Politeness is one of the important virtues which parents must encourage children to imbibe. Read on to find tips for teaching the art of polite conversation. Children are prone to interrupting Children are definitely not born good conversationalists. As a matter of fact, their self-absorption leads them to conduct monologues rather than dialogue. They feel that whatever it is they want to say is
one of the important virtues which parents must encourage children to imbibe.
Read on to find tips for teaching the art of polite conversation.
are prone to interrupting
Children are definitely not born good
conversationalists. As a matter of fact, their self-absorption leads them to
conduct monologues rather than dialogue. They feel that whatever it is they
want to say is of earth-shattering importance and everyone, particularly
parents, should stop whatever they're doing and lend them a
Thus, you will find children blithely interrupting their
parents' telephone conversations, meetings, conversations with their friends
and their work. Parents who are trying to discuss some important issue or
working on files that they have brought home from work find their children intruding
on their thoughts, conversations, time and
You may indulge your children a few times, but
not every time they interrupt you. At some point your annoyance is going to get
the better of you and you will snap at them. Soon, this will become a habit and
they will turn a deaf ear to your protests and continue to interrupt you
thinking that it is their right. You have to get the message across that your
existence and that of other people in the world does not revolve around them.
They must understand that they cannot expect other people's unqualified
attention as their due. In fact, they can only expect that if they return the
favour and listen to what other people have to say too.
Teaching your children to be
Be a good listener yourself. Listen to your child and
guide her so that she knows when she should be listening.
Instead of nagging her or being short with her
when she interrupts, develop a less aggressive way of telling her that she has
to wait. May be you can lay your hand gently on her arm or request her in a
firm, but kind tone to wait.
Remember that she is a child after all, so don't
have unreasonable expectations and make her wait for a long time before you get
back to her. It is well known that patience is a virtue that is rare even in
If she has forgotten what she wanted to
say in the interim, do not be dismissive
and say that it could not have been
important to begin with.
Tell your child not to interrupt you when you
are on the telephone by speaking. Suggest to her that she could tug at your arm
or communicate her need to speak to you in some other non-verbal fashion. Tell
her that you will acknowledge her need to speak to you by gesturing that she
wait so she knows that you have heard her.
If your child still refuses to
learn, then when she interrupts your telephone conversation the next time, remain calm
and ignore her. If possible, go into another room and lock her
If you know that you're about to have an
and want to be safe from interruptions, give your child advance warning that
you're going to be busy for a little while and give her something like a
colouring book or a puzzle that will occupy her for some
You can play a game with your child where you
take turns interrupting each other while the other is trying to say something. This way your child will
learn just how annoying it is to be interrupted.
Your child will learn good manners
if you exhibit them yourself. Hence, if you have to break in on any conversation, make sure
that you say "Excuse
Do not forget to praise your child
when she lets you get on with your work or conversations without interrupting
It is very essential to help
children learn speaking politely. Speaking politely is not only a
characteristic of well mannered person but also a trait of a balanced
individual. Therefore, follow the above tips to the â€˜Tâ€™ to raise your child as
a well spoken and well mannered individual to be successful in
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