Is your child a target of peer pressure and bullying?
Learn about the bullying and peer pressure facts and know the ways by which you
can stop the occurrence of bullying.
The act of bullying can be verbal or
physical, but it inevitably has a hostile intent. It always takes place when
there is a power disparity, even in an apparently innocent and so-called simple
environment as a school. Bullying
can affect the victim in a direct or an indirect manner, but when the peer
group involves in the aggression, it is a serious situation. Even those who are
not the target of bullying can bear the impact of bullying, the implication is
to the bystanders or ‘witnesses’ in schools, as they suffer from fear
and guilt for not helping out the victim. So they become indirect victims of bullies.
Three Vital Elements of Bullying
- An act of intimidation has been always intentional and the motive is to cause dread, anguish and harm the victim which can be either verbal or physical or both. In the current world, it can even be through the electronic medium like mobile phones and through social networks. Apart from being physical or psychological, bullying can also be sexual.
- There is a marked imbalance of power. This can be a tricky one, as the imbalance can be a mere fear or idea in the mind of the victim, or real, that is not just perceived.
- The acts of intimidation or attacks are repeated over time, so as to instill the fear dominantly in the minds of the victim.
Types of Bullying in Teens
The different types of bullying in the teens
are as follows.
This can be as simple as calling names,
gossiping, spreading rumours, hurling abuses
and insults and teasing. For a sensitive mind, these can scar the psychological
state if pursued over time consistently.
There can be myriad ways to bully in a
peer group like shoving, hitting, punching, pinching or kicking, or even
tripping the victim.
This can get serious when it involves acts
like gesturing in a threatening manner or gesturing to cause embarrassment,
stalking or deliberate ignoring making the victim feel excluded and unwanted in
Via the Electronic Medium
Cyber bullying are done via mobile
phones, that is, through text messages, or using the internet that is via
e-mails, or chats and social networks.
This involves acts of intentional
touching or groping. There can be various other ways in which sexual bullying
can be carried out even in the midst of a crowd so that the victim feels
threatened but unable to retaliate or even speak about it.
Finally, the ultimate objective is to
stop the occurrence of bullying even before it takes place. This requires the
involvement of all parents,
system and also the neighbourhood
communities. The prevention of violence of every form should be the goal. It
can get tricky as the victim can transform into a bully as he has experienced
the pain and shame and thus runs across as a vicious cycle. So building of a
positive environment is very important. The behavioural skills of the kids
should be enhanced as well as the social interactive skills and aid in positive
emotional development. These all act as barriers for the birth and growth of
violence at an early stage.