child.Parents want to give their child everything they can and sometimes while doing this they go too far and might harm the actual growth of their children, although unknowingly. All parents want the best for their children and they also want the best output from their children. This expectation leads them to do such things that actually harm the internal and external wellbeing of the child. In this articleHitting the ChildYelling at ChildIgnoring the ChildSwearing at ChildComparing Child with OthersCriticizing Kids in Front of OthersRejecting KidsPraising ExcessivelyPutting Pressure on Children to Do Well in ExamsBribing ChildrenTop 10 Things Parents Should Avoid DoingDoing certain things can affect your child’s self esteem as well as hamper his or her development. Here are certain things which you should never do as a parent. Hitting the ChildThere are times when you find that hitting worked to discipline your child, but it has adverse effects in the long run. One of them is that hitting children teaches them to take up the same option later on in life. This will distract the child and prevent him to learn resolving conflicts in effective and humane way. Yelling at ChildMany parents yell at their children when they do something wrong, knowingly or unknowingly. Remember, yelling will make them grow as an aggressive adults or someone who is shamed and withdraws.Ignoring the ChildIgnoring your child in any circumstance will increase the problem. If you ignore your child, they will get the same lesson and ignore their peers and others near to them when they grow up. Note that they may even ignore you.Swearing at ChildParents who swear at their children increase the risk of bad behaviour and depression in kids. It was even seen that these children lie to their parents and even steal and fight with other children at school.Comparing Child with OthersHigh expectations from their kids make parents compare them with others. Even if you want your child to do well, the best way is to motivate him so that he follows the path of a good example.Criticizing Kids in Front of OthersThis is one of the worst things that majority of the parents do. Remember this is emotional abusing and has extreme adverse effects on the personality of your child.Rejecting Kids Well, this might sound unbelievable to many of you, but many parents do this, unintentionally. If you refuse hugs to your child, do not allow him to take any decision or choice or physically abandon your child, you are conveying a message of rejection to your child. Healing from this can be really difficult.Praising ExcessivelyMost of you might not even distinguish this from praising normally. But if you do not praise your child honestly, you reduce motivation, create insecurity and make them have misplaced focus.Putting Pressure on Children to Do Well in ExamsEvery child is different and has different capabilities. It is good to expect the best from your child, but you should be able to distinguish between healthy pressure and unhealthy pressure. Bribing ChildrenAlthough bribes can be tempting and change your child’s behaviour for the time being, they are not good and healthy for the overall development of your child. It does not teach appropriate skills.When you are trying to discipline your child, just keep in mind that doing things certain things can have a long term effect on the wellbeing of your child. However yelling, screaming, swearing, threatening or hitting your child is negative no matter what the situation is. Let children know that mistakes are important for growth and they should learn from them. Let children know that you love them and like them as well.Is it alright to hit or yell at child occasionally? Which things should parents never do to their children? Is it necessary to be lenient with children all the time? Discuss here.
There is no doubt parents want to do a lot for their kids. However, there are certain things that parents should never do when bringing up children. Read on to learn the top 10 things you should never do to your child.Parents want to give their child everything they can and sometimes while doing this they go too far and might harm the actual growth of their children, although unknowingly. All parents want the best for their children and they also want the best output from their children. This expectation leads them to do such things that actually harm the internal and external wellbeing of the child.
Doing certain things can affect your child’s self esteem as well as hamper his or her development. Here are certain things which you should never do as a parent.
Hitting the Child
There are times when you find that hitting worked to discipline your child, but it has adverse effects in the long run. One of them is that hitting children teaches them to take up the same option later on in life. This will distract the child and prevent him to learn resolving conflicts in effective and humane way.
Yelling at Child
Many parents yell at their children when they do something wrong, knowingly or unknowingly. Remember, yelling will make them grow as an aggressive adults or someone who is shamed and withdraws.
Ignoring the Child
Ignoring your child in any circumstance will increase the problem. If you ignore your child, they will get the same lesson and ignore their peers and others near to them when they grow up. Note that they may even ignore you.
Swearing at Child
Parents who swear at their children increase the risk of bad behaviour and depression in kids. It was even seen that these children lie to their parents and even steal and fight with other children at school.
Comparing Child with Others
High expectations from their kids make parents compare them with others. Even if you want your child to do well, the best way is to motivate him so that he follows the path of a good example.
Criticizing Kids in Front of Others
This is one of the worst things that majority of the parents do. Remember this is emotional abusing and has extreme adverse effects on the personality of your child.
Rejecting Kids
Well, this might sound unbelievable to many of you, but many parents do this, unintentionally. If you refuse hugs to your child, do not allow him to take any decision or choice or physically abandon your child, you are conveying a message of rejection to your child. Healing from this can be really difficult.
Praising Excessively
Most of you might not even distinguish this from praising normally. But if you do not praise your child honestly, you reduce motivation, create insecurity and make them have misplaced focus.
Putting Pressure on Children to Do Well in Exams
Every child is different and has different capabilities. It is good to expect the best from your child, but you should be able to distinguish between healthy pressure and unhealthy pressure.
Bribing Children
Although bribes can be tempting and change your child’s behaviour for the time being, they are not good and healthy for the overall development of your child. It does not teach appropriate skills.
When you are trying to discipline your child, just keep in mind that doing things certain things can have a long term effect on the wellbeing of your child. However yelling, screaming, swearing, threatening or hitting your child is negative no matter what the situation is. Let children know that mistakes are important for growth and they should learn from them. Let children know that you love them and like them as well.
Is it alright to hit or yell at child occasionally? Which things should parents never do to their children? Is it necessary to be lenient with children all the time? Discuss here.
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Hi my son is very slow in eating ans he doeant eata well and fr studies also he throws loads of tantrums I try not to be harsh wid him and not get angry but somehow loose my patience how do I motivate him?
What u said about raising a child is very true. I have one son who will be 7 years in August 2014. I BELIEVE AND FOLLOW almost all the points u notified here. But my wife does not listen. My son complains THAT he is ill treated when i am in office and at times, even I have seen her abusing, swearing, hitting my son despite my request to control her anger. Son achieves around 80% -90% in school. He is obedient most of times but sometimes being a kid is little naughty as well. My wife does not understand English. She is M.A. History , a hindi Medium teacher. I financed her for studying and her completing B.Ed. after marriage. She is around 34 years old. Can you teach her how to behave well with kids and elders.
Sometimes it is very difficult to control and unknowingly parents do a lot of wrong things to kids. Some other things which parents should never do is fight with the spouse or use abusive langue.
It is necessary for parents to make a note of all the above things. Parents forget when they are angry or upset with the child and do the things which they should never do and feel guilty.