Is your teen a bully or a victim of bullying?
Get to know the facts regarding bullying and peer pressure to prevent
irreversible harm to the emotional psyche of the teen.
Peer pressure can be defined as the
stress and strain that the respective individual is subjected to in order to
behave, act and think and even appear in a certain manner. During teenage this peer
pressure becomes more evident and renders
the maximum impact, whether positive or negative.
When the impact is negative, it is a
serious cause for worry as the teenager
can be pulled into the ring of undesirable habits and acts through bullying. It
is thus important to know certain vital facts regarding bullying
and peer pressure.
It is best described as a manifestation
of youth violence that is incredibly pervasive in our society. It is better for
the parents and kids to acknowledge the fact and this will equip them with
strength and solutions to deal and overcome it. Bullying is a very serious issue
that can potentially render immensely harmful effects like social and emotional
anguish, mental and/or physical injuries and in extreme cases even death.
Bullying is very rampant in lower and
higher schools and colleges. Parents need to carefully observe and understand
whether the teen is a bully, a victim of bullying or both; as in many cases, the
one who gets bullied initially turns into a bully eventually in order to vent
out the suppressed frustration.
is Bullying Bad?
Apart from the harmful aspects of
bullying mentioned earlier, bullying renders often certain irreversible damage
in the emotional psyche of the teen. Since the teenage is a vulnerable stage in
the life, the individual is liable to suffer its long term consequences like
esteem in studies, career and
relationships, depression, prone to drug, alcohol, smoking and substance abuse,
vandalism, sexual crimes and even prone to suicidal tendencies.
between Bullying and Peer Pressure
When bullying takes place through the
peer group, it can be dangerous for the teen. On one hand it is practically
difficult to get out of the situation as the teen does not readily have the
option of changing the school or neighbourhood, and besides, there is no
guarantee that the bullying will not happen in another school, neighbourhood or
hostel. The child becomes a victim when the bullying peer group evolves or
exists as a strong unit. The teen gives in to the fear
of upsetting a group that is powerful. He often imagines a threatening
situation or the peer group creates it in order to cause fear in the victim.
Bullying Takes Place?
It has been found in many cases that the
members of the group who bully others are themselves suffering from a disturbed
state, be it due to their family or any event that has occurred in their
environment that has caused considerable disturbance in their thoughts.
Bullying a mechanism to resort to
violent actions in order to vent out some pent up distress and frustrations.
They try to seek solace and derive a degree of sadistic pleasure by causing
fear and harm in other fellow school mates. The perpetrators of this violence
are mostly aware that their activities can cause harm to the individual and
themselves, but it is a sort of vicious vengeful tendency where they want the
victim to feel and suffer the impact the negative behaviour along with them.
They want to extend the group and grow in numbers so that they accumulate
enough ‘power’ to upstage the ‘good’. There is an underlying feeling of
tremendous insecurity that pushes them more towards the undesirable behaviour
and acts, as they feel if they do not resort to them, they might get ‘lost’.
So, what can be the way out? Bullying and
peer pressure is a very pervasive and extensive issue to have any simple
solutions. Each case is relative and the most that one can generalise the
condition is to ensure that we are able to provide the correct growing up
environment for our kids. Often our engagement with our own lives and profession
alienates us from our kids who not require material but a great deal of
emotional support. As parents and guardians we need to ensure that we are there
always for the kid whenever required, and also provide them with the assurance
that they can depend on us, regardless of the situation. Whether a bully or a
victim, it is this approach that can be counted as the initial healing touch.