It is important to inculcate discipline in children at an
early age to later on avoid the consequences of too much of pampering. Read on
and find out the reasons for indiscipline in children and ways to deal with it.
Nowadays most children believe in having things in one way and one way only - their own. And god forbid, if they do not get things the way they like, there is hell to pay. Indiscipline is rampant in society today, where it is the parents who seem more afraid of their children rather than the other way around. Parents do not seem to realise that by giving in to the child's demands, they are only making him or her more uncontrollable and a menace to society.
Yes, indiscipline is a behavioral disorder that is classified as an act of delinquency. Just like, lying, stealing and playing truant or running away from home. It is often the cause of a lot of mental, emotional and also physical damage. Such as damage to property in homes as well as in schools. An undisciplined child is an uncontrollable child and can do just about any damage when he or she does not get whatever he or she wants.
In the home environment
Who is to blame for the way a child
turns out? Is it the fault of the parents' and their faulty upbringing,
peer pressures or the fault of society at large? Today's parents lay the
blame completely on the demands of society. When asked why she allowed
her daughter to return home after 12 a.m. at night, Mrs. Joshi revealed
that as all the other parents in the compound were allowing their children
out together, she could not very well stop her daughter. Besides, her daughter
was not going to listen to her in any case. Mr. Joshi thought it better
to adjust to the times than to lose his daughter completely. The one time
that he had tried to stop his daughter from going out, she had thrown her
plate of food on the floor and not eaten for two days. As you can see,
parents feel helpless.
But we must try and analyse how such
a situation has come about. It has been observed that most people like
spending time by themselves and actually encourage their children to stay
out of their hair. Maybe they are working the whole day and just want a
couple of hours of peace. In this way, they begin to alienate the child,
who finally reaches a stage where he or she does not need them anymore.
By now, the parents finally realise that they are losing their family and
support system for their old age, and begin to give in to everything that
their growing teenager demands, just to keep them happy, and in his or
her good books. The situation is too late to remedy at this stage.
Over the last decade, the standards
of discipline are fast deteriorating in the school environment too. School
is just not what it used to be anymore as very few schools are able to
maintain the same standards of behavior. May be the teachers' do not have
that same confidence and commanding personality as they used to. Or maybe work pressures have increased to such a degree that all the teachers can
think of is completing the curriculum on schedule. Quite obviously, most
of them seem to lack the dedication to go beyond the call of duty and the
syllabus and contribute to the all-round development of the child.
One can not really blame them entirely,
when you observe the huge number of children in each classroom, and the
added burden of two to three shifts. To top all of this, the number of
subjects and books have also increased tremendously and most children are
finding it difficult to cope with these extra burdens. Most parents too,
reason why they send their children for tutorials and serve to further
increase their load. It is a vicious circle. Not only this, today's education
system does not prepare the child for employment. The curriculum is far
removed from practical knowledge and this makes the child's mind and feet
wander. So as we can see, the basic fault lies with the education system.
What can or should
If the child is offered practical
courses that cater to his requirements, he will have a purpose and therefore
less time to indulge in indisciplined behaviour. His restlessness will
be curbed, as he will be better occupied. But until then, it is the
duty of the teachers to help the child to cope with the load and to find
a workable solution for those children who are breaking under the pressure.
The parents too can contribute by spending quality time with the child,
and taking a deeper interest in what is happening at school. They should
make an effort to meet the teachers and find a solution to make their children's'
schooling more productive and satisfying. Once the child realises that
his parents are really interested in his welfare he might be willing to
meet them halfway, rather than demanding his own way all the time.
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- The Indiaparenting Team