Parents do everything for their children out of love. However, sometimes many parents do not realise that doing every single bit for their children will not only make them lazy but also inhibit their ability to do things on their own. Here are some tips for encouraging kids to do their work on their own. All parents love their children, but you dont need to do all your childs work for them in orde
Parents do everything for their children out of
love. However, sometimes many parents do not realise that doing every single
bit for their children will not only make them lazy but also inhibit their ability
to do things on their own. Here are some tips for encouraging kids to do their
work on their own.
All parents love their children, but you don't need to do all your child's work for them in order to prove your love. If anything, you are causing more
harm by increasing your child's dependability on you, and inhibiting
her ability to do things by herself.
Don't do your child's work for them
I've known of parents who sit up all night completing their child's projects while the child is fast asleep.
Similarly, I recently met a mother who was sending off Rakhis to her
daughter's brothers and cousins in the name of her daughter who was at
home lounging around in her sleepwear.
Parents sometimes do everything for their children because they want their children
to focus on their studies. Remember though that the best students often
excel not just in studies, but in extra-curricular activities as well.
They are also organized, and chances are that these students do all
their work themselves, without their parents having to constantly tell them what to do.
Of course all children are different. Very intelligent children
are sometimes not hardworking enough because everything comes so easily
to them. A child may be poor at studies but may excel in sports,
debates or may be very creative.
Encourage hard work
If your child does badly in school and you turn a blind
eye since you have a family business you can hand over to your child,
you are essentially giving your child the message that not only is
education unimportant, but neither is it important for your child to work hard to accomplish something. If your child doesn't work hard and strive to improve his grades, why do you think he will work hard to grow your business?
True, this is not always the case, and students who have done very
badly in school have also proved to be exceptionally successful.
However, the attitude of the parents is important. If schoolwork is not given stress in the house, some other form of hard work should be encouraged - either in sports, art, or some other extra-curricular activity.
Don't push too much
Irrespective of where a child's talents lie, you as a parent should try and encourage your child to do all his work himself. Such habits are fostered at a young age. Having the maid do all yourwork
for your child is not necessarily a bad habit, but your child should
take the initiative to get things done, either by himself or through
others. The difference here is that the push should come from your
child, and not from you. It is better to let your child take a few
falls in the beginning and learn by himself, without you trying to
cushion his falls. So, you can take the initiative to enroll your child
in tennis lessons, and encourage him to participate in a match, but
then don't push your child into going for practice. You can remind him
that he needs more practice, and that the match date is drawing closer,
but leave the decision to him. If your child is not regular with
practice, he may be badly defeated in the match and this will teach him
to be more regular with practice. Alternatively, your child may give up
and try something else, but you will need to tell him that he needs to
be dedicated to do well - and teach him this at the beginning, before
he gets the impression that there are short-cuts to success.
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