Teenagers and Peer Pressure

i grew up outside india. my parents have often scolded me for the teni-wini mistakes that i have comitted and they have said that it was going to cost alot.
indians are a group of people who holed tradition and values as a major stakeholder in the up bringing of children. it shocks many an indian parent to see that his kid is smoking or drinking and dressing inaproprately.
i have had many parents tell me that rtheir children are the vicinms of negative peer influence and the media. and i believe that this is a sentiment that many parents who are reading this would share.
however we should always keep in mind that some forces are inevitable and that no matter how kids are brought up, soem influences will remain.
thus as a parent, it is ones responsivlity to set a good example and also give the equl and most attention to growing children. showing children that mom and dad care, will in itself drive home the message that doing something wrong will upset the parents.
it is imporatnt that parents are also not overtly protective . let nature take its course and at the same time stick your oars in.
i wish all parents of adolscents a happy and enjoyable time.
though you amy feel that you will fall at the rocky edge hold on don't ever give up. you may be giving up more than you think you are

i couldn't say anything to him, as i was a smoker myself.

i think your son is right ..... set an example and your kids will follow

i disagree with the part that says depressed teenagers complain of psychosomatic illnesses "to get attention" or because they want sympathy. while that may be true in some cases, that is definitely not true in others.

depression can sometimes actually bring physical pain, not just imagined pains in people who want attention.

i think the article should inclue how the pains are not always imagined, sometimes they are real. they are the effects of depression. not everyone just wants attention.

i think mostly everything said as true. i have a 15 year old and she is showing the exact signs of depression, and it honestly hurts me that my daughter is depressed. but im goint to try some of the ways to stop the depression ways. thanks for the help. :)

i am 16 taking my a-levels and i think i am depressed... all i see as a positive thing is the way i was when i was a child - i don't see other people and say i want to be like them.

i will hold on as some of you have said here.

"psychosomatic illnesses: depression can result in a teenager displaying psychosomatic symptoms like dizzy spells, headaches, stomach-aches, etc. in an attempt to garner some sympathy. they feel that this is the only way they can get some positive attention. their supposed indisposition can also get them out of uncomfortable situations that they may not want to face." i agree with this statement, although only to an extent. i think it is unfair and incorrect to say that their feeling ill is simply a cry for attention, as sometimes depression can cause a teenager so much discomfort, pain, anxiousness, stress, etc. that they do actually feel physically sick and emotionally drained. as someone said before, "these are the effects of depression. not everyone just wants attention." i agree with this fully. although there are people who use their depression (or even the excuse of depression) as an attention seeking excuse, some people actually manage or choose to hide their depression so well, that the rest of the world is clueless to the pain behind their ingenious mask. furthermore; sometimes a depressed teen does not wish to be like someone else, but merely to feel happiness again, or to have their peers recognize them and appreciate them, or simply to be improve who they already are. i think one of the reasons that so many teenagers whom do not have obvious reasons to becoming depressed, is because of this stereotypical sense of perfection we all try, and fail, to achieve. as no one is perfect, and if everyone was, then it would be a truly boring and unimaginative world. it is our imperfections that make us unique and our imperfections that make us beautiful. we should learn to laugh at our mistakes, and accept ours (and others) flaws. we should not insult others to increase our popularity, or our own self value, we should instead compliment others and encourage others; treating all with the equality they deserve. causing another to smile, can actually make you yourself, feel happier. i think parents should accept and know their own flaws, and learn to love them, and show this to their children; so that their children in turn can accept and love their own flaws. depressed people do need help, even if they do not ask for it. if you think your child is depressed, speak to them, help them, and find them help! depression is not something people 'just get over' or 'snap out of'. it is a long, slow, painful and draining illness, that will need the support of loved ones/others in order for them to recover from it. don't give up! even though sometimes the hardest part of living is taking every breathe, there is never a reason large enough to stop living. if you allow it, and try hard enough, things will get better.

some people really struggle with self-harming, and i am sick of people who do not struggle with it, and instead use 'cuts' as an attention seeking, or popularity method to get into a certain crowd. some people feel real pain, and need real hope. and it is not something to joke about or take lightly. so grow up kids, please.

firstly, i completely agree with 'anonymous, jamaica'.
something i would like to contribute to this is that, i am sick of people saying to other people 'they have no reason to be sad'. it is people's on perspective that makes them upset, and although perception is rarely reality, it is for that person.
that's all :)