Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean your sex life is going to take a nosedive and be relegated to cold storage for nine months! In fact, sex at this time can be great fun, since you don't have to worry about birth control anymore! So throw away the rubber. You won't need them for another nine months. However, there are certain things you need to consider.
1. If the woman is in the category of 'high risk pregnancies', then it is better to stick to standard sexual positions. Leave fantasy out of the bedroom for a while, or consult your physician to find out what positions are safe in your particular case.
2. In the case of a normal pregnancy, it's perfectly safe to have sex until the woman's water breaks. After than, any sexual intercourse or insertion into the vagina can cause infection.
3. Now's the time, more than ever, to stay faithful to your spouse. This not the time to catch an STD, as it could seriously harm your baby.
4. In all likelihood, women may have longer lasting orgasms than when they were not pregnant. Enjoy it while it lasts! This is perfectly normal.
5. Some women may experience cramps after an orgasm. This is also normal and not a cause for concern.
6. Cunnilingus (going down on a woman), is fine, but make sure that no air is blown into the vagina.
7. Sometimes a woman may notice spotting, or she may start bleeding from her vagina. If this occurs, she should consult her gynaecologist immediately. Until the gynaecologist has given her the green signal, sexual activity should be stopped.
8. After delivery, wait for 4 to 6 weeks before resuming intercourse, in the case of a normal delivery. If the woman has had a c-section, the wait may be longer, depending on the time it takes for the stitches to heal. If the pain is still there, consult your gynaecologist before having sex.
9. Sometimes, while nursing, the woman may get aroused. She may even have an orgasm. This is perfectly normal, so there's no need to beat yourself up with feelings of guilt.
10. When having sex after delivery, if the woman is still nursing, milk may leak from her breasts during orgasm. This, again, is perfectly normal and no cause for concern.
11. Her vagina may not get as lubricated as it did pre-pregnancy, especially during the period she is still nursing. Make use of artificial lubricants like KY Jelly. Steer clear of Vaseline!
12. And remember, if sex is not on the cards as often as you like, focus on romance. Do things together. Sing to your baby, go for long walks, hold hands, or just cuddle up. It's time to fall in love - all over again!
