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Name:
Shibani (NewZealand)
Country: other
hey hey hey people! want some great advice from a little bird? there is a saying that a child needs just three days to change his habits. the sooner the better. so try to put your kid in his cot the first day (start it from thursday so that at the end of third day you will have weekend to take rest) during bedtime and draw the curtains and leave the room. he would at first get a bit confused and then cry but mind you that will be a cry of protest that no one is there to pat him or cradle him to sleep! after a while he might either stop crying and go to sleep or go on crying for another hour or so... but control yourself by not showing your face to him. maybe if he is persistant then go and soothe him for a while to go to sleep by putting your hand on his body and rubbing it gently on him. next, get ready for the second day, allow him to crib and protest again during night...but again don't try to enter his room. i know its is going to be really hard...i'm telling you all this by experience! be ready for the final third day when your kid will finally realise that you mean it when you put him to bed and draw the curtains and leave the room - sleep time folks!;o)) |
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Ginny
Country: usa
my baby slept throught the night at 6 weeks, 12 hours a night, then, at 4 1/2 months, she started waking 2 times a night again, and the only thing that will get her back to sleep is feeding her. i have tried and tried to let her cry, but, she won't stop and i have 3 other kids that i don't want her to wake up. i am my wit's end trying to get her to sleep all night again. she will be 6 months old in 1 week. |
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Name:
Dave
Country: usa
your opinion that baby should be sleeping through thte night at six months is inaccurate and misleading. every baby is different so to try and set a standard for all babies is nonsensical. leaving a baby to cry is cruel and psychologocal damaging because they will learn their needs are unimportant. the greatest gift you can give your baby is to let her/him know that you are there for them always. |
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Name:
mandm
Country: australia
we started the same routine for our second child as we did for our first. give them those first 2 (zombie) weeks to adjust to being in the big wide world. then you must begin the same routine every night. dinner, bath and bed. you must do it within the same time every evening. it takes them a few nights but in the end they get the idea. we have stuck to this routine since our daughter was born in 2000. now we have our 6 month old boy in bed at 6.30pm every night and our daughter in bed at 7.30pm. that leaves us some special time to ourselves. heaven!!!! |
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Name:
erika
Country: usa
i think letting your baby "cry it out" for long periods of time is cruel. if you have the power to soothe your baby, whether it means staying up at night a little longer or getting out of bed to pick him up to show him you care, why would you want him to cry and feel a sense of desparation? babies are just that..babies and they need constant love and care. to let him cry it out will make your baby feel like he is left all alone and helpless and that is just cruel. the best thing to do is not to let your baby take long naps during the day. if he normally takes a one hour nap, wake him after 30 mins and play with him or take a stroll. keep your baby active during the day and stimulate his brain with games and toys, and he will get tired at night because of all the stimulation. not only will your baby get smarter, but you will get more sleep at night to if you spend the time stimulating him during the day. |
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Zahava
Country: usa
i was horrified to read that you advocate letting the baby "cry it out". the baby will not "learn" to sleep through the n9ight (although he/she wi;ll eventually do so when you ignore their cries). what the baby will learn is that her parents are not there when she needs them. |
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Name:
peanut
Country: usa
my 7 month old won't sleep through the night either - she is up at least once to eat but she will go right back to sleep - any suggestions? |
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Name:
Jeri
Country: usa
my mom told me about the water trick, and it worked after 3 nights with my 1 month old son. he increased his milk intake during the day and slept through the night after that. bliss. |
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Eric
Country: usa
i have tried to put my baby down and ingnor her crying, but she will go on for hours in the middle of the night crying for someone to pick her up. when she is picked up she almost instantly falls asleep in my arms. but, when trying to put her down again she automaticly wakes up when she reaches the mattress. what should i do??? |
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Stacey
Country: usa
i think crying it out feels cruel but all of the books say to do so and i know that i didn't do this with my son who was my first child and he is four and still sleeps with us and wakes up if he's not in our bed. now with my five month old i am trying that method of crying it out. i am surprised by how many people are saying this is "cruel". it's not cruel if you need time for yourself, time with your spouse and you know your child is exhausted and needs to rest. telling them you love them, rubbing them back a bit, kissing them, will help her know she loves you. |
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Cindi
Country: usa
my six month old wakes frequently during the night and the only thing that has been working is to bring him to my bed. i have done a lot of research and although it sounds like it is still protested the "ferber" method is what i am going to try. it isn't suggesting crying it out it is a program that goes in intervals so the baby doesn't feel abandoned because you are going in there just not immediately and not constantly picking the child up out of their crib. we'll see if it works, i sure hope so because sleep is so important for children i don't care if i get any but my baby needs his :) |
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Name:
STeve
Country: canada
our son is 5 months old and wakes in the night every 2 to 2.5 hours. he is a tummy sleeper and now turns over and crys. any suggestions? |
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Angela
Country: usa
my son is 7 months old and he is just now learning to sleep through the night. i tried the "crying it out method" but it did not work. i just put him on a schedule (meals and naps the same time every day, and the same bedtime routine) and he started to adjust 4 days. all babies are different, but it will get better. |
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Name:
Nat
Country: england
my 21 month old sleeps well through the day but at night when it's quite she wake's up. and she's awake untill 3:00am. she sleeps untill i turn the t.v off and shes awake 30 mins later .doesn't sleep agian till 5:00pm. |
