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Does Your Child Lie?


Children tend to start lying at a very young age. This is because they have an active imagination and often get lost in their own fantasies. This apart, they do not have a clear perception of right from wrong as yet.


We as parents tend to ignore fanciful tales sprung by a child, but suddenly as the child grows up a little and lies about something more important, we get distraught. Why is our child lying to us, we wonder, and what do we do to stop this so it doesn't become a habit?


Don't overlook small lies

We often tend to forgive and overlook little lies, even smirk at them if they seem silly or funny. Don't do this. The next time you catch your child saying something untrue, check him there and then. Now, he may be lying about how his teacher caught a boy by the collar and hung him upside-down from the fan, but before long he will be lying about whether he studied at home when you were out, or whether he simply played the fool.


Punish him

After checking your child for lying, punish him by sending him to his room or taking away his favourite toy.


Speak to your child

Once your child realizes that it is wrong to lie, sit down and have a conversation with him. Teach him about the importance of saying the truth. It is surprising how many parents never really sit down with their children and tell them to be truthful. Your child should also be told that he may even be punished after speaking the truth, but that you will always be proud that your child spoke the truth and accepted his punishment instead of escaping punishment with a lie.


Reward truthful behaviour

Help your child practice honesty by questioning him on matters even though you already know the answers. Initially ask him only those questions where the truth will not get him into trouble. By doing so you will be building his character. Reward him when he speaks the truth.


Praise positive behaviour

The next time your child tells you the truth even though he knows by doing so he will be getting into trouble, do not shout at him as much. Take away a privilege like ground him for the evening but also make sure you praise him and tell you how proud you are of him. It also makes sense to praise your child to your friends when your child is within earshot. Tell your friend how proud you are that your child never lies to you, even if he knows he will be punished. Such praise will have a profound impact on your child, and he will be even more determined not to let you down.


Practice what you preach

You cannot expect your children to be honest if they sense that you are dishonest in some manner. You have to teach your children by example. So the next time you break something at home, instead of just throwing it in the bin, make sure everyone knows you have broken it, and that you are owning up. Remember, children learn what they see and life.

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Ishaan.2 years ago
we must save tress at all
 
 
 
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Ishaan.2 years ago
nice helper
 
 
 
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Gaurang Mishra.3 years ago
I would not take it as a serious issue when my kid lies to me. But this article has been an eye opener! Rewarding them when they say truth and punishing them when they lie will surely change them. Hope my daughter changes her habit soon.
 
 
 
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Naina.3 years ago
Lying is a very bad habit in Children. We need to deal with them separately and that too with love and care, then tell them this is a very bad habit and its side effects. They will definitely keep in mind the points you told.
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Aarti.7 years ago
very nice and informative.
 
 
 
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paresh shah.7 years ago
excellent this information & feedback it help me a lot
 
 
 
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paresh shah.7 years ago
excellent this information & feedback it help me a lot
 
 
 
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Lori.7 years ago
very superficial and poorly thought out.
 
 
 
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Smita Mishra.7 years ago
good theoritically.not working for me,any way! my daughter is mostly lovable senstive child, but given a chance will only lie!
 
 
 
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Troubled mother.7 years ago
my 6 year old son is an extremely smart and a intelligent child. he is prone to lying even when there is no need and the lies are so well fabricated that they seem like the truth. i think that if this habit continues then it might become a serious issue and he can be a habitual liar. can you please guide me as to how i should deal with this issue.

from a very worried mother
 
 
 
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