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Unplanned Pregnancies

You are a sexually active woman. Both you and your partner have been using some form of birth control. Then you miss your period. You don't take it seriously because you have been so careful about contraception. Initially, you tell yourself that these things happen. May be it's the stress or just a routine glitch in your menstrual cycle. After all, women rarely menstruate like clockwork. But just to make sure you take a home pregnancy test. The test is positive. You are pregnant! But you are not turning cartwheels with joy.

For the average woman, finding out that she is pregnant means that it is time to break out the champagne (non-alcoholic!). However, the average woman is probably also married, healthy, financially stable, and the pregnancy has been planned and is the result of consensual sex. Take the case of a woman who has become pregnant after she has been raped. Or consider a woman for whom pregnancy is dangerous. What if the woman is not physically, mentally or financially capable of looking after a child? What about teenage pregnancy?

Pregnancy is not a welcome occurrence for women who do not want to become pregnant for whatever reason. Having a child is something that requires planning and should be a voluntary well thought-out decision. It is the woman who has to carry the baby in her womb for the next nine months and both parents have to bear the tremendous responsibility that rearing a child entails. While making a baby is fun and games, bringing up the child is not a joke. Conception is only the first step on the long journey of parenthood.

Faced with an unplanned pregnancy, a woman has three choices. She could have the baby and face the consequences; she could carry the baby to term and then give it up for adoption; or she could terminate the pregnancy.

Women who cannot bring themselves to abort the baby should remember that having the baby is not always the smartest decision. If the mother is unmarried, both the child and the mother will bear the stigma of illegitimacy. It is not easy bringing up a child alone. Sometimes children from single parent households are not as well-adjusted as other children.

In the case of women who opt to carry the baby to term with the intention of giving it up for adoption, they often discount the bond that develops between mother and baby after nine months in the womb. Women often do not anticipate what a wrench it is to give up the baby to strangers after nurturing her in the womb for nine months. They should remember that adoption is not a reversible decision.

Most women balk at the thought of having an abortion. This is only natural. Terminating a pregnancy is a major decision and one that women should not take lightly. Women should not view abortion in a casual manner as another means of contraception. You don't get rid of a baby merely because you have been careless or because it is inconvenient to have one. But if you have not planned to have a baby and if you cannot give it a good life after it is born, then you should seriously think about having a child. It is not enough to give a child the gift of life. You must be able to ensure a certain quality of life. The point is that women should have the right to choose.

There are two camps on the controversial issue of abortion: pro-life and pro-choice. The pro-life camp is anti-abortion. In their opinion, a foetus is human from the moment of conception. Therefore, having an abortion is equivalent to murdering a baby. The pro-choice camp is for abortion, believing that the decision to have the child should rest with the mother. Debates have been raging around the world on the issue. Governments have vacillated, wondering whether to legalize abortions. In countries where abortions are illegal, women who do not have the financial resources to secure the cooperation of a doctor have been forced to go to quacks who often do not know what an abortion entails. They perform invasive procedures in the most unsanitary conditions that have resulted in complications like damage to the woman's reproductive organs, infertility and even death.

Where does that leave us? While most women have an opinion on this issue, either pro-choice or pro-life, they are often surprised when it comes to making a personal decision. Theory often flies out of the window when you have to put it into practice. There is no 'right' decision. What is 'right' will depend on the circumstances of every pregnancy.

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jana.3 years ago
Amor, How old is this second child...we can help you out if you are willing to give it up for adoption. contact me - janasai34gmail
 
 
 
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jana.3 years ago
Amor, How old is this second child...we can help you out if you are willing to give it up for adoption. contact me - janasai34gmail
 
 
 
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raj.6 years ago
I am 43 yrs, and my wife is 38 yrs . I am suffering with Psoriatic Arthritis. Now I am taking herbla based medicine for Psoriatic arthritis. Can we go for a second baby. Pls advise.
 
 
 
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Swathirani M.6 years ago
I had gone for MTP on Feb 10th. and the bleeding was there for 10days. After MTP when I had gone for ultrasound pelvis scan it is observed that still some chunks are left. I wanted to go for remedy. Please help me in this regard
 
 
 
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Sharon.7 years ago
i am a catholic and i don't believe in abortion. i feel that if you have an unplanned pregnancy, a woman has no choice but to carry the baby to
term.
 
 
 
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amor.7 years ago
well i am pregnant and it is unplanned. i want to have an mtp. i have a 2 year old daughter,she is my priorty. i wantall my attention on her at this moment when she is 5 i will go for another baby.and to choose is right
 
 
 
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anamika.7 years ago
it is very hard(& sad) for a woman to take the decision of abortion. but sometimes it is a wise decision(even in marraige) for health reasons, career options or anything else.however,as the article says abortion is not a means of contraception. women should take utmost care so they are not faced with this dilemma of unplanned pregnancies & abortion. but if u confront one, decide for yourselves and be firm on the decision. do not bend to pressure tactics from ur parents, relatives and in-laws. you are the one to bear the child and look after it, it is a decision which affects your whole life and noone else has the right to decide what you should be doing.
 
 
 
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geeta citygirl.7 years ago
as a native new york sister, i am glad to have landed on this site. my view is simple -- it's my body and it's my choice! no law, no government, nobody can make a decision about my body! each sister has her own unique situation and it's nobody's job to judge or tell her what to do. i believe god (or the higher power) is within each of us and when we make a decision, we are doing this with the help of the supreme power. i honor and bow to the divine within everyone and therefore never judge anyone. think before you speak!
 
 
 
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deepika.7 years ago
ihad an unplanned pregnancy
just after one month of
marriage.what should i do?
 
 
 
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Andi Fitzpatrick.7 years ago
i think i might have an unplanned pregnancy. what should i do? should i take a pregnancy test or should i just assume that i'm not pregnant?
 
 
 
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