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Dawn
Country: usa
my daughter is 7 months old now, and wakes 4-5 days out of the week at night. she will wake up usually only once, but she wakes screaming. she dosen't want a bottle or anything, just to be picked up and rocked. we rock her back to sleep and she usually is fine the rest of the night. we have not idea why she does this or if we can change it. we tried let her cry and that didn't work. she just got wound up and screamed alot. so, much so it took us 45 minutes to calm her again. it's easier to just get up and it feels right, but its hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. we keep wondering if she will still be doing this at 5. ugh. |
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Name:
ana
Country: france
my one month old baby woul take only 20-40 mins naps through out the day and night. he keeps this schedule atleast three days of the week and rest of the days he would sleep fine atleast 14-18 hrs. he will wake up to be fed and changed and then will go back to sleep. but some days, like i said he would only take several nap 20-40 min long. is it normal for babies his age? what can i do to change? please advice. |
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Name:
Aash
Country: india
hi,
my baby is of 9 month she is not sleeping at night whole day i am not feeding her but at mid night she wakes up
she cries loudly & i have to feed her i & my husband cant sleep at night please help me i am working so it is difficult to wake at night. |
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Name:
Mandy Gaoza
Country: england
my baby wakes up about two to three times a night to feed,how do i teach him to sleep thru out the night? |
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Name:
ky morris
Country: england
my 11month old son does not sleep during the day but also wakes numerous times during the night.unfortunately we have got into all the wrong habits like rocking him to sleep and giving a night time feed. we have also tried letting him cry it out- this is failing dismally.also the baby whisperer advises that the cry it out technique is extremely wrong. any information on what we really should be doing would be gratefully recieved. last night i was awake from 3am until 6am. help!!!! |
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Name:
tracey
Country: england
my son is just over four months old. he wakes frequently during the night and will only fall back to sleep with a breast feed. we are considering the controlled crying method. i have just ordered tracy hogg's book "the secrets of the baby whisperer". has anyone tried and succeded with her method? |
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Name:
Tire Mom
Country: canada
my son is 6 1/2 weeks old now and he still wakes up ones at night for feeding. i try to increase the amount (5oz.)formula for his bedtime feeding but he still wakes up at night. what can i do to get him sleep through the night. help...i really need my rest to take care of him during the day. |
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Name:
Iyer
Country: india
how can you let the baby cry..will it not have some adverse effect??? my son is 9 mths old and he still gets up. he does not sleep till i feed him ....help!!!! |
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Name:
nicki
Country: england
my son slept in his cot in our room until he was 10mths old he always woke at night i would breastfeed him and put in back in his cot as feeding would send him off to sleep..we then put him in his own room much to my sadness. the first few nights he slept though (he couldnt here my husbands snoreing i thought) but then he started to wake again seveal times a night everynight i then decided if it was after midnight he would come in bed with me so we both got sleep. by 13mths we were so tired we were told to try the controlled crying. it broke my heart to here him cry in anger and not getting his own way and wondering what was happing the first night i went back every 10 mins then 20mins etc this didnot work he knew if he keep crying i would come aventulary 3hrs he cryed for in total stopping when i enterd the room. i cried my eyes out and refused to continue i stayed in the room and kept my hand on his back ,when he stood up i would give him a cuddle over the top of the cot and laid him back down i repeated this every time antill he feel asleep not saying a word so the2nd night i did not leave the room but repeatedly laid him back down rubbed his back tried not to let the crying upset me but i still cried, after four day he would go to sleep with in minutes and no crying. i can now lay him down rub his back say night night walk to the door blow a kiss and he will look at me and smile ,i walk away and he goes to sleep so happy.. i know its a long message but it work and its not so upseting as leaving them to cry alone ..your there with them and they know you love them even thought they cry to start with ..change is hard to except even for a baby good luck everyone p.s bedtime routine is so important dinner bath story bed...enjoy you little love buddels.. |
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Name:
Tino
Country: usa
our 3 month old is breast feeding and also on 3 ounces of formula. she feeds every three hours during the day but sleeps about 4 to 5 hours during the night. our problem is not being able to lay her back down right away due to reflux. this poses a delay and has us losing even more sleep than usual. any thought? |
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Name:
jo
Country: england
my baby was waking up to 5 times a night from 4 months. he always ended up in the bed from about 9.30. the only advice any health visitor gave me was to do controlled crying or let him cry it out. i was horrified at the thought of leaving a baby alone crying in the dark, although i came close to doing it as me and my husband nearly reached the end of our tether. luckily i found a book called 'the no cry sleep solution'. it was such a relief to read about other mothers in much worse situations (babies waking every hour at 1 year old!). i followed the instructions in the book and have to say it was hard - i moved a camp bed next to my babies cot and slept next to him for about 3 weeks, so that i was there for him straight away when he woke. the book teaches how to withdraw your support gradually so that eventually the baby goes back to sleep themselves. my baby only cried for a bit the first night when i didnt lift him out of the cot, but i was there to comfort him so knew he wasnt frightened. after three weeks he was sleeping through and i moved out. he sleeps through now most of the time, but if he is teething or has a cold he will wake in the night. because i know that there is a cause if he wakes it means i am a lot more patient and always get him out of his cot and comfort him. as soon as the spell of teething has passed he goes back to sleeping through. i am proud that i have never left him to cry, and hope that other mothers who feel uncomfortable with controlled crying will get some hope from the fact that there are other solutions. |
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