Teach your children how to be unbiased, so they can grow up to be good human beings capable of making sound judgments. Children, at a very young age, are tempted to discriminate against other children different from them, and this tendency gets magnified when they enter their teens. Teenagers, often owing to peer pressure, are easily prejudiced against classmates at the slightest pretext. This kind of behavior can be self-destructive for your child in the long run, because making wrong judgments about people based on prejudices can impair his ability to make the right decision as an adult. He may choose the wrong person to enter into partnership with, to hire, to fire, to work for, to work with and, to marry. In addition, people with strong prejudices are rarely able to look inwards to see whether the fault lies within them, and if they can do something to remedy their troubles. They often blame others for their own problems Heres how you can help your child grow into a balanced, non-prejudicial adult capable of making sound judgments. Children often take their cues from their parents behaviour, so if you ever see yourself making fun of a relative or speaking badly behind someones back, stop yourself. Teaching your child to hate your relatives will achieve nothing. Dont dwell on others mistakes. You can discuss them once to give your child an example of wrong behaviour, but dont discuss them over and over again. Turn inwards and take a look at your own prejudices. Are you prejudiced against a particular religion, community, class, caste of race? If yes, dont discuss your prejudices with your children. Even if your child may form his own opinions at a later stage and be more tolerant of other cultures than you are, he may develop prejudices in another form. Dont generalize critisism. If someone has upset you, dont make sweeping statements like: "These Hindus/Muslims/Sikhs/Christians/Parsis etc are all the same/cannot be trusted." Picture this. You go to a restaurant with your children and see a really fat person seated next to you. You point him out to your children, and all of you have a hearty laugh at that persons expense. What kind of message are you sending your children? That it is alright to discriminate or to make fun of someone based on their physical appearance. Instead, use the same situation as an example of how eating the wrong foods can lead to obesity, and which can lead to further health problems. Also, you can explain to your children how some people have health disorders that cause them to gain weight, and how others have eating disorders like anorexia. Ask your child if there are any fat children in his class, and if he makes fun of them. Discourage your child from such behavior, and at every step encourage your child to put himself in another persons shoes and see how it feels. This way you can help your child gain an understanding of a subject, have an intelligent discussion and learn something new. Praise the goodness in people every chance you get. This will teach your child to develop a more positive attitude, and be more optimistic in general.
Teach your children how to be unbiased, so they can grow up to be good human beings capable of making sound judgments. Children, at a very young age, are tempted to discriminate against other children different from them, and this tendency gets magnified when they enter their teens. Teenagers, often owing to peer pressure, are easily prejudiced against classmates at the slightest pretext. This kind of behavior can be self-destructive for your child in the long run, because making wrong judgments about people based on prejudices can impair his ability to make the right decision as an adult. He may choose the wrong person to enter into partnership with, to hire, to fire, to work for, to work with and, to marry. In addition, people with strong prejudices are rarely able to look inwards to see whether the fault lies within them, and if they can do something to remedy their troubles. They often blame others for their own problems
Here's how you can help your child grow into a balanced, non-prejudicial adult capable of making sound judgments.
Children often take their cues from their parent's behaviour, so if you ever see yourself making fun of a relative or speaking badly behind someone's back, stop yourself. Teaching your child to hate your relatives will achieve nothing. Don't dwell on others' mistakes. You can discuss them once to give your child an example of wrong behaviour, but don't discuss them over and over again. Turn inwards and take a look at your own prejudices. Are you prejudiced against a particular religion, community, class, caste of race? If yes, don't discuss your prejudices with your children. Even if your child may form his own opinions at a later stage and be more tolerant of other cultures than you are, he may develop prejudices in another form. Don't generalize critisism. If someone has upset you, don't make sweeping statements like: "These Hindus/Muslims/Sikhs/Christians/Parsis etc are all the same/cannot be trusted." Picture this. You go to a restaurant with your children and see a really fat person seated next to you. You point him out to your children, and all of you have a hearty laugh at that person's expense. What kind of message are you sending your children? That it is alright to discriminate or to make fun of someone based on their physical appearance. Instead, use the same situation as an example of how eating the wrong foods can lead to obesity, and which can lead to further health problems. Also, you can explain to your children how some people have health disorders that cause them to gain weight, and how others have eating disorders like anorexia. Ask your child if there are any fat children in his class, and if he makes fun of them. Discourage your child from such behavior, and at every step encourage your child to put himself in another person's shoes and see how it feels. This way you can help your child gain an understanding of a subject, have an intelligent discussion and learn something new. Praise the goodness in people every chance you get. This will teach your child to develop a more positive attitude, and be more optimistic in general.
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ts a very nice article! children imitate their parents and they are our reflection. we must try to inculcate the habit of teaching the right values for our children, giving them overall perspective of any issue.it is very bad to laugh at any person as it really hurts.
it is very bad to laugh at any person because it is not in his hands if he is black, short, etc... today you are laughing at someone and tomorrow someone laugh at you. it really hurts. put yourself in his place and see how it feels. its really hurts. because i am overweight. never encourage your child to do so. its is in your hands because children always follows their parents......
its a very nice article! children imitate thier parents and they are our reflection.
we must try to inculcate the habit of teaching the right values for our children, giving them overall prespective of any issue ,rather then just telling our kids what is right/ wrong.
let the kids decide themself.
Are you bringing up your children properly? Or have you made them prejudiced judgemental people? Is it important for kids to become rational logical persons?